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Offline 31woman

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Will sex get better for me???
« on: Mon Jan 07, 2019 - 12:36:37 »
I've been married to my husband for a little over 1 year. I was a virgin when we married. I sometimes feel discouraged that sex is not often great for me. I feel like I have not had that big orgasm yet. I've often times started to get it but it usually just fades out. Is it normal to have this issue still? Is this something that will get better with time? Is there anything I can do? I just get jealous of my husband sometimes because he can finish super fast and doesn't even have to work for it. It's like everytime is amazing for him but most of the time, though it's enjoyable, its not that amazing to me.

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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #1 on: Mon Jan 07, 2019 - 13:27:03 »
Your husband is being very immature and selfish.  You need to talk to him about it.  If he won't talk about it, then you perhaps need to seek professional help you the both of you.

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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #2 on: Mon Jan 07, 2019 - 13:37:53 »
My husband is not being selfish. He does everything he can to wait to finish himself, hoping that I will get it. He does everything he can think of to make it good for me. And I can talk to him about it but since he is a guy there is only so much he can do to help me.

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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #3 on: Mon Jan 07, 2019 - 14:21:48 »
I've been married to my husband for a little over 1 year. I was a virgin when we married.
May I ask how old are each of you are? If you both are young, then this is not totally uncommon, but I can assure you that if you stay with him, you will win in the end. If I knew how old you two are, then maybe I could give some godly advice~I have counsel with young married couples over these issues. Also, I do have fifty years of marriage that I can use to give advice~and I will add, a very great marriage with a wonderful woman with us BOTH considering each other's needs and desires according to 1st Corinthians 7.

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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #4 on: Mon Jan 07, 2019 - 14:53:33 »
I'm 24 and he is 26. And don't worry, I will never leave him. We have both agreed that we will never use the word divorce in our marriage. We are married for life. And congratulations on being married 50 years!

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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #5 on: Mon Jan 07, 2019 - 15:44:42 »
I'm 24 and he is 26. And don't worry, I will never leave him. We have both agreed that we will never use the word divorce in our marriage. We are married for life. And congratulations on being married 50 years!
You both are still very young and truly know very little how to please each other sexually~but it will come if you both remain faithful to each other~it's something that you learn and truly do not need to be taught~what you need to be taught is how to serve each other's needs and think of the other more than yourself.
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Is it normal to have this issue still? Is this something that will get better with time?
Yes, and yes as long as you both seek to please each other more than yourself. A man's wife comes before all things, a woman's husband comes before all things. A very simple recipe for a good marriage. Each one must know their God-given role and fulfill it.
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I just get jealous of my husband sometimes because he can finish super fast and doesn't even have to work for it.
God made man and women different when it comes to this. Men are affected by sight and women more, by the way, a man treats her and desires her, cuddles her, etc.  Her trigger points are so different than a man's.
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though it's enjoyable, its not that amazing to me
You are too young, women enter into another zone in their thirties and even up until their late fifties........ You will wear the crown in the end and he will cry for mercy~trust one who has been through all those years of being married. Dear soul, you're just getting started, relax and enjoy the ride.

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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #6 on: Mon Jan 07, 2019 - 16:11:35 »
May I suggest that you research some good Christian books on sex in marriage and read them together.

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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #7 on: Tue Jan 08, 2019 - 06:19:24 »
May I suggest that you research some good Christian books on sex in marriage and read them together.
Christian books, or an experince Christian man or woman talking that has been married for fifty years Plus~ to one man or one woman? There has to be a godly reason as to WHY it worked so well. Someone did something right, did they not?
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1st King 17:11~"And the king of Israel answered and said, Tell him, Let not him that girdeth on his harness boast himself as he that putteth it off."
I rather listen to a person who has finished the race than one who thinks they know, yet have no proof supporting them.
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Re: Will sex get better for me???
« Reply #8 on: Sun Feb 17, 2019 - 18:34:26 »
Talk this over with husband ~this is his and your private business ~ tell him what you want ~ Mart  a Gin ~ man and woman ```

 

     
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