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Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« on: April 30, 2008, 09:00:12 AM »
Why are people feeling unloved today?
Is that condition keeping them from the Saviour?
How bad do you see this unloved situation today?

Tell us what you believe and what you are doing to love somebody.
As Christians we need to understand and overcome this problem, don't you agree? Or are you too busy to care?  Too consumed with self?

Any solutions???

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Why Are People Feeling Unloved
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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #1 on: April 30, 2008, 09:50:05 AM »
Because the enemy lies, that's why.

The enemy won't keep them from our Savior unless we let him.

People tend to think they are not good enough to be loved, and that in and of ourself is true.

People need to see, and feel for themselves the unconditional love of our Father through His Son, and our Savior.

People need to be aware that God sent His Son to be that love of our lives, and when we finally find that True Love, we will be able to understand better how to love others ane feel loved by others ourselves.

True love comes from the comfort in knowing Him, not just knowing about Him.

Blessings, Memmy

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #2 on: April 30, 2008, 09:56:16 AM »
Because the enemy lies, that's why.

The enemy won't keep them from our Savior unless we let him.

People tend to think they are not good enough to be loved, and that in and of ourself is true.

People need to see, and feel for themselves the unconditional love of our Father through His Son, and our Savior.

People need to be aware that God sent His Son to be that love of our lives, and when we finally find that True Love, we will be able to understand better how to love others ane feel loved by others ourselves.

True love comes from the comfort in knowing Him, not just knowing about Him.

Blessings, Memmy

Hi Memmy, good post!
How can we as individuals convince someone feeling unloved that what they feel isn't true?

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #3 on: April 30, 2008, 10:05:59 AM »
Why are people feeling unloved today?
Is that condition keeping them from the Saviour?
How bad do you see this unloved situation today?

Tell us what you believe and what you are doing to love somebody.
As Christians we need to understand and overcome this problem, don't you agree? Or are you too busy to care?  Too consumed with self?

Any solutions???




I am so thankful that you started this thread! This is something that has been on my mind since the beginning of 2008. I think part of the problem is that we are not loving each other in the church as we should. I just recently read a statistic about the percentage of those who attend church who actually read their bibles with regularity and it frightened me. Transformation starts by reading God's word. When we read God's word conviction definitely comes. It is our choice whether we give into that conviction or not.

The fruit of the Spirit is definitely lacking. When people are not loving each other in the church the world sees this and they have no reason to join in. If we would start truly extending grace to each other in the church we would be more apt do do this outside of the church. My wife and I made a commitment in January to watch our words carefully and to start loving people in ways that we ourselves long to be loved. I think it is going to take congregations who want to see God's love dominate their fellowship and who are willing to do whatever that takes.

You asked if we are too consumed with ourselves. The answer is; YES! But those of us who are leaders in our churches have to model biblical Christianity to the rest of the congregation if we are going to see results.

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #4 on: April 30, 2008, 10:20:23 AM »
Because the enemy lies, that's why.

The enemy won't keep them from our Savior unless we let him.

People tend to think they are not good enough to be loved, and that in and of ourself is true.

People need to see, and feel for themselves the unconditional love of our Father through His Son, and our Savior.

People need to be aware that God sent His Son to be that love of our lives, and when we finally find that True Love, we will be able to understand better how to love others ane feel loved by others ourselves.

True love comes from the comfort in knowing Him, not just knowing about Him.

Blessings, Memmy

Hi Memmy, good post!
How can we as individuals convince someone feeling unloved that what they feel isn't true?

By showing the love Jesus has for us, even though we are not perfect either.

We need to be open and honest with each other, and allow others to see our weaknesses, so that they will know that Christ does love us, even in our weaknesses.

There's nothing that rings truer than for those outside of Christ to see that when we who His, are honest and allow others to see that we fall down still, that they too can come to the Father and know that His love can still reach around all those weaknesses, and He is the One who can overcome them, not in any way that is in us, but it is He that is in us who makes us His own.

Blessings, Memmy

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #5 on: April 30, 2008, 10:21:29 AM »
Why are people feeling unloved today?
Is that condition keeping them from the Saviour?
How bad do you see this unloved situation today?

