Was Jesus Married ... Chapter 3 part 2
It is now time to learn of some customs of the time. But before that I just want to address and comment a bit about my part 1
In part 1 we learned a bit about who Mary of Bethany and Mary Magdalene were.
We learned that Mary of Bethany was favored by Jesus when, at minimum, he would come to Marth's house where apparently Lazarus ( who was referred to as Lazarus of Bethany in John 11:1) also lived.
Now, as yet I am only guessing so dont shoot me.
We have not read of Martha being called Martha of Bethany. We have
read that the house Jesus visited was Martha's
Luke 10: 38Now it came to pass, as they went, that he entered into a certain village: and a certain woman named Martha received him into her house.
Just keep this in the back of your mind...
We know that no parents are mentioned for Martha , Mary of Bethany and Lazarus of Bethany, their brother.
I have no proof yet.... but what if the parents had died and Martha got the house because she had still been living there with them? Making her the owner.
CAN ANYONE PROVE THAT THIS IS WRONG? I truly am open to learning about them.
Since Mary of Bethany was so close to Jesus I wonder why it was not Mary of Bethany who opened the door to him. I suspect it was because Martha was the home owner and that Mary of Bethany , and Lazarus of Bethany had moved back home once the folks were out of the picture.
More on this later
OK.... Now Chapter 3 goes on to talk about Mary of Bethany and her anointing of Jesus during this well known dinner.
Remember it was Mary of Bethany we have been told would sit at Jesus' knees listening and absorbing every word from his mouth. How many times she did this we do not know because she is only mentioned 3 times in the four corners of the bible.
We do not know if they had any "private" talks ... we just know the family was extremely close friends with Jesus.
So let's talk about this anointing of Jesus that John tells us about. John 12:3
"3 Then took Mary a pound of ointment of spikenard, very costly, and anointed the feet of Jesus, and wiped his feet with her hair: and the house was filled with the odour of the ointment.
(If you do not accept this accounting of Mary of Bethany's anointing Jesus and if you prefer the accounting of the sinful woman who anointed Him in Luke 7: 36-38)
In either case.... they both wiped his feet with their hair.
So moving on.
Quoting, theologian and scholar Joachim Jeremais (pg 31 of the book)
"When the Jewess of Jerusalem left her house, her face was hidden by an arrangement of two head veils, a head-band on the forehead with bands to the chin and a hairnet with ribbons and knots, so that her features could not be recognized.
" It was said that once, for example, a chief priest in Jerusalem did not recognize his own mother when he had to carry out against her the prescribed process of a woman suspected of adultery.
"Any woman who went out without this headdress, i.e., without her face
being hidden, committed such an offense against good taste that her husband had the right - and indeed the duty- to put her away from him, and was under no obligation to pay the sum of money to which, on divorce, the wife had a right by virtue of the marriage contract
"There even were women so strict that they did not once uncover their head in the house, women like Qimhit, who, it was said , saw seven sons admitted to the high priesthood, which was regarded as divine reward for her extreme propriety: ' May it [ this and that] befall me if the beams of my house have ever seen the hair of my head.' "
The Journal of Biblical Literature
"Among Jews in the Talmudic period both married and unmarried women wore head coverings in public"
This period from roughly 400 BC to 500 AD!
Now we have to come to a decision of whose account of Mary of Bethany's anointing we shall believe.
It was obvious that the hair being covered would be of key importance. So... that is not an issue here.
But our main accounting of Mary of Bethany has Martha opening her door to her house.
In the book "Was Jesus Married" pg 33 seems to lean toward another account as it talks of that.
" So when Mary entered the home , her hair would almost certainly be pinned up and covered properly for the day or else she would not have been allowed into a Pharisee's home...........
"Mary, however, seemed to have little concern for where she was and who else was in the home. She let her hair down in the presence of Jesus, to Jesus , in order to dry the oil and tears from his feet.......
So what are we to conclude here, if anything.
Mary of Bethany, was doing for Jesus something a Jewish woman only did in front of her husband " AND THE ONLY THING FOUND WORTHY OF CRITICISM IN A CROWD CONSISTING OF PHARISEES AND DISCIPLES WAS THE HIGH COST OF THE OIL SHE USED."
The same also if the account in John is accurate.
So we are left not knowing exactly where this dinner that Mary of Bethany anointed Jesus feet happened.
We also do not know why it was referred to as Marth's house.
Could it be possible.... JUST THINK ON THIS.
Could it be possible that as I suggested about that Martha we heir apparent for the house she lived in with her parents when they were still alive and Lazarus And Mary , when they
moved in with Martha were called Lazarus of Bethany and Mary of Bethany to distinguish that that is now where they were living?
We dont know if it was Martha's house or that of a Pharisee that the anointing dinner was held.
Is there any possibility that the house housed both Martha and siblings as well as a Pharisee?
So many unanswered questions and so many possibilities that do not exist within the four corners of the bible.
One thing certain is that Mary of Bethlehem was "not proper" letting her hair down as she did.
So why did she ?