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Your wedding vows and what they mean

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phoebe:

--- Quote from: larry2 on March 10, 2010, 09:21:54 AM ---
--- Quote from: walker starr on March 10, 2010, 08:45:27 AM ---


   Larry ,dear brother, would GOD have given us the equipment that HE did
   if HE had intended us to follow the advice and example of Paul regarding marriage?  ::smile::

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rofl  I think by the time we came along the earth had been replenished. The result now is over population and a massive divorce rate.  ::smile::


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Wasn't when Paul wrote those comments.

canuck:

--- Quote from: WileyClarkson on March 10, 2010, 05:51:27 AM ---
MAN SAYS
With this ring, I, _________, take you _______, to be my wife,
before God who brought us together;
to love you and to cherish you even as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for it,
to protect you and to be the source of strength and love for you to draw from,
and to support you in all you endeavor to do
while sharing in all of life's experiences with you
as we follow God through them together all the days of our lives.
That through His grace, ________, we might grow together into the likeness of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord.
 
WOMAN SAYS
And with this ring, I, ______, take you, _________, to be my husband,
before God who brought us together,
to love you and to cherish you, even as Christ loved the Church and gave Himself for it,
to support you in everything you endeavor to do,
and to walk by your side while sharing in all of life's experiences with you
as we follow God through them together all the days of our lives.  
That through His grace, ___________, we might grow together into the likeness of Jesus Christ, our Savior and Lord.


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These vows by the woman mirror closely the vows given by the man.

The command given by the Lord through Paul that a man should love his wife as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for it is an instruction for husbands -- not for wives. Therefore, it seems inappropriate for a woman to be making vows that are clearly the Lord's commands to husbands --  being that they are held responsible and accountable by God for the cohesiveness of the marriage -- not wives.

An egalitarian viewpoint of the marriage relationship has no scriptural support -- other than the fact that both partners stand equal before God in the matter of their redemption and justification. The responsibility of wives and husbands are clearly different according to Scripture (noting especially Eph. 5:22-28 ; Col. 3:18,19 ; 1 Pet. 3:1-8) and thus any marriage vows taken should reflect those differences and not contribute to confusion -- which is what these above-quoted vows do.

canuck

WileyClarkson:
phoebe,

happy 20th!

Debbie_55:
I do not remember what we actually said, but I do know we made a vow to God to love each other unconditionally and to walk beside each other and resolve all our problems by putting Christ in the center of our life to be our strength and the Holy Spirit to be our guide.

In Christ we have life,
In Jesus we find faith,
In the comforter we find love,
On the Rock we build our house,
Strong stable and true,
To God we pledge our love, our life,
Our commitment,
Today and each tomorrow to come.

This saying was given to us as a wedding gift and this is what we base our marriage on for the last 12 years and all the years to come.

WileyClarkson:
Canuck,

There is nothing wrong in a woman making vows that are of the same commitment level as the man.  Jesus expects no less of a woman than he does of a man in any given situation, and he does not expect anymore of a man than he does of a woman.  If the man and woman repeating those vows are committing to the marriage and each other in the same way that Christ is committed to the church, then that marriage will not fail under any circumstance and that makes those vows even more applicable.

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