Tell us what you believe and what you are doing to love somebody.
As Christians we need to understand and overcome this problem, don't you agree? Or are you too busy to care?  Too consumed with self?

Any solutions???




I am so thankful that you started this thread! This is something that has been on my mind since the beginning of 2008. I think part of the problem is that we are not loving each other in the church as we should. I just recently read a statistic about the percentage of those who attend church who actually read their bibles with regularity and it frightened me. Transformation starts by reading God's word. When we read God's word conviction definitely comes. It is our choice whether we give into that conviction or not.

The fruit of the Spirit is definitely lacking. When people are not loving each other in the church the world sees this and they have no reason to join in. If we would start truly extending grace to each other in the church we would be more apt do do this outside of the church. My wife and I made a commitment in January to watch our words carefully and to start loving people in ways that we ourselves long to be loved. I think it is going to take congregations who want to see God's love dominate their fellowship and who are willing to do whatever that takes.

You asked if we are too consumed with ourselves. The answer is; YES! But those of us who are leaders in our churches have to model biblical Christianity to the rest of the congregation if we are going to see results.

Amen, brother! You sound very concerned and trying your best which is all anyone can do.
So you see a part of loving each other is showing it in word and deed.  Also as getting the congregation to read and study more.  I understand your job as Pastor in the same way I understand the love Apostle Paul showed by teaching the truth even when it's not popular.

I know for myself that church is not always a place to find loving fellowship.  Many times everyone is in such a hurry to go eat or go home, etc., that we don't give the time we should to each other.
The trouble is we need others who are willing to give of themselves in order for this to work.

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #6 on: April 30, 2008, 10:27:03 AM »
Linkoln, I believe that God is calling us to love more, and when we are His, we will hear that, as is being talked about here on this forum.

We meet alot of opposition to "love" topics, but we really should know that because God is Love, that this is what will be met in opposition by the enemy.

Many of us still believe the lies that we have to do, in order to be done to. That is the lie of all lies.

It's faith first, because in that is where we are made righteous, not by what we do, but what is done in us. Faith in  Christ Jesus through God and what He is capable of doing in us.

If we truly believe Him.

Blessings, Memmy

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #7 on: April 30, 2008, 12:08:26 PM »
With God's love and forgiveness a given to believers, I believe love of self is directly connected to forgiveness, which is directly connected to loving others. Self-forgiveness. We are unable to forgive ourselves for our own sins, and carry that over to others. We can't forgive others because we can't love them. We can't love them because we can't forgive ourselves. They may not seem connected, but I believe Jesus connects it with his command to love our neighbor as ourselves. We can't love ourselves unless/until we forgive ourselves. Forgiveness is simply letting go of past sins that we drag around with us.

There was an excellent film about the baggage we carry and the effect it has on our lives, I think it was called "The Mission," with Robert DiNero and Jeremy Irons. Highly recommend it.

As for why people feel unloved, a quick run-through of some of these threads would give a good glimpse. This is the picture of Christ we present to the world via cyberspace. We don't act very loving. People feel unaccepted, rejected, never measuring up, never good enough, not perfect enough. When we love ourselves, we are less hypercritical, less cynical, less angry, more patient, more tolerant (Scripture says to "put up with each other"), more loving.

"Love your neighbor" isn't the most important part of Jesus' words. It's "as you love yourself."

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #8 on: April 30, 2008, 12:27:49 PM »
Excellent topic.  Thanks for starting this.  I've enjoyed everyones share.  Can't really add a lot but all thats been said really does reinforce why love is the greatest commandment.   

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #9 on: April 30, 2008, 12:32:20 PM »
It can get bad when people go past the point of feeling unloved and just quit feeling.  As long as there is a conscious longing to be loved, there is hope. It's good to think we can be the type of people who give others hope.

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« Reply #10 on: April 30, 2008, 12:32:56 PM »
People feel unloved for various reasons. Mine goes back to my childhood days when my "dad" constantly told me I was useless and couldn't do anything right. He also said that a man never says "I love you" to anyone or shows any emotion. He was cruel and uncaring, and I learned nothing about love from him except that's it's earned, and I was never able to earn his love or acceptance.

