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Letting my kids stay home alone?
« on: June 04, 2009, 04:51:07 AM »
I work part-time and my babysitter for the summer has told me she is not going to be available. My oldest is 11yr and she will be in Jr. High next fall, so I am thinking of having her babysit this summer. i have 8yr and 6yr. boys too. I need some suggestions for activities and chores for  safe indoor days while I work two and a half days a week.

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« Reply #1 on: June 04, 2009, 08:00:16 AM »
I don't have kids  ::lookaround::
But 11 sounds like she'll do fine. Hopefully, the others will respect her authority. Maybe you can install a camera-they really aren't that expensive. But to stick to the subject, it all depends on what your kids like. If they enjoy being creative, I would get them art & crafts activities, you can buy them books to read, or video/pc games (there are many educational ones around), movies to pass the time.
It's great you'll only be gone 2 and a half days. My eldest sister is 8 yrs older and she took care of the two of us often because my mother had two jobs. She was a nurse, but needed to work extra to afford everything. Good luck with your little ones  ::smile::

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« Reply #2 on: June 04, 2009, 08:55:16 AM »
In the UK I think it is  it is illegal for a child under 12 to be home alone looking after other children. so it maybe worth finding out about the USA. Personally I wouldnt have left my three alone at those ages, unless it was for 30 mis while I poppped to the shops or something. However I know it is hard for you. is there a mamber of your family or another friend who could help out?
A friend of mine who has 4 kids has only just started letting her eldest babysit while they go out in the evenings, and she is 17, but maybe that is the other extreme.

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« Reply #3 on: June 04, 2009, 09:29:52 AM »
Definitely check the laws where you live - you don't want to put yourself in a bad situation legally.

You know your kid - our oldest is 19, and when he was 11 we would have had no problem letting him watch his little brothers.  But our son who is 11 right now - there's no way I would let him watch is 8 and 4 yr old brothers.

If you think your daughter can handle it, it's legal in your state, and you have a close proximity emergency contact if the unforeseen happens, I don't see a problem with it.

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« Reply #4 on: June 04, 2009, 10:33:46 AM »
A close emergency contact is very important.  ::nodding::

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« Reply #5 on: June 05, 2009, 12:47:15 AM »
A neighbor that you trust could go check on the kids once in a while...that is if it is legal where you live though and if your daughter is mature enough to handle her younger siblings...

It is illegal in the Province of Quebec as well for a child under the age of 12 to babysit...

My daughter certainly wasn't mature enough to be left alone in the house yet when she was 14 years old...

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« Reply #6 on: June 05, 2009, 02:34:34 AM »
Definitely check the laws where you live - you don't want to put yourself in a bad situation legally.

You know your kid - our oldest is 19, and when he was 11 we would have had no problem letting him watch his little brothers.  But our son who is 11 right now - there's no way I would let him watch is 8 and 4 yr old brothers.

If you think your daughter can handle it, it's legal in your state, and you have a close proximity emergency contact if the unforeseen happens, I don't see a problem with it.


 My eldest was really responsible and brilliant with his younger sisters but it wouldnt have been him that concerned me, it would be any unforseen emergencies, such as an accident happening to one of them or maybe the house catching fire or whatever. That is why I could never have left them alone at that age, especially all day.

 In the uK we have some holiday play schemes that they can go to that dont cost too much. Do you have anything like that? Or maybe do you have some annual holiday that you could take? Not sure if you have a husband but some of my friends have a couple of weeks off each to look after the children in the holidays.

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« Reply #7 on: June 13, 2009, 11:05:24 PM »
I work part-time and my babysitter for the summer has told me she is not going to be available. My oldest is 11yr and she will be in Jr. High next fall, so I am thinking of having her babysit this summer. i have 8yr and 6yr. boys too. I need some suggestions for activities and chores for  safe indoor days while I work two and a half days a week.

is it  legal in your state to leave a 11 year and 8 year  old,  home alone?

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« Reply #8 on: August 12, 2009, 09:32:54 AM »
I work part-time and my babysitter for the summer has told me she is not going to be available. My oldest is 11yr and she will be in Jr. High next fall, so I am thinking of having her babysit this summer. i have 8yr and 6yr. boys too. I need some suggestions for activities and chores for  safe indoor days while I work two and a half days a week.

