In January of 2007, I got the shock of my life. My beautiful 17 year old daughter told me she was pregnant. To make it worse, she was pregnant from a 15 year old boy. I'm a single mom with a limited income and I was thinking finances, room, baby in the house, confusion, what will everyone think, what about her scholarships, ....etc. I truly know what it feels like to have 'your greatest fear come upon you'.
For the first month I began to understand why young girls have abortions with parental blessing. I even approached her on this. She was fully determined to have and keep this baby. I didn't even pray for the baby....I was hoping God would just change His mind and the pregnancy would end early. Sounds harsh....but it wouldn't be an honest story if I didn't tell it honestly.
It was a long year. There were some wonderful days....and some awful days. Most teens don't realize that having a baby does not make them an adult. My daughter spent more time picking out a name than planning out how she was going to financially take care of him. We did end up moving and put together a wonderful nursery.
My beautiful Grandson, Israel, was born in August. I love him with all of my heart!! My daughter was given some inheritance money early so she could live at home and go to college. Instead, she packed up and moved into an apartment with her boyfriend who is now 16 years old. They bought a car and a lot of nice things. They did not save any of the over $20,000 she had. She has a stupid low paying job and he, since he doesn't work or go to school, is babysitting while she is gone. As far as I can tell....they do take very good care of the baby...but have no real long range goals.
I said all that to say this.......if somewhere in my heart I could find peace in this whole fiasco.....I know Jesus is definitely the giver of great peace. This would not be attained by my own hot flashing pre-menopausal self.
As a mom, I just wanted to encourage all other moms. If the day ever comes that your wonderful child goes completely opposite from what you wanted for them......just be in peace and know that God is God. It isn't the end of the world and it isn't something you won't be able to face. You are not alone.
Normal doesn't matter anymore....it's simply getting from point A to point B in a world you can't control....but with a peace you can receive.
I felt someone out there needed to hear that today. Feel free to PM me.