The only attention I got from him was a severe beating on the back of my legs when I did wrong. Maybe I deliberately did wrong a lot just to get some attention from him--I don't know. That's why I find it difficult to think of God the Father as loving ME, because I don't feel worthy of being loved and never have. Also, the comparison of Jesus' love to a half-brother's love means nothing to me since my brothers didn't love me either. They were just as cruel to me as my dad. I was the youngest and was everyone's punching bag. Only the grace of God brought me through that reasonably sane.

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« Reply #11 on: April 30, 2008, 12:36:25 PM »
The World presents a false picture of Love.  In our particular time and place, the World says that love is a feeling, rather than an action.  It says that we are 'struck' by love-making love into a whim rather than a decision.  And the World tells us that we must earn that whimsical Love - with physical beauty or wealth or fame or perfection.

It seems to me that to contradict that lie, start with the decision.  Decide that you're going to act in love and then do so - even when you don't feel all that loving. 

Never focus so much on the message, or the action, that you lose sight of the person.  Presenting the Gospel is good, telling someone about Jesus is better.  Feeding the poor is good, having dinner with someone who's hungry is better.

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Re: Why Are People Feeling Unloved
« Reply #12 on: April 30, 2008, 12:41:45 PM »
Why are people feeling unloved today?
Is that condition keeping them from the Saviour?
How bad do you see this unloved situation today?

Tell us what you believe and what you are doing to love somebody.
As Christians we need to understand and overcome this problem, don't you agree? Or are you too busy to care?  Too consumed with self?

Any solutions???
Well, people have to see you doing something in order to feel loved.

The Head loves them all with a perfect love.
But the Body seems a little slow to act to day.

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« Reply #13 on: April 30, 2008, 02:46:01 PM »
I feel loved...

Now, who wants to give me a big hug?....   ::hug::

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« Reply #14 on: April 30, 2008, 02:53:22 PM »
Why are people feeling unloved today?
Is that condition keeping them from the Saviour?
How bad do you see this unloved situation today?

Tell us what you believe and what you are doing to love somebody.
As Christians we need to understand and overcome this problem, don't you agree? Or are you too busy to care?  Too consumed with self?

Any solutions???




I am so thankful that you started this thread! This is something that has been on my mind since the beginning of 2008. I think part of the problem is that we are not loving each other in the church as we should. I just recently read a statistic about the percentage of those who attend church who actually read their bibles with regularity and it frightened me. Transformation starts by reading God's word. When we read God's word conviction definitely comes. It is our choice whether we give into that conviction or not.

The fruit of the Spirit is definitely lacking. When people are not loving each other in the church the world sees this and they have no reason to join in. If we would start truly extending grace to each other in the church we would be more apt do do this outside of the church. My wife and I made a commitment in January to watch our words carefully and to start loving people in ways that we ourselves long to be loved. I think it is going to take congregations who want to see God's love dominate their fellowship and who are willing to do whatever that takes.

You asked if we are too consumed with ourselves. The answer is; YES! But those of us who are leaders in our churches have to model biblical Christianity to the rest of the congregation if we are going to see results.

Amen, brother! You sound very concerned and trying your best which is all anyone can do.
So you see a part of loving each other is showing it in word and deed.  Also as getting the congregation to read and study more.  I understand your job as Pastor in the same way I understand the love Apostle Paul showed by teaching the truth even when it's not popular.

I know for myself that church is not always a place to find loving fellowship.  Many times everyone is in such a hurry to go eat or go home, etc., that we don't give the time we should to each other.
The trouble is we need others who are willing to give of themselves in order for this to work.




I like when you said "word and deed." That is so true. The leadership in any church has to be sold out to loving the entire congregation and each other continuously. Many in leadership just want to hang out with a specified group and that is a shame. I can tell you as a Pastor that it is a blessing to know and fellowship with everyone we possibly can in our church. When people start being loved and cared for they will return that to others around them.