Please help me save my son!

[jamiewx]

He read this horrendous book called "My Knife" by Jose Abreu and now refuses to go to church, only wants to smoke weed. I don't know how to drag him out of his room, he's already bigger than me.

[MeMyself]

He read this horrendous book called "My Knife" by Jose Abreu and now refuses to go to church, only wants to smoke weed. I don't know how to drag him out of his room, he's already bigger than me.

How old is he?  Is his dad in the picture?  Does he have an older male family friend that he looks up to that could mentor and come alongside him?

As far as helping you save your son...I know this sounds like a "pat" answer, but prayer!  LOTS and LOTS of prayer!  Get your friends to pray, put it on the prayer chain at Church.  Prayer changes things.

James 5:16 Therefore confess your sins to each other and pray for each other so that you may be healed. The prayer of a righteous man is powerful and effective.

I am so sorry you are living this pain.

I don't know anything about the book to comment on that.   

[jamiewx]

Thank you very much for the advice and kind words. I will make sure to pray for him and myself daily as well. I know it is said all the time, but the Lord truly does work in mysterious ways. I hope that he will eventually lead my son on the right path to salvation and rebirth. I hope that he stays off of that one drug. One time he threw a fit and nearly pulled a knife on me. It's all that unholy books fault. I hope the devil takes the book back with him to burn in the fires of hell and keeps it away from us good Christian people. Peace and Godbless.

[Uplifted420]

 
Don't push him cause he's only gonna push back harder and you might lose him forever because I've been down that path with my dad and I haven't talked to him for 7 years
I won't get into details but I found out he was a major hypocrite and wouldn't owe up to the things he did in the past my mom however (they're divorced) laid everything out when I asked about her past and now I have a terrific relastionship with my mother. I guess the moral of the story is to let him find his own path and hope he takes the right one. I know I did because I dont appreciate anybody who lies to me as it is a sign of great disrespect.

[FreeIndeed]

First off satan is not Gods equal nor will he ever be. That goes for every demonic creature out there as well. This is also a worldly deception used by the enemy. The devil wants us to believe he is Gods equal because he wants your faith in God to weakend. This book your talking about sounds silly. If you treat it as if it has some sort of power then it will. Your fear of it is probably also recognized by your son. He might even be using it to get under your skin. My advice to you is 'relax'. That book is in no way more powerful then God or His word. God's word does not go away void. Which means everything else does including that dumb book.

Isaiah 55:11
 So shall My word be that goes forth from My mouth; It shall not return to Me void, But it shall accomplish what I please, And it shall prosper in the thing for which I sent it.

This verse is awesome! Rejoice in it! Everytime we preach the good news about Christ we plant a seed. There will be a return on your investment. Believe me. No don't believe me believe God!

Don't put value into those things that are not godly. You give power to the enemy.

Now I am not sure how old your son is but if he is living in your house and especially if he is under age take charge. Tell him such literature will not be welcomed under your roof. Just like drugs should not be allowed.

I had a friend a single mom who had to small children and one on the way when her husband left her. She has raised her kids all by herself. Her son in his teenage years beat her up and refused to listen to her. I told her she needs to show her son who is in charge by sending him on a missionary trip or bootcamp. Your the parent and you have a say what school they go to even. Now she didn't have any money but she used her health insurance through work that offered a free Month at a home for boys in Montana. He was sent on a plane away. That put the fear in him. But also it helped him. She did not tell him the duration of his trip either. But this boy was in and out of jail for beating her up and doing unlawful things to others.Something needed to be done. He is now older and married with a son. He joined the army too. The kid went back to school and is doing great. This family is not even Christian. But imagine what God can do. He can do so much more.

In my opinion it sounds like he is trying to ruffle your feathers with this book and refusing to go to church. Be firm but in your firmness be forgiving and loving. God will be your strength.
I will pray for you and your son. God Bless

[starsoutside]

Get him a rare religious book out of those little stores that sell books pretaining only to your christian sect and have him read it. Just leave it in his room. With some prayer cards. It works on me every time!  And no I don't smoke weed!

[ollie]

He read this horrendous book called "My Knife" by Jose Abreu and now refuses to go to church, only wants to smoke weed. I don't know how to drag him out of his room, he's already bigger than me.

What makes you think a book about alcoholics in South Korea would cause such actions from your son?
 Perhaps you should dig deeper and see if their are not other things in his life, family or otherwise, or your relationship with him that might cause such.
Dragging him out of his room would not be good. Going in and sitting down and talking with him with agape might be good. Perhaps even hugging him, overlooking the weed for now.  Attitude and what is witnessed through your reaction is everything and if done in love, gentleness and kind affection, the nurture and admonition of the Lord, perhaps even the weed will pass. The boy may not be driven to wrath against you.
 
Ephesians 6:4, Proverbs 19:18
 
 
ollie

[Willie T]

Get him a rare religious book out of those little stores that sell books pretaining only to your christian sect and have him read it. Just leave it in his room. With some prayer cards. It works on me every time!  And no I don't smoke weed!

You talking about those little cards with the pansy religious pictures on one side?  I suspect that this just might not be the most welcome thing to do at this point.

[apostle]

Jamie--
Not enough detail here for anyone to provide much of a prescription, but there are some principles to remember:

Prayer is a powerful thing.

You cannot abdicate your parental responsibilities just because your child says no, whether he's two or twenty.  Simply blaming the devil will NOT help your son.

Don't get isolated.  If you are physically afraid of your son, get large (enough) male backup for things that you decide must be done.
 
Don't enable ungodly behavior. 

It makes a big difference how old your son is.  If he's twelve, that's one thing.  If he's seventeen, a whole different set of rules and strategies must be applied.

Get direct and qualified help, not online help.  I know it's embarrassing to admit that one has a child who is out of control, but you need real people in real time.  Strangers on a chat board (like me) can encourage you and pray for you, but we don't know enough to give specific advice and you don't know us well enough to know if you should take our advice.