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Offline alaskaken

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prayer for making the right choice
« on: April 24, 2007, 09:29:05 AM »
Hello -

I recently ended an affair, and since that time have seen God work on reconnecting me and my wife in amazing ways.   I have had no desire to reconnect with the other woman since that time.....until today.

I don't know why I have such a strong desire to talk with her today.....please pray that I will NOT. 

Unfortunately, we work in the same building until my transfer goes through.  I know that talking with this woman breaks trust with my wife and that's the last thing I want to do.

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prayer for making the right choice
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Re: prayer for making the right choice
« Reply #1 on: April 24, 2007, 06:23:28 PM »
alaskan, I have prayed for you.

I also want you to know that you still have the freedom to make the choice to ruin what you have going for your future with your wife if you so choose to do what you are already being led by the Spirit away from.

God is not going to force you to do something that your own will has not chosen to stay away from, in the decision you will make.

You have most, if not all of the responsibilty of the choice that you have to make here.

Blessings, Memmy

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Re: prayer for making the right choice
« Reply #2 on: April 24, 2007, 07:34:26 PM »
It's hard.

Maybe I am boring housewife exhibit A -- I don't exactly have a string of hot lovers in the wings, so I can't say anything intelligent about the ups and downs and difficulties of breaking things off, from a personal point of view --

But I have been tempted, and I have given in to temptations, and I have seen the devastation of it, and I have turned my back and run from temptations.  The mechanism of how all this works is the same, IMO, whether we're talking about the "charge" you get out of marital infidelity, or out of wasteful spending, or deliciously scandalous gossip, or whatever other sinful thing it might be.

It might help to try to see with other than your physical eyes.

I'm sure there are positive qualities in that woman or you would not have been drawn to her -- and the same with you for her.  But for the purposes of this exercise imagine this--

That you and she both are covered with a nasty stinking flesh-eating loathesome residue from your sin together.  And every time you and that woman think about each other -- and especially if you and she should even be in the same room --

Imagine the same demons that gleefully painted that... excrement... on you, those same demons are gatheirng in the dark corners of the room, watching you and that woman.  Watching.  Waiting.

They glory in debasing you, you see.

They get an orgiastic sort of pleasure out of writhing around all over the two of you while sin happens.

Now, you may be one of those Chistians who don't believe in evil, or who don't believe in demonic activity.  In which case using your imagination this way is a simple mental exercise to try to create an aversion to the sin(s) of this situation.

I'm not one who sees a demon  under every doily, not at all -- but I do not discount the Prince of Darkness.

I really do think he enjoys our sin.

We need to stop giving him reasons to be happy.

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Re: prayer for making the right choice
« Reply #3 on: April 24, 2007, 07:56:55 PM »
I've been in your wife's shoes, and I can tell you that this isn't going away anytime soon.

I cannot say this strongly enough: GET YOURSELF AWAY FROM THE OTHER WOMAN. NOW.

If it means you have to move, do it. If it is still a temptation, you absolutely must remove yourself from it.

And get counseling.

And read the book Torn Asunder. Read it together, as a couple.

I'll pray for you both.

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Re: prayer for making the right choice
« Reply #4 on: April 25, 2007, 09:00:13 AM »
Thanks to all three of you for your comments and prayers.  In reality, I have been in counseling for 2 months now, have  not spoken to this woman in weeks, and will be out of the building we both work in starting at the end of May. I asked for prayer yesterday simply because I felt some desire to talk to this woman, knew that desire was wrong, and posted a prayer request because I knew I needed prayer. 

Again, thank you for your prayers and comments.

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Re: prayer for making the right choice
« Reply #5 on: April 28, 2007, 11:43:36 PM »
Alaskaken, though I'm reading this days later, I will put you and your wife on my prayer list. Those temptations will come and go. Keep praying and keep focused on God and your commitment to Him and your wife.