It has been a problem for women as well as men, although most women shy away from ever admitting it is a problem for them.
IMO the only "problem" is the extreme anti-sex attitude of the early church fathers which has carried down thru the last 1800 years in a variety of forms and ideas.
But as to why women specifically? The ancient Greek physician Hippocrates wrote circa 400 bc that women have no sexual feelings or drive. The church believed him over the plain understanding of the OT scriptures, especially Proverbs and the Song of Solomon which talk a LOT about women's desires. (maybe with all those wives Solomon learned a thing or 2 about female sexuality??)
I never hear anyone bring up one verse that seems to support your views Dave...
1 Cor 13:10
Actually, in more sex-positive venues like TheMarriageBed and MarriageHeat, that verse is held out as supporting "M;" especially for singles.
I have always heard discussions of how it is not forbidden in the bible but along the lines of sexual immorality, which covers anything outside of the marriage bed or by agreement between husband and wife still make it a no no.
And doing that is EXACTLY what our Lord frequently rebuked the Pharisees for: extending the biblical command using human wisdom.
‘But in vain do they worship Me, Teaching as doctrines the precepts of men.’”
Indeed, the Law of Moses warned them against just such a thing:
Deuteronomy 4:2You shall not add to the word
which I am commanding you, nor take away from it, that you may keep the commandments of the Lord your God which I command you.
Extending the definition of "sexual immorality" to include masturbation, when no biblical example shows that, is adding
to the command.
And I can promise,and I am sure most other singles will too, that the way of escape is not through prayer.
Of course not. It is asking God to change the way He designed you. It is quarreling with Him who made you JUST the way he wanted you to be.
“Woe to the one who quarrels with his Maker— An earthenware vessel among the vessels of earth! Will the clay say to the potter, ‘What are you doing?’ Or the thing you are making say, ‘He has no hands’?
THAT is why God does not answer the prayer to take away someone's sex drive. He designed it to be enjoyed. He gave it specific and important functions in the working of our bodies. (even if you are not married)
I have no problem talking about it. 73 years of being single has evolved me into the willingness of talking about anything...and with anyone... but being that most of you on GC are married how singles need to compensate... if I can say it that way... is a bit awkward.
Yes, our culture makes talking about sex awkward in any situation by almost anyone. I applaud your bravery.