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Offline GloryB

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Pregnancy and my teenage daughter....yes it can happen!
« on: Sat Mar 22, 2008 - 20:15:05 »
In January of 2007, I got the shock of my life.   My beautiful 17 year old daughter told me she was pregnant.  To make it worse, she was pregnant from a 15 year old boy.  I'm a single mom with a limited income and I was thinking finances, room, baby in the house, confusion, what will everyone think, what about her scholarships, ....etc.  I truly know what it feels like to have 'your greatest fear come upon you'. 

For the first month I began to understand why young girls have abortions with  parental blessing.  I even approached her on this.  She was fully determined to have and keep this baby.  I didn't even pray for the baby....I was hoping God would just change His mind and the pregnancy would end early.  Sounds harsh....but it wouldn't be an honest story if I didn't tell it honestly.

It was a long year.  There were some wonderful days....and some awful days. Most teens don't realize that having a baby does not make them an adult.  My daughter spent more time picking out a name than planning out how she was going to financially take care of him.  We did end up moving and put together a wonderful nursery.

My beautiful Grandson, Israel, was born in August. I love him with all of my heart!!  My daughter was given some inheritance money early so she could live at home and go to college.  Instead, she packed up and moved into an apartment with her boyfriend who is now 16 years old.   They bought a car and a lot of nice things.  They did not save any of the over $20,000 she had.  She has a stupid low paying job and he, since he doesn't work or go to school, is babysitting while she is gone. As far as I can tell....they do take very good care of the baby...but have no real long range goals. 

I said all that to say this.......if somewhere in my heart I could find peace in this whole fiasco.....I know Jesus is definitely the giver of great peace.  This would not be attained by my own hot flashing pre-menopausal self.

As a mom, I just wanted to encourage all other moms.  If the day ever comes that your wonderful child goes completely opposite from what you wanted for them......just be in peace and know that God is God.  It isn't the end of the world and it isn't something you won't be able to face.  You are not alone.

Normal doesn't matter anymore....it's simply getting from point A to point B in a world you can't control....but with a peace you can receive.  

I felt someone out there needed to hear that today.  Feel free to PM me.  



  

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Pregnancy and my teenage daughter....yes it can happen!
« on: Sat Mar 22, 2008 - 20:15:05 »

Offline Jon-Marc

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Re: Pregnancy and my teenage daughter....yes it can happen!
« Reply #1 on: Sun Mar 23, 2008 - 12:52:25 »
My younger daughter who is now 34 was pregnant for the first time at age 15. Fortunately, it was a miscarriage. The second one (still as a teen) was still-born. After she got married, she had four beautiful and healthy children (3 boys and 1 girl).

I said to her the first time, "Well, it makes me disappointed in you, but it doesn't make me love you any less." I can't understand parents who reject their daughters because of a teen pregnancy, but it does happen.

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Re: Pregnancy and my teenage daughter....yes it can happen!
« Reply #2 on: Sun Mar 23, 2008 - 20:12:54 »
 kids today in this day and age, you never know what is going to happen. with all the capabilities a Child has access today, with the influence of other friends among them your child can be a ticking Time bomb just waiting to happen..

There is no such thing as a Guarantee in life. but we can try to take preventable measures.  . . Parents need to teach their kids The LOrd and what He says about Sex and when A person should be ready for it. to not be peer pressured by other kids at school.   .

as being a teen in school many can feel pressured if they are a virgin they are being left out of the crowd.  . . . sometimes it's just all about wanting to fit in. then everyone is doing it kind of thing..

among that can come other dangers like smoking Cigarettes, doing Drugs and getting in lots of trouble. .

many kids are not around their parents enough. or not aware of all the things their friends are doing when they go out. many kids think it is cool to hide stuff from the parents they dont know about. but know they will get in big trouble if they get caught.  .

. dont let your child become a Jerry Springer  kind of kid. 

As GOd LOves us He will teach and correct us. no matter how much it hurts Children need correcting of doing the right things. . Correct with LOve, but not with hitting and Abuse. . . dont let them use the excuse you did it when you were younger. yes but you got in trouble for it too. .

if Children did not listen try bringing them to a Christian Counselor to sit down with you and your child or Children.  . to have them resolve ways that can help your chld from getting into big disasters before it is too late.   .

There is no  guarantee. but trying is better than doing nothing at all. GOD knows when we try and when Children still want to rebel.  ::idea::

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