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Offline Racheka

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Re: WOMEN ONLY - help please =[
« Reply #15 on: November 19, 2007, 03:29:15 AM »
I have no great words of advice, but just wanted to say that I can really identify with your struggles. I too long (with everything I have sometimes) for someone to love me and acknowledge me. It can be overpowering!! I'm a Christian though too and am learning from past mistakes and moving forward. But still... it can be very easy to idolise someone and put them first in everything if you know what I mean!=)
Praying for you =) ::smile::

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Re: WOMEN ONLY - help please =[
« Reply #16 on: June 25, 2011, 06:53:07 PM »
I have a problem.. that is kind of like masturbation.. but not..? Like I don't touch myself, but I do give into fantasies and sexual thoughts.

I am 18 and have never had a boyfriend, never been kissed, etc. and I am craving IMMENSELY the physical affection of a male. I know I'm young, but I'm afraid I'm never going to get married, because I've never had a boyfriend.

And there is this guy I like (who has a girlfriend, by the way.. and that makes me feel worse), that when I think about him hugging or kissing me.. well it feels nice, so I think about it a lot. And then it sometimes my thoughts keep going, and I think more sexual thoughts.. but I try to stop them and return them to just kissing, etc. But I know it is wrong, because I feel convicted, but I don't want to stop.. and I know how selfish I am and I've prayed for Him to give me the Holy Spirit to stop me, but it's not happening.

And I'm okay for awhile, if I don't see the guy I like, but when I see him, that day I start getting the thoughts about him and I always give into them. It happened today. I was okay for about a week when I didn't talk to him, but today I did and .. I fell again. And it lasted for about half an hour.. probably a little more. And while I'm thinking it I am praying and confessing, but then I continue, and I pray knowing I'm going to continue. I'm such a sinner and I feel so condemned and that God isn't going to forgive me because I keep doing it willfully. But all I want is a guy to love me and touch me (not like that really.. just kissing, hugging, touching my face, looking into my eyes).. It's so hard.

I don't know what to do and I can't do this anymore. And I can't just be like "don't ever talk to me" just because he makes me think sinful thoughts, because I don't want him to know that I think about him like that..

I know there must be a deeper root to my problem, too. I know I have extremely low self-esteem and other problems. I know that. But what do I do? I feel so condemned. And I shouldn't, because I have accepted Jesus as my savior, but I do feel that way.

And I want to stop thinking these things because I know it's wrong and I don't want to feel guilty or far from God but at the same time I don't want to stop at all. I'm struggling really badly today and the thing is I don't want to stop and it scares me.

Help me please!!

1. Dear, you are NOT condemmed. I'm sorry, but I just don't believe that.
2. Just because you have not had a boyfriend by the age of 18 does not mean you won't get married. You are quite young, if God sees, it you have time :-).
3. If you can stay away from this guy, do that. But if you can't, just keep it moving. Keep the converations short with him. Continue to seek God. I know I'm saved by God's grace and I have changed; but I still have plenty of sexual thoughts and the m word is an issue too. I don't know if its a sin or not. But I know I rather do that any day than giving my body to a man who is not my husband (laughing...btw, I don't encourage the m word, I'm just letting you know how I do things).
4. To reiterate, God loves you. He knows you and knows what you are going through. Continue to seek Him, but honest with Him, keep yourself busy with friends.

Offline Tiamiyux

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Re: WOMEN ONLY - help please =[
« Reply #17 on: October 01, 2011, 01:48:04 AM »
As humans, it is normal to feel that way. However, what you think of affect your actions. Get busy reading bible and books that would help you. This will help free your mind