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need suggestions on how to handle dd friend
« on: May 14, 2011, 10:29:06 PM »
My daughter is 7 yrs old and in 2nd grade and comes home almost daily in tears, she has this friend and she's a jahova witness(sp)  she continues to tell my daughter they can't be friends because my daughter doesn't believe what the friend does then the next day will tell dd that it was a joke. this friend also EVERY friday asks is my dd can spend the night, i ALWAYS say no because friday nights and saturday mornings this friend goes to her "meetings" I don't want to confuse my daughter anymore than she is. Her friend thinks i don't like her because my daughter isn't allowed over on friday or saturdays. What do i do about this?? the mom doesn't speak english and i don't speak spanish so i can't talk to the mom.

WTA: i can't do much til thursday because they are in the talent show together til then.

any advice would be helpful

I am a mommy to 4. Jacob is 11 ,Madisen is 10, Amelia is 7 and Hannah is 5.

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Re: need suggestions on how to handle dd friend
« Reply #1 on: May 15, 2011, 08:03:38 AM »
Mamato4,

It sounds like the Lord has put it on your heart that there's confusion involved in this.  It's wrong (as you know) for the other girl to 'joke' to your daughter about why they cannot hang out.  Unfortunately, they're young and do not understand what's going on here spiritually - but you do.  The concern that I see here is how that 'joke' was used to cause pain and rejection to come on your daughter.  Pray to the Lord on how to break that from her.  I think it's the right decision to distance them from each other.  Don't be concerned about what others think (that's fear of man); be concerned on what the Lord thinks and what He is showing you here.  The Lord knows what is going on in the spirit realm with this and the effects of it, if it continues to manifest.  I would suggest for you to grow in your understanding of spiritual warfare and learn by the Lord, on how to pray and take authority in the Spirit, for your child.  Her heart and soul is more important here.  And also, it may be helpful to find a good Christian childrens' book that covers these issues for children - on how to handle them.  This could be an opportunity for you to study with your child and review these situations with her, from a Christian standpoint so she can feel strong in her faith and understanding.

Eph. 6:12; 2 Cor. 10:3-4

Lord, I ask that you release Your Holy Spirit in greater power and authority upon Mamato4 and her daughter; that You would impart greater wisdom and understanding of Your ways; you would increase their faith and boldness to walk in the Spirit; that you would break any of the strongholds and plots of the enemy towards this family; and cover them in the blood of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

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« Reply #2 on: May 15, 2011, 10:12:34 AM »
Mamato4,

It sounds like the Lord has put it on your heart that there's confusion involved in this.  It's wrong (as you know) for the other girl to 'joke' to your daughter about why they cannot hang out.  Unfortunately, they're young and do not understand what's going on here spiritually - but you do.  The concern that I see here is how that 'joke' was used to cause pain and rejection to come on your daughter.  Pray to the Lord on how to break that from her.  I think it's the right decision to distance them from each other.  Don't be concerned about what others think (that's fear of man); be concerned on what the Lord thinks and what He is showing you here.  The Lord knows what is going on in the spirit realm with this and the effects of it, if it continues to manifest.  I would suggest for you to grow in your understanding of spiritual warfare and learn by the Lord, on how to pray and take authority in the Spirit, for your child.  Her heart and soul is more important here.  And also, it may be helpful to find a good Christian childrens' book that covers these issues for children - on how to handle them.  This could be an opportunity for you to study with your child and review these situations with her, from a Christian standpoint so she can feel strong in her faith and understanding.

Eph. 6:12; 2 Cor. 10:3-4

Lord, I ask that you release Your Holy Spirit in greater power and authority upon Mamato4 and her daughter; that You would impart greater wisdom and understanding of Your ways; you would increase their faith and boldness to walk in the Spirit; that you would break any of the strongholds and plots of the enemy towards this family; and cover them in the blood of Jesus Christ of Nazareth.

js


Thank you very much for your reply. Tomarrow after i take the kiddo's to school  i will go by the bible bookstore and see what i can find, might even pick up a bible for my daughter... she  uses mine and my husbands right now.

again thank you!
I am a mommy to 4. Jacob is 11 ,Madisen is 10, Amelia is 7 and Hannah is 5.

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« Reply #3 on: May 15, 2011, 06:58:46 PM »
Mamato4,

Sounds like a great idea and that you heard from the Lord about the Bible for your daughter.  I thought He was going to have me suggest that, but He didn't.  Now I know why...you heard for yourself.  Just wanted to throw these book suggestions out for your daughter (I happen to have a very good friend that works in a Christian bookstore and she gave me some suggestions about this) - so I thought I'd pass them along.

