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Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 17:43:30 »
Having sex with your spouse in the same room as your 3-month-old baby? I live in a house with 7 people so we share a room with our baby. No one was home but me, hubby, & baby, but I didn't want to move her to a different room, because she was wide awake in her swing but paying no attention to us... I even thought during: 'I don't care if I go to hell this feels too good!' Ugh. :( Was it a sin? I don't even know how I'm going to ask God to forgive me for this one... help... ::sick:: Sorry for being personal

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #1 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 18:50:38 »
No sin. Some may have considered it unwise, but not a sin. My wife and I have done the same thing because there was nowhere else to put the baby. Don't sweat it.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #2 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 18:56:06 »
I used to get my freak-on while my cat was in the room, but i had to put the cat out and shut the door cuz kitty tried to 'get involved' if ya know what I mean.

Well, cat started crying so let her back in then my shorty say its OK but it freaks me out cuz I'm thinking beastie-ality and then i'm all out of the mood.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #3 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 19:08:14 »

      Hy there kelli just how observant do you think a child is at 3 months???   Probably not very.   Its ,(much better[/bat any age  for a child to see demonstrations of affection between its parents than to see and hear its parents screaming and cursing
at each other.  This will harm the child's emotional development.  thank you JESUS,AMEN.      ::smile::

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #4 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 20:55:42 »
Thank you all for your replies.

However, it's just that, while I thought it was a sin, I continued to do it anyway...
That also bothers and worries me.

Please pray for me. :(
Thank you...
« Last Edit: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 21:04:01 by .kelli »

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #5 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 21:22:20 »
However, it's just that, while I thought it was a sin, I continued to do it anyway...
That also bothers and worries me.

Well now, see....you're growing up.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #6 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 22:28:56 »
That is just it...

often times what we are trained to believe is a sin isn't. There are all kinds of legalisms out there that we are taught are sins that really aren't. We are trained to believe that sex must fit inside of a very narrow pattern or else it is a sin. (I am not referring to sexual immorality such as homosexuality or pornography) such as if you don't have sex while your eyes are closed in the missionary position and in absolute darkness it is evil and wicked...

Let me allow you in on a secret. Family houses used to contain only one room. Brothers/sisters and whole families lived and slept in the same room...as well as a few animals like sheep, goats, or donkeys.

Nudity wasn't sexual until the Elizabethan era where covering every part of our anatomy was promoted. It was simply that...nudity. People labored in the nude often with nothing more than either a tiny apron or penis sheath...which is precisely what the Israelites were used to wearing (and nothing else ever) when they left Egypt. Clothing articles such as undergarments and outer clothes such as the robes we are used to seeing them wear in all of the movies or plays was more than they ever owned while slaves. Nudity was shameful in that you were too poor to own clothes.

sexual relations between a husband and wife were seen as normal and positives (although not on display) and were not hidden from everyone as something shameful.

We have come a long long way from that. We have made what God gave us something which is beautiful and a miracle and made it something secret, mysterious, shameful and sin filled.

And right now the two of you continuing to give each other your hearts, minds, and bodies is something wonderful...even in light of a new person in your household which takes up both of yours time and energy.  
« Last Edit: Fri Jul 17, 2009 - 06:31:06 by JohnDB »

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #7 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 23:48:58 »
I even thought during: 'I don't care if I go to hell this feels too good!'
^ But what about this? ^

What do you mean, HR?

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #8 on: Thu Jul 16, 2009 - 23:51:47 »
I even thought during: 'I don't care if I go to hell this feels too good!'
^ But what about this? ^

What do you mean, HR?

You knew (thought?) there was something wrong with what you were doing, and it bothered you.
Better that than thinking there was something wrong with it, and it not bothering you.

Are you supposed to be perfect?

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #9 on: Fri Jul 17, 2009 - 09:40:12 »
I think you should control the thought life-- about thinking if its a sin you'll do it anyway.  That's a dangerous line of reasoning.

As far as having sex with a baby in the room-- I sure hope not.  I lived in some cramp quarters.  My wife and I usually got amorous the baby was asleep if we could help it.  Otherwise, we tried to stay out of view. 

I remember the parable where the guy knocks on the neighbors door for bread at night.  He said he and his family was asleep.  i read they all used to lay together on the floor of a one room building.  Somehow the couples had to figure out a way to discreetly or not copulate when the kids weren't asleep if they were to keep up the population.  I don't see a problem with making love to your God-given wife if you stay out of view of the kids.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #10 on: Fri Jul 17, 2009 - 14:23:20 »
The sin is not the sex with the baby in the room.
The sin comes from saying you dont care if you go to hell for it.
Hopefully you were kidding and can repent for your bad choice of words.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #11 on: Fri Jul 17, 2009 - 23:45:46 »
Hopefully you were kidding and can repent for your bad choice of words.
What do you mean, hopefully?
Is there a chance I ruined everything for myself by thinking that?

I don't think I was kidding at the time... when all was said & done, I regretted what I thought, and wish I'd never thought it...

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #12 on: Fri Jul 17, 2009 - 23:48:17 »
Hopefully you were kidding and can repent for your bad choice of words.
What do you mean, hopefully?
Is there a chance I ruined everything for myself by thinking that?

No.  You can relax.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #13 on: Fri Jul 17, 2009 - 23:49:34 »
No.  You can relax.
But I don't think I was kidding at the time... now I really regret what I did...

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #14 on: Fri Jul 17, 2009 - 23:55:48 »
Salvation isn't a "He loves me, He loves me not..." deal, and we're not constantly jumping into or out of it.

The fact that you regret it, and I would guess you won't repeat it, is proof that your standing with God is intact and working properly.

