I just post this up but at this point we will be filing the paperwork for a divorce, so it would take a miracle. I feel sad about filing for a divorce and wish it could be different but im afraid that im being used and it wont stop. My husband also has severe ADHD and I am stressed living with him and dont have much peace, i cant sleep at night as he is up and noisey. He hasnt been able to keep a job the 3 years weve been married. I pay all the bills, do most the cooking and cleaning. With his ADHD he is severely messy and this also stresses me out. He also stopped having sex with me after 3 mo of marriage. He says "because of abuse in his childhood" but still how much can a gal deal with, being the main provider, no sex life, and also he doesnt help out around the house that much, and I cant sleep at night which makes me sick. Ive tried living away from him a few days a week, that seems to help, but i cant just seperate because he is so irresponsible with money i get letters from people he has made angry by not showing up for appointments or paying the bill on time. I do still love him despite it all and am open to being back with him someday if he can get his act together, take care of himself and try to take care of me for a change. Anyways, thanks for your prayers. btw, i am a Christian, he is not. Also, he is from another country and I struggle feeling like he is just using me and killing time to be here and gain citizenship.