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Re: As a guy, how does one know if their mind goes too far seeing females?
« Reply #35 on: Mon Mar 30, 2015 - 18:29:14 »
For my part I've been married to my wife for a number of years and if I had wanted any other woman to share the rest of my life with I'd not have asked this one to take the journey to the end of both our lives and together.

She is everything I have ever wanted in a woman. As corny as it sounds to my friends, but they love it, she completes me. We're like two peas in a pod.
When I see other women I admire when they're attractive. I love beautiful things. My wife first and foremost. I love art, which is why we have that in our house. I love the unique lines on a car and that's why I picked the vehicle I drive because the aesthetics are compelling enough that I promised I'd pay for it for five years of my life just to make it mine and put it in our garage.

But do I look at other cars and say, wow, I'd like to have that one. Well, if it's a Ferrari probably so. But if it is a woman that is not my wife, not a chance.

Speaking for myself, if I wanted to surrender everything we've built together just to have one moment of pleasure with someone else, I'd be an idiot. Because the way I'm built I know that that one moment of pleasure wouldn't be pleasure at all when I knew I was destroying the trust and the love I have with my wife in the process.
God has created some amazing works of art to walk this earth. My wife appreciates a good looking man as much as I appreciate seeing a beautiful woman. I even appreciate another man who has it all together. But all that does is make us appreciate what we have in each other.

My take is this, if you're looking at another man and thinking:Mmmm, mmmm, mmm, what I could do to that! And you're married your betraying yourself first. Because there's something inside your relationship that is missing when you can only imagine what some strange guy has that can fill it.
And the first thing he'd have to have if he did actually do that for you and satisfy that imagination behind the, mmmm, is dishonor and outright adulterous creep-clout.
Because if he'll(she'll) cheat with you he'll(she'll) cheat on you.

Rather than look at another man and want some, look at yourself and your relationship and assess what's missing. Work hard on fixing what you have rather than risking all that you have to get away from what you may not want to face and fix.

Marriage takes work! Two people who were separate people before they met uniting for the rest of their lives to become one family takes commitment and honesty. And if you can work at adultery you can certainly work at solvency in a marriage.

That's my take anyway. Thank GOD for my wife.

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Re: As a guy, how does one know if their mind goes too far seeing females?
« Reply #36 on: Mon Mar 30, 2015 - 18:31:10 »

I have been married for a total of 35 years. I have an adult son and 2 adult step sons and 2 brothers, so have had plenty of experience of the opposite sex. This thread is about sexual lust. Lusting after a woman or man who is not yours to lust over is never right, be they single, married, divorced or widowed.

This thread is about lust, this is why it's important for people to understand what lust is. If you have no interest in what scripture says on the mater just say so and go on with your cultural convictions. Just don't confuse them with what Chris to or scripture teaches.


 This thread is specifically about men looking at females and how far should they go.
God is very specific on what men(and women actually) should and shouldnt do in this area. To try and justify men looking and lusting after women they arent married to is very troubling.  ::frown::

 No half so troubling as your assistance at ignoring the specific things the bible says... If you have no material rebuttal to actual content then just be done with the conversation. Dogmatism is nothing to scripture, and wearying.
I think if you familiarize yourself with the Bible you'll see that looking on a woman or man with lust in one's heart is the same as adultery.
If you're avowing something other than what scripture says in guidance and governance of a marriage and you're all for the open marriage thing, you're in the wrong community friend.

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Re: As a guy, how does one know if their mind goes too far seeing females?
« Reply #37 on: Mon Mar 30, 2015 - 21:19:27 »
I think if you familiarize yourself with the Bible you'll see that looking on a woman or man with lust in one's heart is the same as adultery.
If you're avowing something other than what scripture says in guidance and governance of a marriage and you're all for the open marriage thing, you're in the wrong community friend.

I've know scripture. Chosenone is the one who has repeatedly backed down from discussing it. There's nothing that's going to sink cultural christianity faster than scripture, but of course culture christianity is fideist, and says that confidence without evidence is faith.

I'll tell you the same I told chose, if you want to talk scripture lets go systematically point by point.

She has long abandon that as her refuge and faith is in something very different than the Word when it comes to this topic.


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Re: As a guy, how does one know if their mind goes too far seeing females?
« Reply #38 on: Mon Mar 30, 2015 - 21:22:50 »


Firstly I'll correct you in that it is capital C, Christianity.

