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Part 1

Our worlds of Christianity and sexuality are commonly viewed as being miles apart. Someone once said, "Christian sex" is an oxymoron. We don't talk about sex or preach about sex unless it's a sermon that deals with "the sinfulness of sex" outside of marriage. When was the last time you heard a sermon preached on the positive side of sex or a sermon from the Song of Solomon. I'm not saying we need to be discussing sex openly, but we've got to understand that God created sex. Why not at least tell people what He has to say about it from a biblical perspective?

Believe it or not, God created sex as something good, and the bible actually has a lot to say on the subject. You may think, with all the warning about not having sex before marriage, that sex is bad. The Bible says something quite contrary to that. Sex is biblical, if looked at from a Godly perspective.

Here's what I see the Bible saying about Sex...

1. Sex is a Good Thing. Sex was created by God as something good. He gave a husband and a wife this gift as a way for them to express their love for one another. God did create sex to be a beautiful and enjoyable expressions of love, but only between a man and wife (Genesis 2:24; Proverbs 5:18-19; Song of Songs 7:6-7; 1 Corinthians 6:13). God also created sex as a way for a husband and wife to have children or as the bible says, "be fruitful and increase in number" (Genesis 1:27-28).

2. Sex was Created for a Husband and a Wife. Sex is in just about every movie, book, television show and song on the radio. Our world has become lax about sex, making it seem like sex is okay with anyone because it feels good, but the Bible does not agree. God created sex for the confines of marriage only, and He calls us to control our passions and wait for marriage (1 Corinthians 7:2-3; Hebrews 13:4; 1 Thessalonians 4:3-4).

3. God wants each Person in the Marriage to Conscientiously fulfill their mate's sexual needs and desires. Strong sexual needs exist in both husband and wife. Sex in marriage is wonderful! But like all blessings, there can be an accompanying curse. Unfulfilled sexual needs sometimes lead to illicit relationships. God addressed this strong sexual desire and need in humans through the writings of Paul in 1 Corinthians 7:2-5. "But since there is so much immorality, each man should have his own wife, and each woman her own husband. The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife, and likewise the wife to her husband. The wife's body does not belong to her alone but also to her husband. In the same way, the husband's body does not belong to him alone but also to his wife. Do not deprive each other except by mutual consent and for a time, so that you may devote yourselves to prayer. Then come together again so that Satan will not tempt you because of your lack of self-control."

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Blessings,

Trey

Somehow I just knew Janine would be the first to comment.   

I agree though, good article. Thanks for sharing it Trey.

Blessings, Memmy

I think what he is saying is we need to be adults about it. 

1)  It is far to easy for any conversation about sex to degenerate.  It does not matter where or who is involved.

2) What happens in the bedroom should stay in the bedroom.  Sex is something to be shared between husband and wife.  What happens between the two is not something for open discussion IMHO.

KP

We are all adults and we know what is appropriate and what is not

No, we don't. That's the problem you stated earlier. Talking about sex degenerates quickly no matter who is talking, you said.

We are so influenced by Victorianism that the Baby Boomers backlashed with the "free love" that is anything but free. We desparately NEED to talk about sex. We especially need to be talking to our children and youth about sex. Because they're hearing about it from every media outlet available. And not the good, or right stuff either!

Sorry. This is one of my soapboxes!

Being a simple-minded dunce, I'm gonna need pictures. 

in the few comments on this forum to this point, it is pretty evident that males and females differ greatly on the subject of sex. women are more open while men are close-minded if not juvenile in how we deal with the subject. now how does this translate into the bedroom? are women waiting for men to "get it", while men are just trying to "get some"? and because of this we have an impasse with women feeling unfulfilled emotionally and men unfulfilled physically. and each blaming the other.  it seems that what we have here, is a failure to communicate.

Speaking on the topic of sex in a forum such as this IMO is not appropriate.  I do believe that more of our local churches need to have small group couple sessions on it with a trained facilitator who knows how to keep it on topic and keep learning objectives met.

One reason I also think it is not discussed openly is that we as humans often cannot separate the worldly idea of sex from God's idea of sex.  The world sees sex as the physical union of a man and woman. It is carnal.  I believe that God sees it as the spiritual and physical union of a husband and wife.  It is spiritual. 

Quote from: admin on June 18, 2007, 11:11:22 AM

Janine,
You should start an organization called, "Fans of Sex, Inc." It would be a business that sold lingerie multi-level marketing style. You could be president...I guess I could be on the board of directors. Too bad we'd all be "too busy" to ever go to a meeting or do any business stuff.

The most I learned to talk about sex had to do with Family Dynamics and the courses of Joe Beam's.
Start up any organization you want Lee!

Lee, do you mean to say our lives are too busy, so we'd never get the business off the ground?

Or that we'd be too busy testing the wares to ever get beyond the product consideration stage?

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As for "Sex and the Bible" -- that might make a nice long serial study.  All the spots that mention sexual intercourse and the contexts thereof.