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Sticky situation with neighbor
« on: Tue Aug 13, 2019 - 10:53:26 »
The house next door sold a couple of years ago. The new neighbors mow just twice a summer (no exaggeration) Their grass (and now weeds) are so high - it looks so bad. They have a mower and teens, so there's no excuse I can think of. They are Asian and speak no English. I've tried chatting with them a couple of times, trying to introduce myself,  but no luck.
Tomorrow is mowing day at my house. What if I pay my mowers $20 to mow the neighbor's front yard? Rude? Possibly illegal? Just being a good neighbor? Will they take a hint that they need to mow more than twice a year? Should I just try to ignore it? How would you handle it?


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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #1 on: Tue Aug 13, 2019 - 10:58:30 »
Do like I did and send them a letter stating, “Add $10,000 to the value of your home. By just acting like someone lives there and mow the freaking grass.”

My second try was offering to mow their front yard for free when I do mine.

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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #2 on: Tue Aug 13, 2019 - 11:11:55 »
I would ignore it.  But that sort of thing doesn't bother me anyway.  No one can see my yards in the summer either.

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« Reply #3 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 06:57:59 »
Do you live in Town or city most have rules on this maybe you can report it? If you live in county or country then you are on your own sorry you will have to decide your own course of action.

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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #4 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 08:13:12 »
I remember the good ol’ days when people took a smidgeon of pride in their yards. Even when I was young and poorer, I would mow and edge the yard. It was therapeutic and kinda presented an image to the neighborhood that I gave a crap, because I did. I have young neighbors living a couple of houses down that haven’t mowed all summer. Also a couple of Saturdays ago I was sitting peacefully in my backyard sipping coffee at 6:00 am and all of a sudden their garage door opened up in the alley and a head banger song was blaring as loud as it would go 10 ft from another neighbor’s bedroom window. I ran down the alley to see what was going on. They were both drunk and I said, “what in the **** do you think you are doing? people are sleeping at this hour, have just a little consideration!” They looked at me and slurred, “maaaaann we’re s-sorry, we didn’t know.” I told them well now you do, don’t do it again.”

I would volunteer to mow their weeds, but some of the weeds have trunks 3” in diameter. Not to mention almost a solid stand of grass burrs they refer to as “native grass”.

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« Reply #5 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 09:09:07 »
My neighbors on both sides of me let goatheads grow unchecked. I go though my yard weekly and dig that stuff up, since I hate to walk the stickers into my house and then step on them barefoot.

I have gotten to the point that I go a few feet into their yards and dig up those weeds, just so I can maybe help stop them from spreading back into my yard (I got it under control in my yard for now). I gave a hint a few years ago to one neighbor, and they got rid of them for a spell, but not for long.

Oh well. ::shrug::

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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #6 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 09:30:06 »
Yeah goat heads are the worst. Grass burrs are a close second. A forest of 3 inch in diameter careless weeds with seed tassles over 3 feet long are up there as well.

My real nemesis is tall unmowed grass in the curb and gutter cracks, even if the main part of the yard is nicely cut. $15 dollar weed killer spray (if a week eater is out of the question) and 15 minutes does wonders. I have been known to buy a bottle at lowes and put it on the neighbor’s porch with a sticky note stating such. And maybe an added statement of “do your neighborhood a favor and play like someone lives there.”
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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #7 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 09:55:49 »
Jaime- IKWYM! When I drive through my little hometown, I'm truly saddened how no one appears to care about their yard and home's exterior. When I was young, we were poor, and so were our neighbors, but we kept our lawns looking presentable. Back then, there were a handful of homes with trashy yards and tall grass. Now the situation has flipped and only a handful of homes have tidy yards. It's so sad to drive through that town nowadays.

Yogi- I live in the suburbs on a small lot. We have city ordinances that grass can't grow more than 12" tall without risk of the city fining the homeowner. I haven't gone that route - yet.

TC- I've decided against getting my mowers to cut the neighbor's yard - for several reasons.

soterion- We get so many sandburs in my area. When my grandson used to mow yards with his friends, he'd usually come home with sandburs stuck in his socks. I gave him a pair of tweezers and had him pick them out of his socks so they wouldn't end up stuck in my towels. Like you, I've done a little reach-over weeding at our property line.


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« Reply #8 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 10:21:02 »
I just got the yard stick and went out and measured. The tallest weeds measure 22", but most are around 18"-20".

I hope they saw me.  rofl  HINT! HINT!!  rofl

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« Reply #9 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 10:39:13 »
Mommydi, it isn’t just the poor neighborhoods here, it boggles my mind to drive through $500,000 neighborhoods and see the neglect going on in the yards. I think to myself if they are vain enough to live in this expensive of a neighborhood, why not be vain enough to mow the weeds every once in a while.

It’s akin to having a new Ferrari parked in the driveway covered in mud for weeks with half eaten chicken fried chicken pieces littering the interior. With a peanut butter and jelly sandwich smeared all over the leather interior, and an old Copenhagen spit cup fermenting in the console.



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« Reply #10 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 11:49:33 »
I agree that it can be difficult to take care of a yard, if it has become out of control. I've dealt with them before.

I just do a broadcast weed killer at the end of the growing season and then again at the start of the next. That will help kill the majority of the weeds, particularly the broadleafs. Than you can go in and either develop the grass that is already growing, or plant new grass. Any still existing weeds can be dug up.

It takes some work, but with persistence it can be done. Like Jaime says, it takes a bit of pride.