Remember Romans 8:1, there is no longer any condemnation for you as a believer.  Conviction from the Holy Spirit, yes - Condemnation, no.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #15 on: Sat Jul 18, 2009 - 00:10:49 »
But I've done that sooo many times before.
I mean, those times were a little different in that I sinned just because I thought I could ask for forgiveness later...

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #16 on: Sat Jul 18, 2009 - 00:22:08 »
Oh. Well, you're probably going to burn forever in the gaping maw, then.

Sorry.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #17 on: Tue Jul 21, 2009 - 07:32:13 »
Hi Kelli,

I think you're getting yourself too worked up about it.  Just ask God for forgiveness and move on.  Your obviously sorry.  If you feel it's wrong to 'do it' in front of the child, than ask God to show you how you can get around the lack of privacy issue.  Remember, He's on our side.  Ask him to help you out.  He will.  :)

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #18 on: Tue Jul 21, 2009 - 21:31:54 »
Who has not. I mean hotel stays.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #19 on: Wed Jul 22, 2009 - 19:50:53 »
Can't you just point the baby swing the other direction and do it quietly?

I don't think we should dangle your feet over the fire for toooo long for things you thought or said during the buildup to orgasm.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #20 on: Wed Jul 22, 2009 - 20:06:28 »
Can't you just point the baby swing the other direction and do it quietly?

I don't think we should dangle your feet over the fire for toooo long for things you thought or said during the buildup to orgasm.


 OH MY! ::eek:: ::eek:: ::eek::

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #21 on: Sat Jun 16, 2012 - 05:45:20 »
Why would it be a sin? 

If you share a house and have no privacy, then you have to do what you have to do.   Lots of couples have their baby sleeping in a cot in their room for the first few months, so I imagine this is a very common thing!   I would advise just moving her out of eyeline - so you can still check she is ok, but she is not turned totally in your direction.

Otherwise, heck, enjoy! 

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #22 on: Sun Jun 17, 2012 - 10:37:57 »
Kelli,

I have nothing original to add, just consensus with the thoughts of others.

The action... not sinful.
The thoughts... sinful.
Your regret is repentance.

Ask forgiveness and move forward -- forget about it.  God does not wish us to dwell in the past, He wants our attention in the present.

I will pray for you, but not for God to forgive your sin, that is done.  I pray that He will relieve you of this undue burden. ::prayinghard::

Chill girl, no worries, ::noworries:: In the future enjoy the intimacy with your mate, may your child sleep peacefully and not interrupt. ::smile::

Kindest regards,
Carey.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #23 on: Sun Jun 17, 2012 - 15:18:11 »
Having sex with your spouse in the same room as your 3-month-old baby? I live in a house with 7 people so we share a room with our baby. No one was home but me, hubby, & baby, but I didn't want to move her to a different room, because she was wide awake in her swing but paying no attention to us...
You do realize the tents Israel lived in for much of their existence was all in one room, right?   Even most of the early houses were only one room.  So it all happened there, eating, sleeping, sex, birthing, etc.

BTW - the OP has not signed on in 2 years.
« Last Edit: Sun Jun 17, 2012 - 15:24:48 by DaveW »

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #24 on: Mon Jun 18, 2012 - 23:48:48 »
BTW - the OP has not signed on in 2 years.
::doh::
 rofl

Good point Dave.

Cheers,
Carey.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #25 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 05:45:21 »
Personally, I think it's pretty sick. Has it all degenerated so far that we think it's ok to expose an infant to graphic intercourse? If that was on TV while your 3 month old was watching, would you just let it run? I think you need to have a good hard look at the state of you Christian values.
So if you and your wife were going to be living in a one room tent for the next 40 years do you stop having sex? 

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #27 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 08:03:28 »
Would you let your 3 month old baby watch porn?
That is a side track issue. A 3 month old would not even comprehend the images seen. Now a 10 or 12 year old certainly would understand.

Answer the question.   if you and your wife were going to be living in a one room tent for the next 40 years do you stop having sex? 

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #28 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 08:11:46 »
A tiny baby isnt going to even notice if you are having sex. I think its great that that the couple are having sex, as it will strengthen the marriage which can only be good for the child. Living in a house with 7 people isnt easy I am sure, and you have to take those opportunities when you can. Many babies spend the first few months in with their parents anyway.

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« Reply #29 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 08:32:01 »
Alfred, would you please answer the question.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #30 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 09:13:34 »
Yes I believe in God and I can read in His Word where marital relations are COMMANDED in both testaments.

I also do NOT read in His Word anywhere that sex is "filth," or that it absolutely has to be away from everyone.


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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #31 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 10:22:46 »
I don't know how you can condone exposing infants to graphic sexual images and still call yourself a Christian. This makes me sick to my stomach. I will be praying for you.


 Graphic sexual images????? You mean his or her parents cuddling and kissing and having loving sex, probably under the covers? You DO have a problem dont you.

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« Reply #32 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 10:24:33 »
The real question is whether you believe in God, which in your case Dave, is a valid question. Anyone who truly believes would never support this filth.
 

So you think that a man and his wife having loving godly sex is filth? I dont. Havent you ever read song of songs? Its very erotic.

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« Reply #33 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 10:42:54 »
I don't know how you can condone exposing infants to graphic sexual images and still call yourself a Christian. This makes me sick to my stomach. I will be praying for you.

Just ignore Mr. Ho.

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Re: Is this a sin? [adultish topic]
« Reply #34 on: Tue Jun 19, 2012 - 11:15:26 »
I will be praying for you.
Please don't.

 

     
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