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Re: Your wedding vows and what they mean
« Reply #15 on: March 20, 2010, 04:37:19 AM »
About the wedding vows in the first post, why don't you have the woman say the words about reverencing her husband from the part about the wife's duty from the pasage you cite.  you have the wife agreeing to do the instructions to the husband.

that doesn't gow ith your egalitarian viewpoint, but it makes sense in light of hte passage.

Btw, i don't think being more egalitarian is going to lower the divorce rate.  It is probably the case that women's liberation and too much emphasis on 'sameness', and the stripping away of male headship and leadership in the home is what has inflated the divorce rate. 

Social stigma against divorce, a death penalty for adultery if proven, and making it very difficult, legally to divorce would be a way of keeping a low divorce rate in a society.  It's worked in the past. 

in the church, confronting and restoring people who sin sexually or in putting away their wives-- and cutting off from fellowship those who do not repent may reduce divorce rates.  Teaching against divorce more may help as well.  It is amazing how many church people you encounter who think divorce and remarriage is no big deal.

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Re: Your wedding vows and what they mean
« Reply #16 on: March 20, 2010, 05:12:18 AM »
Really has nothing to do with vows or even what folks try to make Christ say about divorce.  It has to do with love and respect for one another.  We will celebrate 42 years June of this year.  When you find an angel you hang on to her! 

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Re: Your wedding vows and what they mean
« Reply #17 on: March 23, 2010, 07:07:19 PM »
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It has to do with love and respect for one another.


Absolutely!

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We will celebrate 42 years June of this year.


You have about 5 years and 8 months years on me and my wife.  However, we had a 2 year and one month engagement--if that counts for anything  ::smile::

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Re: Your wedding vows and what they mean
« Reply #18 on: March 23, 2010, 07:33:56 PM »
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After my dad met my wife before we were married.  He told her parents he did not think I could have foumd a better woman than Janet.  Her dad said we don't think she could have found a better man.  My dad responed "Ohyes she could."   He was right.

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Re: Your wedding vows and what they mean
« Reply #19 on: March 23, 2010, 07:40:16 PM »
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Btw, i don't think being more egalitarian is going to lower the divorce rate.  It is probably the case that women's liberation and too much emphasis on 'sameness', and the stripping away of male headship and leadership in the home is what has inflated the divorce rate.  


Egalitarianism does not mean sameness.  It also is NOT feminism NOR women's liberation in the sense that you and several others are trying to apply those terms.  The egalitarian approach to marriage means that the man and the woman respect each other equally, share in the decissions equally, share in raising the children equally, submit to each other equally, and care for each other equally, regardless of life's trials.  They will each still  have their unique abilities, personalities, and functions inside the marriage.

The vows won't make or break the marriage.  Mutual respect and submission for each other will make the marriage and lack of it will break the marriage.  However, vows given should mean something to those who make them (at least they should) and if they don't, then they shouldn't make them.  Since God did not say say this to the man or say this to the woman, we have alot of flexibility in writing and making the vows for our own marriages.

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Re: Your wedding vows and what they mean
« Reply #20 on: March 24, 2010, 06:02:03 AM »
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You it the nail on the head! 

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