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Offline Josie

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Beauty Taken Away
« on: Sun Jul 16, 2017 - 10:38:40 »
I am 50 years old.
I am not gorgeous, but I'm cute.
Well, I WAS.
I recently had a lot of dental work done and now I'm embarrassed to smile.
I look UGLY.
I feel that I repel people.
Is there some deeper reason why my beauty would be taken away?
Is this a punishment for something I've done?
Is there a lesson to be learned?
A preacher that I listened to says that when we get offended and talk (or vent) about the offense, this causes sickness in our mouth.
Well, I'm certainly guilty of being offended and speaking about it.
What do you think?

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #1 on: Sun Jul 16, 2017 - 11:00:42 »
I think its very sad that you think that the dental work you have had done may be God(?) punishing you?Do you also think that when we get wrinkles or go bald or gray that is also a punishment?
What caused the dental work? Tooth decay?
I do think that our words are powerful and that if we speak fear or worry or negativity it is harmful to us.

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #2 on: Thu Aug 10, 2017 - 20:38:43 »
Aw, Josie, dental work is supposed to make you look better not worse.  Maybe you just aren't used to the change yet.  I'm sure you don't look ugly when you smile, I know people with very bad teeth who still look warm and sweet when they smile, it's the heart behind the smile that makes it beautiful.

As for aging in general, that happens to even the best people in the world, it isn't punishment, it's nature.  Maybe God wants us to work on our character more as we prepare our souls for Heaven.

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #3 on: Sun Aug 13, 2017 - 23:40:21 »
Hope it does make you look and feel better. First and foremost. Just praying for you. You are pretty inside out.

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #4 on: Fri Sep 01, 2017 - 09:32:02 »
Hi Josie, I do know how you feel. It wasn't my teeth, it was another part of me that is now altered. Like you, I got advice that I was beautiful in Christ...that I was blessed in many other areas...etc...which is certainly good and true advice. But sometimes, we also just need to be allowed to grieve over our looks. Because we are human after all...and women! And these things often matter very much to women. So I get it. I truly do. Allow yourself some time to feel human about it. It's OK. And I'm hoping it doesn't look as bad as you think it does. But even if it does, allow yourself to feel bad for a bit...but then be sure to move on. Ask yourself, 'How can I make this issue more tolerable?' Then do it.

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #5 on: Mon Feb 05, 2018 - 13:03:02 »
As long as you are beautiful inside it can't be taken away.

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« Reply #6 on: Mon Feb 05, 2018 - 16:00:04 »
Beauty from within if it is from God never indeed could be taken away.

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #7 on: Mon Feb 05, 2018 - 17:27:16 »
I am 50 years old.
I am not gorgeous, but I'm cute.
Well, I WAS.
I recently had a lot of dental work done and now I'm embarrassed to smile.
I look UGLY.
I feel that I repel people.
Is there some deeper reason why my beauty would be taken away?
Is this a punishment for something I've done?
Is there a lesson to be learned?
A preacher that I listened to says that when we get offended and talk (or vent) about the offense, this causes sickness in our mouth.
Well, I'm certainly guilty of being offended and speaking about it.
What do you think?

 ::hug::

I don't think you are being punished, though its easy to believe the Accuser when he whispers things like that to us. He loves to condemn us.

You are beautiful in the eyes of God and those that love you. I am sorry you are feeling so low right now, and I don't want to make light of that, but I want you to know that every time you feel afraid of what others say because of your outward appearance; God looks at your heart.  Your heart makes you truly beautiful! 

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« Reply #8 on: Sun Feb 25, 2018 - 06:56:55 »
As 4WD asked... was the work done properly.

A second opinion never hurts.

Also, what work did you have doe that makes you feel this about yourself?

As the daughter od a dentist, I cannot imagine such, other then just extractions, leaving gaps in your smile.

If that is the case there are remedies for that.

Please tell us more

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #9 on: Sat Jun 02, 2018 - 20:52:58 »
Hi Josie, I do know how you feel. It wasn't my teeth, it was another part of me that is now altered. Like you, I got advice that I was beautiful in Christ...that I was blessed in many other areas...etc...which is certainly good and true advice. But sometimes, we also just need to be allowed to grieve over our looks. Because we are human after all...and women! And these things often matter very much to women. So I get it. I truly do. Allow yourself some time to feel human about it. It's OK. And I'm hoping it doesn't look as bad as you think it does. But even if it does, allow yourself to feel bad for a bit...but then be sure to move on. Ask yourself, 'How can I make this issue more tolerable?' Then do it.

Loved this reply. It's true and I appreciate the value of intentional, genuine discussions about being human while knowing an awesome God.

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« Reply #10 on: Tue Jun 05, 2018 - 19:23:47 »
Hi Josie, I do know how you feel. It wasn't my teeth, it was another part of me that is now altered. Like you, I got advice that I was beautiful in Christ...that I was blessed in many other areas...etc...which is certainly good and true advice. But sometimes, we also just need to be allowed to grieve over our looks. Because we are human after all...and women! And these things often matter very much to women. So I get it. I truly do. Allow yourself some time to feel human about it. It's OK. And I'm hoping it doesn't look as bad as you think it does. But even if it does, allow yourself to feel bad for a bit...but then be sure to move on. Ask yourself, 'How can I make this issue more tolerable?' Then do it.

Ive an area of my body that I've felt ashamed of for years.  Years! I've wept and lamented and cried out to God over it, asking Him to change it...and one day He challenged me.  "what would I give up for this "thing" that I couldn't let go of that I didn't have?" What gift, or talent or blessing would I be willing to give up if it meant I could have this physical change? My marriage? My kids? How about just one kid?  What about my house?  My ability to do this or that?  What would it be, what was I willing to trade and just finally quit telling Him how He'd failed me?

I blinked and thought, but not very long. It was pretty clear---my answer was nothing.  What God had blessed me with was far greater than what I was obsessing over that I didn't have. What He'd given me were things that wouldn't fade, that wouldn't be ransacked by time or age or whatever.  Our bodies will break down, beauty will fade, but the heart of us?  That is eternal and God is an amazing creator!  He delights in us each one, no matter what our mirrors or the neighbors have to say. Sorry...::soapbox:: moment trigger for me, I guess. haha.

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Re: Beauty Taken Away
« Reply #11 on: Wed Jun 06, 2018 - 18:48:32 »
 Well  maybe this will help ?

I had  upper dentures  put in  before I got married......  I guess my mother did not see to it
that I brushed and took care ????????
My husband when we got married  did not know I had them..........   

The thing is  they are a pain......  in my mind.......  and I wish  I would have taken care of my
teeth  like I should have.     At  my age now  83  it would be  time for them I guess?
But  at least  I can eat  !  and not be tooth less.........   

There are a lot of  up and downs  with teeth.......  So do as the doctors  say........dentist !

 

     
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