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Teen Emotional Crises
« on: Thu Mar 22, 2007 - 18:24:35 »
With a teen, everything is a crisis sometimes.  How do you react when they overreact?

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #1 on: Thu Mar 22, 2007 - 18:31:13 »
Listen.......alot. I would ask alot of questions, not in a drilling way, but to allow them to think about the situation in another light, in how you may be trying to understand.

It's a blessing in itself just to have willing ears from someone who cares for them.

Let them know that things that seem so big sometimes, or many, if not most times turn out to be not as big as we believe so at first.

That's the only thing I can think of for the moment Marc.

Drama................a teen lifestyle, so it seems.

Best to you Marc!

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #2 on: Thu Mar 22, 2007 - 18:36:54 »
From the point of view of a father that has raised two teenage daughters, I think listening is important. It seems most of their complaints are something to the affect that we don't listen to them. Also as a father, I felt it was important to convey "unconditional" love to them, ie my love for them is not dependent on whether they are well behaved or not, or whether they fall short in some way or not. I think letting teenagers vent is very important. I remember as a teenager, that my parents usually cut me off before I was allowed to "get something out of my system."

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #3 on: Thu Mar 22, 2007 - 18:47:11 »
With a teen, everything is a crisis sometimes.  How do you react when they overreact?

Smack 'em?

Seriously though, sometimes my wife acts like this as well.

How do you deal with it?

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #4 on: Thu Mar 22, 2007 - 19:32:23 »
The same thing, listen Gary.   ::smile::

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #5 on: Thu Mar 22, 2007 - 21:12:10 »
Many of my clients are teenage girls.  They love drama.  Drives me crazy.  Listening is probably the most important thing you can do, as others have said.  Then, after you've listened and let themselves wear themselves out, sometimes they will be able to hear you when you suggest options that are different from what they would otherwise consider.  Sometimes it takes several sessions before they can hear you, though.

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #6 on: Thu Mar 22, 2007 - 22:59:53 »
Sometimes a little practicality helps.

Like, I have this fantasy where I take a teen who's whiney about the food I serve him/her -- and make them select their own chicken or rabbit, kill it, skin it, butcher it, cook it, and eat it.

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #7 on: Sat Mar 24, 2007 - 10:32:18 »
I thought of something else after the day I had yesterday!  While it is important to listen and be patient, at the same time, there are times when limits must be set.  Otherwise some of these kids will take over your life!  At some point, the reality must be faced that they are not the hub of the universe. ::hiding::

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #8 on: Mon Mar 26, 2007 - 01:02:00 »
Yeah. I've told my kids before that the world don't revolve around them.

It really revolves around me.

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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #9 on: Sun Sep 30, 2007 - 03:27:25 »
Just quietly send them to their room till they pipe down!

Reacting harshly to their overreactions is like putting gas on fire.


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Re: Teen Emotional Crises
« Reply #10 on: Sun Sep 30, 2007 - 06:37:18 »
Interesting that this pops back up now.

Wednesday night's class ended with a girl slapping a guy on the way out the door.  And not for the usual reasons, it seems.