I'm GodivaChan, new to the forum. I've been married for two years, no children just yet. :)
Both my husband and I work full-time and I have been with this job for 6 years.
I have been having problems with a man at my work for over a year and a half. He got moved to my
department about 2 years ago and at first things started well. There's mostly females in our department,
and only two males (he being one of them). In the beginning he was very nice, a gentleman to the gals in the group,
would open up the door for us out of courtesy, was friendly etc. Would listen
really intently to our conversations when we were talking to him. Like giving us hugs, touching us on the arm.
And we just thought it was a part of his culture since he is not from
the United States. Then things in his behavior and attitude started to change within 6 months of him being in our department.
He started acting really short with us, impatient, demanding things from us so he can process his work, rude and aggressive
body language. He even went so far as to start badmouthing the girls in his department or "throwing us under the bus" when
there was some sort of error/discrepancy with someones work. He would immediately blame us. I thought that he was stressed.
At one point he told one of the girls that "So and so is going to kick your (a-word)!"
The badmouthing and gossiping that he was doing got so out of hand (he would gossip
within earshot) that I took it to Human Resources. They spoke with him and his manager
and things calmed down...for a short time. Now he's on this revenge rampage against me because I sounded the alarm
while the others girls stayed quiet. He's follows me throughout the day, constantly tries to distract me by talking really loud
behind my head. Stares at me and tries to invade my personal space by blocking me cubicle or pretending he's reading a text
on his cell phone just so he can glare at blocking my cubicle entryway. I talked to my dad about this guy just to get a man's perspective
on this sudden change in behavior, and my dad thinks that he is just mad because we didn't sleep with him. This guy only mistreats
women that he sees in "lower" positions or entry-level while he adores my female supervisor and acts like he is her boyfriend.
In his old department he got written up for pushing a woman in packaging yet he still kept his job!
I feel that God is telling me to forgive him, and I pray that I do, but it is so hard to forgive someone that harasses you every single day
and does not feel bad about it. This guy has a Dr. Jekyll/Mr.Hyde personality...nice one minute, and nasty the next. For no reason. He's
unpredictable. Pray that God will heal my hurt and remove this hatred that I have for this man. Even if he still retaliates towards me. I'm at the point
where I don't care if I lose this job, I'm miserable there. Today I asked (finally) if I could to a different cube. I'm at my wits end! He has damaged my relationships with
some of my colleagues due to his gossiping and lies.