They are:
"The Christian Girl's Guide to Friendship," by Kathy Widenhouse
"I am Loved:  Celebrating God's Incredible Love for You," by Sheila Walsh

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« Reply #4 on: May 16, 2011, 04:10:37 PM »
Those are great suggestions, I don't think I can top it! I was just going to add that it might be great to discuss with your daughter how she can bring up things that she and her friend have in common instead of focusing on the differences.  They both believe Jesus is their Lord, they are both girls, I'm sure they love lots of the same types of girly things, etc.
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« Reply #5 on: May 28, 2011, 03:05:53 PM »
One of the hardest things also can be the saying of " Do not be yoked with unbelievers"  At this point, unfortunately, the young lady believes in "jesus" but not Jesus Christ.  There is a big difference unfortunately.  You are right to not allow her to spend the night at this child's house on ANY night.  These familie are pushed to be missionaries at all times to all peoples.  Your child will never be safe in that home to spiritual warfare.  When I was young and walking home from Cathoic Grade School, the Jehovah's Witnesses would try to pull us over to the side and talk to us from grade 1-8.  They did not care that we were children and did not have parents there.  Your child could be at risk if there was an older child, neighbor, or relative there that spoke English and started to "brain wash" your child if she visits.  You need to decide if this child is someone that your child should actually be encouraged to be with. First of all because of some of her actions she has already presented which has emotionally hurt your child.  Secondly because with cults, there can be demonic forces involved which can cause religious confusion in children (and adults too). This is something to think about.  If you do not know everything that is believed in the Jehovah's, then you may want to research it a little to see just what your child could be taught if around this other child.
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« Reply #6 on: May 28, 2011, 09:27:44 PM »
One of the hardest things also can be the saying of " Do not be yoked with unbelievers"  At this point, unfortunately, the young lady believes in "jesus" but now Jesus Christ.  There is a big difference unfortunately.  You are right to not allow her to spend the night at this child's house on ANY night.  These familie are pushed to be missionaries at all times to all peoples.  Your child will never be safe in that home to spiritual warfare.  When I was young and walking home from Cathoic Grade School, the Jehovah's Witnesses would try to pull us over to the side and talk to us from grade 1-8.  They did not care that we were children and did not have parents there.  Your child could be at risk if there was an older child, neighbor, or relative there that spoke English and started to "brain wash" your child if she visits.  You need to decide if this child is someone that your child should actually be encouraged to be with. First of all because of some of her actions she has already presented which has emotionally hurt your child.  Secondly because with cults, there can be demonic forces involved which can cause religious confusion in children (and adults too). This is something to think about.  If you do not know everything that is believed in the Jehovah's, then you may want to research it a little to see just what your child could be taught if around this other child.
God bless.

Thank you so much  for your input!. at this point i have told my daughter MAKE new friends,ones that wont call you names or put you down. I was informed on thursday that this so called friend called my daughter fat! my daughter is not fat,she is a skinny minny like her brother and sisters.My daughter told me that this girl (i wont use her name here) told my daughter to go away she didn't want to play with her ect this was thursday!. so on friday when i picked up my daughter from school i told this girl that i didn't think it was a good idea that they played togeather anymore. i've just had enough. she looked at me shocked. i said ( don't know if i was wrong to do so!) i told her that until she can be nice to my daughter,quit calling her names,putting her down and telling her they cant be friends ect. then they are not to play anymore.I didn't put the religeon in there because shes a child herself and not sure what she understands. She hasn't called here yet so far. If i need to i will call the older sister,shes 18and speaks SOME english and i will discuss the issues with her to let her know where i stand on all this.

I am so glad school ends on friday for the summer so they will not be seeing each other at all..til August.

sorry for the ramble.. i dont know what else to do.. I KNOW what those ppl are like. i hate to say it but they are awful when it comes to telling them NO it's like NO isnt in their vocab!

I bought my daughter the books that were recomended to me and she LOVES them, she wants more! so when i can i will order more of those books.

Again thank you all for the suggestions and replys they mean alot!

Heather
I am a mommy to 4. Jacob is 11 ,Madisen is 10, Amelia is 7 and Hannah is 5.

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« Reply #7 on: May 28, 2011, 09:54:50 PM »
My daughter is 7 yrs old and in 2nd grade and comes home almost daily in tears, she has this friend and she's a jahova witness(sp)  she continues to tell my daughter they can't be friends because my daughter doesn't believe what the friend does then the next day will tell dd that it was a joke. this friend also EVERY friday asks is my dd can spend the night, i ALWAYS say no because friday nights and saturday mornings this friend goes to her "meetings" I don't want to confuse my daughter anymore than she is. Her friend thinks i don't like her because my daughter isn't allowed over on friday or saturdays. What do i do about this?? the mom doesn't speak english and i don't speak spanish so i can't talk to the mom.

WTA: i can't do much til thursday because they are in the talent show together til then.

any advice would be helpful




The other girl is probably not actually joking.  She is probably repeating what her parents told her, but then she regrets it the next day. 

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