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Offline KRISSY

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Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« on: January 08, 2007, 12:55:46 PM »
woohoo look at me, I am the thread queen today. lol

I was wondering as a single christian how do Christian singles that get into a relationship with another christian deal with the obvious human desire to be sexual with one another? How do you abstain, and are there even people that are out there these days that are willing to wait till marriage? I know its a hard thing to do, but how do two christian couples handle this???

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #1 on: January 08, 2007, 01:03:16 PM »
I didn't have sex until I got married at age 22, and I never had sex with anyone other than my wife. I've been divorced for many years and have never had sex as a single. Of course, now I couldn't have sex even if I wanted to, and my desire to please the Lord far outweighs any other desires. ::pray::

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #2 on: January 08, 2007, 06:04:04 PM »
I figure you have to set your boundaries a long time before you find yourself alone behind the counsellors' cabin at Camp BunchaChristiansHere.

Not that the subject shouldn't be discussed, studied about in Scripture and good guidebooks, etc.  Just no Braille.   ::saint::

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #3 on: January 08, 2007, 08:21:53 PM »
You just make a decision and stick to it.  That's what I've done anyway.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #4 on: January 08, 2007, 08:46:52 PM »
Avoid dating altogether. Thats how I get by anyway. Its easier if no-one wants to date you. ::cryingtears::

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #5 on: January 08, 2007, 09:31:09 PM »
It's even more than just a decision. It's obedience.
God, Christian, Single, no sex. That's just the way it is.
God's gift from you to your spouse. That's all.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #6 on: January 09, 2007, 08:03:18 PM »
Smokey, I am sorry but I had a real giggle over that one. Thanks for the laugh. Its good to see that many of you have a great sense of humor on here.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #7 on: January 12, 2007, 12:50:37 PM »
That is a tough one. I have had over 4 boyfriends in the past and never even once had a sexual relationship with them, since the bible strictly prohibits sex outside of marriage. So I only had one other alternative, and lets just say that it is too embarrasing to speak about.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #8 on: January 12, 2007, 05:41:34 PM »
Hah.  There's plenty of shame to go around over real true sinfulness where I really truly let God down.  I don't think That Mysterious Topic (*ahem*) is one we need to be ashamed about, either.

Of course it depends upon why we do it.  Sort of.  Like, is it a thing we resort to because we want to help ourselves avoid sin?  Or is it something we do spitefully that allows us to defraud a mate who needs our attention?  All sorts of things can become sinful... but for the average single, I just don't see it as a sin problem.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #9 on: January 12, 2007, 05:42:26 PM »
OK, now that I have Pontificated My Official Opinion, back to our Regularly Scheduled Thread.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #10 on: January 14, 2007, 03:50:04 PM »
I know, I know.

And I am having way too much fun being excessively polite about not saying "masturbation".

So there.

The only thing I keep thinking of when questions like this come up is that the lines have to be discussed and drawn ahead of time.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #11 on: January 14, 2007, 08:25:14 PM »
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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #12 on: September 04, 2011, 01:24:48 PM »
I didn't have sex until I got married at age 22, and I never had sex with anyone other than my wife. I've been divorced for many years and have never had sex as a single. Of course, now I couldn't have sex even if I wanted to, and my desire to please the Lord far outweighs any other desires. ::pray::


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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #13 on: October 01, 2011, 01:32:56 AM »
The bible says '' submit yourself to God, resist the devil and he will flee''. Christian singles can cope with sexual desires. If indeed they are rooted in the word of God, they won't fall into temptation.

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Re: Abstaining from sex as a Christian single
« Reply #14 on: October 18, 2011, 08:40:47 AM »
God promises us that for every temptation He will always make a way of escape.

1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.

We may or may not recognize (or like) the way provided. Some may even have theologies denying it. But it is there and it may be different for different people and different situations.  You may want to employ several of these:

1  Spend a good amount of time in prayer and bible study.
2  Set your boundaries (and stick with them) while you are in control of your hormones.  In the heat of the moment is TOO LATE.
3  Get a (same gender) accountability partner that you can confess the WORST to.
4  Never be alone with someone you are being tempted with.
5  DO NOT use that someone you find tempting as a fantasy sex partner
(and REALLY do not tell them if you do!!! )
(OK, maybe you can tell them after you have been married a year or 2)
6  If you step over your boundary, REPENT!  NOW!!! 
Back out of the situation. Go home. Kick them out of the house. GET AWAY!
Call your accountability partner.
7  See #1