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I have been all my life and I have had a boyfriends and even loved one when I was 16. First love and all that but I always knew I was different.  ::lookaround:: I then got my first girfriend at 22 and stayed together for 10 years then we split and I met my ex who I split badly with last year. I was pregnant as decided to have a child, J I now have a daughter. My ex was the one who changed my as she was a Christian and took me to church. I was actually saved at 15 and its like God never lets me go ever. But my feelings are almost too strong to ignore. I have been full on Christian about a year now and changed so much. I am scared to get involved with anyone since being with my ex, it was such a bad relationships I can not help but think it was because we were two Christians and it was a bad thing to be. Before being a full on Christian I never felt bad about my attracttions. She dabbled with the occult and often saw things in the house and the do would bark and I know dogs do not bark at nothing. It was scary. I wonder if the darkness was why we split up so badly. I was up and down with her. bad thoughts and very angry and violent. She is now with someone but I try not to find out too much via social media websites. But she never forgave and wants no contact.

My problem is I am not dating as I am bus with my daughter and work but I am so tempted by this website I joined just to see. Getting a few messages and I am so tempted to date these girls! I guy I know asked me out via social media. I think he is ok but no sparks like there wouldbe with a woman. By the way I am the straightest looking girl you would see and not butch  ::noworries:: as are many woman I know. Not all lesbians look like men.  ::giggle:: even married woman who seem straight try it on! It is a tempting world out there.

Help me how do I resist this. It is like telling a straight man or woman to try and not be what they are? I feel like I am stuck in a lie and a hard place. If you bothered to read this much is there any help. My church must never know this. I know a lady havin an affair with a married man and yet says gays are wrong and not really Christians but I think havin an affair with a married man is wrong. ::doh::


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Re: I am Christian and I am a Lesbian please help don't judge please
« Reply #1 on: Sun Nov 24, 2013 - 12:02:16 »
Harper77 you said: "I am Christian and I am a Lesbian" That is a misnomer.  That's like saying I am atheist and a born again Christian.  That is a impossibility. 

Read 1 Corinthians 6:9,10 and then:

verse 11~"And such were some of you: but ye are washed, ye are sanctified, ye are justified in the name of the Lord Jesus, and by the Spirit of our God."   

Read John 8:3-11~the woman taken in the very act of adultery, but notice verse eleven:

"She said, No man Lord.  And Jesus said unto her, Neither do I condemn thee: go and SIN NO MORE."

Regardless what one may have been before they come to Jesus, they cannot continue on doing as they once did, after they come to be saved from their sins~such as Sodomy, which is a wicked sin against the natural use of our bodies and nature itself.

You said: but I think havin an affair with a married man is wrong." ::doh:: It a wicked sin.

If you are truly sincere in your desire to live a life of a Christian, then repent of your past life and seek help from God to live a life that is pleasing to him, which Sodomy is an abomination in his sight.  Make no mistake about it, for the scriptures are very clear concerning this.

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Re: I am Christian and I am a Lesbian please help don't judge please
« Reply #2 on: Sun Nov 24, 2013 - 12:06:11 »
There are 2 sins the Bible tells us to run from: Idol worship and sexual sin. Don't flirt with temptation, run.

Yes, homosexual sin is just like heterosexual sin - it is sin. Whether "straight" or "gay," sex outside of marriage is sin. No matter the reason, if one is unmarried, one must be celibate. If one is married, one must be faithful - no affairs. There is no wiggle room here.

I cannot give you advice for dealing with this specific sin, as it is not one that I am tempted by. Each of us has one or more areas of weakness that we have to deal with, and this is yours. It may feel like it's just not fair because you've "always" been more attracted to women than men, and others are naturally attracted to men, but you don't know what temptations those others are dealing with. Maybe they have "always" just picked up things that weren't theirs (stealing) or maybe they have "always" liked to talk about other people (gossip). Those are their besetting sins and they must resist those temptations if they want to please God. You must do the same.

