I pray that this blesses you,
I couldnt find anywhere in Scripture, where GOD decreed that men & women were meant to "date"
one another BEFORE they wed? This (I believe) is a widely accepted world-driven
ritual. A ritual having little if any success attached to it! Now, Im not a prude. Just making a personal observation.I also believe that our sexuality sensuality is DIVINE, meaning, both are given to us from heaven which makes them spiritually GOOD - FIRST.
Further, Im led that to deny these DIVINE attributes, it to deny a very special part of who we are as women & as men. To ask GOD to dimmish either quality within us
while we are unmarried, could be detrimental, because TRUST
we will NEED them both when we become married! In other words
asking GOD to squash!!! these (what weve been hood-winked into believing are
) fleshly desires
is a trick of the enemy!!!Follow me now
If our sexuality & our sensuality are NOT inherently sinful
but fornication is a sin
THEN I submit to you that it is the world that is wrong & NOT the spiritually DIVINE attributes given us (e.g. our sexuality-sensuality)! It is the world that has given/taught us about intimacy
& that in order to find
the appropriate mate
we must date (e.g. share worldly intimacy with one another)!
When GOD formed man from the dust, breathed life into him & he became a living soul, looked at HIS creation and said not good, put him to sleep, took a rib from him, and then created woman his help-meet
Did GOD say: Ok Adam, Ive made you a womb-man (woman)
if things dont work out between you two
come back to me
and Ill create anutha woman for you that is better than the first? Or vice-versa for EVE? NOPE!!! Then, why should we be doing this today? If GOD put us together initially (Adam & Eve) in the beginning, then why can we not TRUST HIM to do the SAME thing today? Is it sooooo far removed from reality to believe that GOD has designed a husband just for you & in order to receive him ... all you need do is draw closer to your Heavenly FATHER?
GOD admonishes us to live as brother & sister (friends) with one another. When seeking a mate, rather than asking GOD to diminish us, why not TRUST HIM to increase the GOODNESS of HIS qualities within us? Plainly my friend, it appears that we usually receive what this world says that we are
when we behold (view) the GODLY qualities (sexuality-sensuality)within, we immediately attach negativity to them. Why/How do we do this? By attaching our sexuality with fornication & our sensuality with lust. Better that we seek out the goodness of these two qualities by going to HIM and asking HIM (Abba Heavenly Father) what the REAL issues working against us are! Huh, when we do this, well find that the REAL issues with us are NOT fornication sex without marriage
it's much deeper!!! And when we discover what is REALLY causing us to harm ourselves
GOD will provide for our help!!! And it is THEN that well TRULY be ready for the husband/the wife that GOD has for us!
Now, after saying ALL THAT!!! (WHEW!!!)
Perhaps Janine is right!!! Instead of dating this man, be a friend to him get to know him THROUGH his mom, with his family. And use some time to work on self. Discover just why it is (as in the REAL reason) that keeping yourself when your truly "like and or are attracted" to a man is such an issue for you. Could it be that this "reason"
transcends the physical?
God bless you & I'm in your Amen corner - I'm believing in your overcoming,Gracious