I'm still in the process of studying and formulating the issue female elders. I have come far in my study, but not so far as you. Fortunately I still have time as I serve a congregation where there are no females even remotely interested in serving as elders. (Actually, I only have two men who possess the \"qualities\" (lol) of an elder and they aren't even willing to serve. Argh!!!!) I can thank God that I do not have to tackle these issues at this time where I am. I need more time to grow as a minister and I'm a firm believer in slow, implemented change because unity is always the bottom line. I'm not the activist you are, so forgive. But we need activist! And we need moderators like me right there in the middle. Know that I read everything (and I do mean everything) you post/write on this subject. I've even been known to pop over to gal3:28 from time to time. This last post you made is very interesting.
What Patricia is dealing with has happened to so many of my friends--many of whom are now DOC (BTW). I have told them that I'm staying cofC because I want to fight the good fight from within so I can be there to help stabalize the bridge of change. That's why I'm so heartbroken to hear we are probably losing another fighter! Not that I think leaving is wrong, just that I wish we didn't keep losing those who might help us ten, twenty years down the road. I think that's why I admire Janine's perseverence so much, because I know that many want to give up and when they do, I don't blame them! I'm just stubborn enough and foolish enough to put up with all the trash, but it's trash all the same and I don't blame anybody for bailing out if it will benefit them spiritually to esape. I hope they know they have my love and support regardless of what they do... and that includes you, Patricia.
And since Patricia has given a greenlight to our shenanigans... \"Traits\" is another good word.
This morning I spent time and prayer considering how it was that I agreed with everything you wrote, but you seemed to have a problem with what I had written. I wondered how it was possible that I could agree with you, but you couldn't agree with me. I love the English language (As a dyslexic, I could do without the spelling and grammar, though), but so many people have indeed perverted certain words and they leave a bad taste in our mouth. I even came up with a great example, but I'll save that for another time. This is all I could think of...
My point has been and always will be that we (men and women alike) should strive to live in purity so that we might become a person that possesses the \"traits\", \"characteristics\", or \"qualities\" of an elder. Very few live in such regard and therefore very few would be acceptable to serve as elders. Now, if you've caught a few of my posts, then you know I'm as guilty of this impurity as the next man or woman. I guess that's why I feel so strongly about our need to study the \"traits\", \"characteristics\", and/or \"qualities\" of elders. If we all tried to live in such a way that God would create them in us, we'd be so much better off.
I've known many an awful elder, but I hope we can prepare my generation better so that there will be fewer in the future.
All my love to you, brother! (And to all!)