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Re: I am Christian and I am a Lesbian please help don't judge please
« Reply #3 on: Sun Nov 24, 2013 - 12:28:16 »
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I have been all my life and I have had a boyfriends and even loved one when I was 16. First love and all that but I always knew I was different.


Try and recapture your youth, don't let society bully you in becoming a lesbian just because you don't meet their way of life.


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Re: I am Christian and I am a Lesbian please help don't judge please
« Reply #4 on: Sun Nov 24, 2013 - 12:44:32 »
I have been all my life and I have had a boyfriends and even loved one when I was 16. First love and all that but I always knew I was different.  ::lookaround:: I then got my first girfriend at 22 and stayed together for 10 years then we split and I met my ex who I split badly with last year. I was pregnant as decided to have a child, J I now have a daughter. My ex was the one who changed my as she was a Christian and took me to church. I was actually saved at 15 and its like God never lets me go ever. But my feelings are almost too strong to ignore. I have been full on Christian about a year now and changed so much. I am scared to get involved with anyone since being with my ex, it was such a bad relationships I can not help but think it was because we were two Christians and it was a bad thing to be. Before being a full on Christian I never felt bad about my attracttions. She dabbled with the occult and often saw things in the house and the do would bark and I know dogs do not bark at nothing. It was scary. I wonder if the darkness was why we split up so badly. I was up and down with her. bad thoughts and very angry and violent. She is now with someone but I try not to find out too much via social media websites. But she never forgave and wants no contact.

My problem is I am not dating as I am bus with my daughter and work but I am so tempted by this website I joined just to see. Getting a few messages and I am so tempted to date these girls! I guy I know asked me out via social media. I think he is ok but no sparks like there wouldbe with a woman. By the way I am the straightest looking girl you would see and not butch  ::noworries:: as are many woman I know. Not all lesbians look like men.  ::giggle:: even married woman who seem straight try it on! It is a tempting world out there.

Help me how do I resist this. It is like telling a straight man or woman to try and not be what they are? I feel like I am stuck in a lie and a hard place. If you bothered to read this much is there any help. My church must never know this. I know a lady havin an affair with a married man and yet says gays are wrong and not really Christians but I think havin an affair with a married man is wrong. ::doh::




 Harper both are wrong, and if you know someone in your church who is definitely having an affair, then you need to go and tell the pastor. He will need to challenge her on this.
Stay off those websites is my advise. Why put yourself into temptation? If you were trying not to drink would you go to a bar?.

The truth is that for us as Christians, the only option is for one man and one woman to be married and then have sex only in marriage. That is Gods clear instruction. I have heard of people who have same sex attraction who God changed, and they got married and had families. 

 Your ex sounds like a disaster.
A Christian woman who lives with another woman and dabbles in the occult is far from God.

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Re: I am Christian and I am a Lesbian please help don't judge please
« Reply #5 on: Sun Nov 24, 2013 - 12:52:35 »
1 Corinthians 10:13 No temptation has overtaken you but such as is common to man; and God is faithful, who will not allow you to be tempted beyond what you are able, but with the temptation will provide the way of escape also, so that you will be able to endure it.


I am sorry you are struggling so against this temptation to act on your attractions.  I want to encourage you with this promise from God.  He *will* provide you a way of escaping what is haunting you.

I would advise you to pray this verse when things get overwhelming, and TELL God, "I need a way of escape RIGHT NOW, Father!"  He will give it...that doesn't mean it will be easy or that the urges will go away, but He will keep His promise to provide shelter from the storms of our temptations.  Saying "no" isn't hardly ever an easy thing to do, but that is what you must keep telling yourself when the urges and temptation to sin engulf you.  Go for a run, get off the computer, read your Bible, PRAY, listen to praise music, ANYTHING to get your mind off your desires and onto God and godly living.

God bless! 

 

     
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