The proverbs are there as instruction and to guide us in all things concerning God and life.
If you cannot trust the Proverbs, then you certainly can't trust some "Child care professional" who got their education at some liberal college that probably never mentioned a Holy and righteous God to them in the FOUR years they learned to care for the child that GOD GAVE TO YOU to raise.
Putting the responsibility of "experience" and "guidance" for our children's future and eternity on to someone we don't know, educated by someone we never met, so that we can take our hands off of what God gave us to to do is very irresponsible.
I had a respected, published Dr tell me once... "No one is more of an expert with your child than you"... which says it all for me. Child care people don't tell me how to raise my child, I tell them.
And if a spanking is violence in your home, then you have no business spanking your child, you need to realize that you did not take GOD'S FULL counsel into consideration and go back to the drawing board.
The "ROD" ... was not the STAFF or LARGE STICK that you spank with.. it was as a switch... a reed or stalk of growth by the side of the river... And I know from experience as a child, a rod or switch on the buttock of a kid with pants on, will make them jump... it's not abuse. It stings... but not nearly as much as the sting of spiritual death will should you neglect to be the parent that God has called you to be in life. People need to grow up.
A few years ago... We had a great uproar about the American kid who was getting spanked in Singapore for his crimes... Hey... if you go to Singapore where they cane you, you don't need a gun to walk the streets at night. The parental respect is off the charts. Just a thought.
The fact that a Doctor told you that no one is more of an expert on your child than you is true to a point, but there still are many terrible parents out there who are definately not experts on how to raise their children, and are inconsistant, hit them for every little tiny thing, and their children are still badly behaved.In my experience, many kids whose parents inflict corporal punishment on them, grow up resentful and angry.Kids who are hot a lot, often tend to hit other children.
The Bible tells us to discipline our children, but if we cant think of the many ways to do this without hitting/beating them then it dosnt say much for us. Consistent, firm, loving discipline with boundaries set doesnt need to involve hitting.if you can do this without hitting, then why hit them? There are so many other ways.
As for the word 'rod' there are several meanings/translations for the word rod in the Bible, and I will post them when I have them to hand.I stil come back to the use and meaning of the word rod in the 23rd psalm, it was never meant for hittng but for guiding and leading.
I have friends who never hit their children and they grew up to be polite really nice and well bahaved kids. Others kids whose parents hit/smacked them a lot were naughtly and badly behaved.So what does this say? It often doesnt work.
Those of you who say smacking is ok, would you use a belt, a cane or something else? My husbands mum(a Christian) used to beat him with the buckle end of a belt and to think of it makes me cringe.