My husband and I have been together for almost 8 years. We have been married 4 years come October. We have two boys, 6 and 5, whom we just adopted.
I have known about my husband's porn addiction since we have been together. I have always confronted him with it, of course he agreed to stop, but he didn't. I never understood the addiction to porn until recently when I confronted my husband again about his addiction. I told him, it is either me and porn... he chose me and is now in counceling. He has been in counceling since March 2011.
Things of course seemed to be changing. He was doing everything to make me happy, going out of his way to make me happy. It seems in the last month or two things haven't been consistent and seem to be changing for the worse. He swears to me that he isn't looking or masterbating, but our sex life is pretty much nonexistant. He doesn't show me he loves me or cares about me or that I'm special to him. He keeps saying he will do things for me ie. encourage me, tell me I'm beautiful, bring me home gifts, but he is full of nothing but broken promises. His councelor told him he is inconsistant, which he is, but it seems to me that he just doesn't want to try anymore.
He says he needs to feel respect from me, but I don't respect him for what he has done and the hurt he continues to put me through. I feel so unwanted, so unloved, so taken for granted, yet he wants me to show him respect?
How can I show him respect if he continues to treat me this way? I know that our trust and respect has been broken, and I know that it takes time to get it back, but how is he suppose to get it back and I'm suppose to give it to him, if he doesn't work on our marriage and continues to make me feel unimportant?
Anyone else going through the same thing?