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Offline Mirie

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Advice on leaving husband
« on: Tue Jul 10, 2018 - 21:26:10 »
Hello, I've been trying to formulate what to say and how to get there for a while now. I've been married to my husband for 12 years, some of it is okay but most of it consists of me walking on eggshells and being screamed at. He told me before we got married that he was a Christian,  then two years in came out and told me he had been lying all along. He never believed. He has always been verbally abusive to me, but it slowly has progressed to him tossing things at me, or like tonight, smashing a hard pillow into my face/head. He is threatening to kill my cats if I don't get rid of one ect. I have a very dear friend who kinda knows what's going on and I will be speaking to her tomorrow on the phone. I need some prayers and help please, on how to get the ball rolling to get me and my cats safe. I'm not sure when I will bring this up to him, but please pray for me. The reason I did not leave sooner is I fear for my cats safety if i go someplace. Family is an option also, my family and i are very close. Thank you, God bless.

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Re: Advice on leaving husband
« Reply #1 on: Wed Jul 11, 2018 - 04:01:57 »
Hi Mirie

He is an abusive man and you do need to get away. Don't even mention what you are going to do, he may well get very angry and abusive if you do,  but make plans to get the cats out of the house and leave.

I am sure that your family would help being that you are close. Do you have a good supportive church?

 

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Re: Advice on leaving husband
« Reply #2 on: Wed Aug 29, 2018 - 07:53:38 »
I agree with chosen one, if he starting to get physical it’s only going to get worse and more dangerous. You need to Protect yourself and your cats. If you choose to leave, I wouldn’t tell him until it’s all set up and you and your cats are out of the house. I’m praying for you. I’m praying for him. God bless

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« Reply #3 on: Sat Sep 08, 2018 - 16:56:09 »
I will pray for you, Mirle; do you belong to a supportive church / fellowship? If not, then you have this lovely forum and maybe you could find an online church? Better than no church at all. I belong to an online church though it's a bit of a drive to the next twon, online worship and bible reading/ prayer is uplifting. Please consider this.

My late father was a violent man. Towards the end of her life, my mother separated from him only to protect us though father still continued his nasty ways. You should leave him; contact your closest most trusted friend and ask them to help you find accomodation out of the area you live in. If you work, perhaps an apartment closeby would be helpful. I feel you could see your doctor and ask for advice with them. All GPs keep their patient's information strictly confidential and your doctor may know of a sheltered home that could give you temporary accomodation.

No-one should have to tolerate domestic violence. I'm a survivor.
Our Lord will keep you and bless you in these coming days,

Dulcie

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