I learned that my ex MIL died last week. I didn't know she was sick so it still feels so strange that she's gone. We weren't close at all and I haven't spoken to the majority of my ex's family in 8 years. I didn't go to the memorial service for that reason. I have made my peace with her, I did even before I knew she was ill. I'd considered getting in touch with her, waivered on it, then decided not to. I went to the web-site where here memorial was and they had a video photo gallery thing - there was even a picture of me in it. I was touched in a way, considering my ex is with someone else. They had photos from both their sons weddings - both sons are divorced. Anyway, it is just really weird. This is harder to wrap my head around than my own aunt by marriage's death a few months ago. Thanks for letting me vent.
I was reading online about attending ex in-laws funeral - after the fact - there are definitely mixed feelings. I had my own memorial watching those photos and my parents are sending a sympathy card from our family. Still weird!!