Nothing will sink a persons argument that their belief system is superior to another than failing to respect the writing of the noun.

 
I think if you familiarize yourself with the Bible you'll see that looking on a woman or man with lust in one's heart is the same as adultery.
If you're avowing something other than what scripture says in guidance and governance of a marriage and you're all for the open marriage thing, you're in the wrong community friend.

I've know scripture. Chosenone is the one who has repeatedly backed down from discussing it. There's nothing that's going to sink cultural christianity faster than scripture, but of course culture christianity is fideist, and says that confidence without evidence is faith.

I'll tell you the same I told chose, if you want to talk scripture lets go systematically point by point.

She has long abandon that as her refuge and faith is in something very different than the Word when it comes to this topic.

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Re: As a guy, how does one know if their mind goes too far seeing females?
« Reply #39 on: Tue Mar 31, 2015 - 00:34:12 »

I have been married for a total of 35 years. I have an adult son and 2 adult step sons and 2 brothers, so have had plenty of experience of the opposite sex. This thread is about sexual lust. Lusting after a woman or man who is not yours to lust over is never right, be they single, married, divorced or widowed.

This thread is about lust, this is why it's important for people to understand what lust is. If you have no interest in what scripture says on the mater just say so and go on with your cultural convictions. Just don't confuse them with what Chris to or scripture teaches.


 This thread is specifically about men looking at females and how far should they go.
God is very specific on what men(and women actually) should and shouldnt do in this area. To try and justify men looking and lusting after women they arent married to is very troubling.  ::frown::

 No half so troubling as your assistance at ignoring the specific things the bible says... If you have no material rebuttal to actual content then just be done with the conversation. Dogmatism is nothing to scripture, and wearying.

Others have already pointed out to you what the Bible says on this subject, and most of us here are well aware of how we must live and about keeping out eyes and thoughts pure.

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Re: As a guy, how does one know if their mind goes too far seeing females?
« Reply #40 on: Tue Mar 31, 2015 - 00:39:32 »
For my part I've been married to my wife for a number of years and if I had wanted any other woman to share the rest of my life with I'd not have asked this one to take the journey to the end of both our lives and together.

She is everything I have ever wanted in a woman. As corny as it sounds to my friends, but they love it, she completes me. We're like two peas in a pod.
When I see other women I admire when they're attractive. I love beautiful things. My wife first and foremost. I love art, which is why we have that in our house. I love the unique lines on a car and that's why I picked the vehicle I drive because the aesthetics are compelling enough that I promised I'd pay for it for five years of my life just to make it mine and put it in our garage.

But do I look at other cars and say, wow, I'd like to have that one. Well, if it's a Ferrari probably so. But if it is a woman that is not my wife, not a chance.

Speaking for myself, if I wanted to surrender everything we've built together just to have one moment of pleasure with someone else, I'd be an idiot. Because the way I'm built I know that that one moment of pleasure wouldn't be pleasure at all when I knew I was destroying the trust and the love I have with my wife in the process.
God has created some amazing works of art to walk this earth. My wife appreciates a good looking man as much as I appreciate seeing a beautiful woman. I even appreciate another man who has it all together. But all that does is make us appreciate what we have in each other.

My take is this, if you're looking at another man and thinking:Mmmm, mmmm, mmm, what I could do to that! And you're married your betraying yourself first. Because there's something inside your relationship that is missing when you can only imagine what some strange guy has that can fill it.
And the first thing he'd have to have if he did actually do that for you and satisfy that imagination behind the, mmmm, is dishonor and outright adulterous creep-clout.
Because if he'll(she'll) cheat with you he'll(she'll) cheat on you.

Rather than look at another man and want some, look at yourself and your relationship and assess what's missing. Work hard on fixing what you have rather than risking all that you have to get away from what you may not want to face and fix.

Marriage takes work! Two people who were separate people before they met uniting for the rest of their lives to become one family takes commitment and honesty. And if you can work at adultery you can certainly work at solvency in a marriage.

That's my take anyway. Thank GOD for my wife.

Yes, and I thank God for my husband who is the most godly moral man of integrity I know. He loves God and myself far too much to allow his eyes and thoughts to stray to other women. I love him for it, and so appreciate that he goes against the flow on this issue.

 

     
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