Don,t know what you are doing now? But regardless of your state laws do you trust your 11 year old enough to rescue the younger kid regardless of the circumstances? fire,Break in,deep cuts ect?    My son has a telephone and he knows all our numbers. he is 11 yrs.  However I would not trust him to be home with his 7 year old brother.  Relatives or a close freind near by would be a better option.    WWJD  (what would Jesus do?)


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« Reply #9 on: August 15, 2009, 03:01:34 PM »
i think it depends on the kids but i would not, to much could go wrong.

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Re: Letting my kids stay home alone?
« Reply #10 on: August 15, 2009, 09:13:27 PM »
I left a baby, a seven-year-old and an extremely mature eleven-year-old alone under very limited circumstances, infrequently.  Then, when they were a little older, I left a toddler, an eight-year-old and a very mature 12-year-old alone.  Still under very specific circumstances.  More usual to arrange for a nearby neighbor to babysit.

Things may work out if you know what your kids are like... Even if you make sure the eldest is "legal" to stay home alone, so much depends upon your particular kids. And even if you think all your ducks are in a row, there's always the unforseen emergency.  They really need telephone access to you, and immediate access to a trusted neighbor, in case something happens they are unequal to dealing with.

Some adults fall apart in emergencies, you know.  We expect a lot of our kids.  Sure, there are very very young children caring for younger siblings over in lands ravaged by war and famine and disease, and thank God for them.  But when we hear the sad yet heroic tales of these youngsters, we don't usually hear about all their little cousins and neighbors who have not survived the emergency.

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« Reply #11 on: August 16, 2009, 03:20:59 AM »
 Wow, if she is mature enough. That is much responsiblity for an eleven year old. I would pay her, if she did the work, so she would not be resentful.

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« Reply #12 on: August 24, 2009, 12:16:56 PM »
Don't do it...my neighbor left his 13 year old boy at home one Friday whilst he and his wife went out.  The boy decided to have some friends over (of course he forgot to call his parents).  Somehow one of the friends got ahold of the father's guns that were locked up in a cabinet.  He loaded it and went thru the house playing with around with it..until it went off and killed another of the boys there.

The father went to jail for 2 years for something that he had nothing to do with and wasn't even around for.

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« Reply #13 on: September 10, 2009, 11:29:17 AM »
When I was seperated from my DH & didn't have money for daycare I let my 11 y/o, 10 y/o & 7 y/o stay home alone while I worked 40 hours over the summer.  My 11 y/o was very mature.  I had strict guidelines & rules that I knew she'd follow. 

I also had a 4 y/o but she went to daycare.

I found out it was illegal after the fact.  They must be 12 in my state to babysit or be left home alone. 

However, I worked 2 miles up the road...easy to get home.  And I had a SAHM next door neighbor who was also a nurse that kept an eye on them.  She checked in every day at dinner to make sure they were okay warming up the meal I had left them & then helped my 11 y/o get all the kids settled in for a 2 hour rest time. 

If they had an emergency or my oldest DD was having trouble w/the others she was available to her. 

There were times here & there that she was gone for a day here or there or a few hours...I was close by & they also had emergency numbers for other family members.

BTW - my 11 y/o did a fabulous job babysitting.  She didn't mind at all & she & our 2nd oldest have been our summer sitters every since.

However, I have an 11 y/o now that I would never let babysit our youngest the 4 y/o.  That's because she herself would be terrified to do it. 

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« Reply #14 on: September 10, 2009, 12:37:28 PM »


  In 1935 my family lived in Denver.  My mother took in boarders.  There was one single mother with two children. A six year old girl named Maxine and an infant less than a year old.  The father was dead.  The six year old girl took care of her brother while her mother worked.  Of course I think my mother probably really watched over both of em.  But Maxine wasn't aware of it. Actually
the six year old did a remarkable job feeding,changing diapers ,bathing, the whole bit. Six years was not to young under exigent
circumstances.  GOD Bless.    ::smile::