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« Reply #11 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 12:32:03 »
I agree that it can be difficult to take care of a yard, if it has become out of control. I've dealt with them before.

I just do a broadcast weed killer at the end of the growing season and then again at the start of the next. That will help kill the majority of the weeds, particularly the broadleafs. Than you can go in and either develop the grass that is already growing, or plant new grass. Any still existing weeds can be dug up.

It takes some work, but with persistence it can be done. Like Jaime says, it takes a bit of pride.

That's similar to what I do. I put down a pre-emergent in the early spring and late fall. That keeps the weeds from popping up. Then I put down a fertilizer twice during growing season - then hand pull the few weeds who don't submit to the pre-emergent application.
A neighbor up the street got his degree in horticulture and is also head groundskeeper at a nearby golf course. His lawn looks so manicured, it looks fake (but gorgeous!) He probably cringes at some of these lawns around here.
What's giving me fits this year is I have gotten a bunch of wild strawberries in my flowerbeds in the back yard. No amount of pulling is taking care of it. What I don't want to do is lift all my perennials - spray the whole area, then replant my perennials. I don't know how else to get rid of them, though. They're taking over the beds they're in now and I'm worried they'll spread more and into the lawn. I'm assuming a bird brought this lovely problem to my yard.



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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #12 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 13:34:13 »
I was talking to a realtor friend about this and he said a well kept yard on an average sized house could easily make $10,000 difference to the owner above a total train wreck yard that we have been describing. It seems nuts people would voluntarily sign on to a value cut of that magnitude, not to mention the absolute turnoff to potential buyers. A well manicured crispy brown yard is way more valuable than the experimental weed plots I’ve seen. The subtle “I give a crap” look bodes well for a quicker sell at a decent price.

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« Reply #13 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 16:06:51 »
Jaime, not only does it devalue their house, but possibly their neighbor's house? When I put my house up for sale, and if their grass is butt high, I plan on mowing it myself for sure then!

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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #14 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 17:08:50 »
Yes I’m with ya on that. Makes ya wonder what kind of desolation has overtaken the interior of their house? And any potential buyers would definitely write down their valuation.
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« Reply #15 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 18:46:22 »
I just went out to clean and refill the fountain, and saw neighbor teen sitting in his car chatting on phone. I kept waiting for him to look up so I could  point to his tall grass and make a motion like pushing a lawn mower - but he never looked my way.

There are tons of videos on youtube of home owners complaining about neighbors not mowing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JX0wWsislhs

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« Reply #16 on: Wed Aug 14, 2019 - 20:42:58 »
I am glad I don't live next to all of you city slickers.   ::whistle::

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« Reply #17 on: Thu Aug 15, 2019 - 14:28:46 »
Yes, our block has every house but one in good shape.   Even the guys sharing a rent house, put in a garden and keep the yard up.  But one is literally a jungle.   We're all nice people here, and no one wants to turn him in, which is what has to be done in this community, in order to get a citation.

But some people are running out of patience. It's a long block, and we're far away from him, or Mrs. Barbarian would have done it by now.   

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« Reply #18 on: Thu Aug 15, 2019 - 14:54:23 »
The house next door sold a couple of years ago. The new neighbors mow just twice a summer (no exaggeration) Their grass (and now weeds) are so high - it looks so bad. They have a mower and teens, so there's no excuse I can think of. They are Asian and speak no English. I've tried chatting with them a couple of times, trying to introduce myself,  but no luck.
Tomorrow is mowing day at my house. What if I pay my mowers $20 to mow the neighbor's front yard? Rude? Possibly illegal? Just being a good neighbor? Will they take a hint that they need to mow more than twice a year? Should I just try to ignore it? How would you handle it?
This would drive me crazy. I would remind them in a kind way that it is to their benefit to keep up their house and lawn. I probably would not pay someone to mow their yard for a few reasons, one they could get you for trespassing, etc.  CK with the local codes and I'm sure there are laws against not taking care of one's lawn and call the authorities.

I'm in this business and I may go just a little overboard, but a few little weeds drive me nuts~I just spray RED ZONE (FOR WARM SEASON GRASSES)  on my lawns three times in the past three weeks to eliminate all weeds. I'm putting down IRON later this week to add DEEP GREEN to my lawn, the same that's put on golf courses. I have about three acres that I manicure and it takes work and effort which many will not put forth.

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« Reply #19 on: Thu Aug 15, 2019 - 16:08:17 »
I prefer to first trespass on their mailbox with a not so polite pointed reminder to act like somebody lives there. THEN I turn ‘em in. Get a rope!
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« Reply #20 on: Thu Aug 15, 2019 - 17:15:15 »

One thing I'm sure of and Red can confirm this; if your neighbors are harvesting weeds it's an uphill battle to keep your own lawn nice.

One of my neighbors is a junk collector and the other is a yuppy that bought the house already renovated and does the bare minimum to keep his lawn up. His weeds grow through the fence into my yard and I do my best to yank them out but In reality I have more than enough of my own work to do.

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« Reply #21 on: Thu Aug 15, 2019 - 20:27:52 »
I can't see my neighbors houses in the summer.  My neighbor to the South is 40 acres of Marsh and woods.  My neighbor to the East is woods and corn field.  I didn't grow up in the city and I don't live in a town or village.

Being upset about someone's lawn is fine in city limits or village limits.  It isn't okay in the boonies.  In the boonies, you mind your own business.

I am way more country than the southren city slickers on here.

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« Reply #22 on: Thu Aug 15, 2019 - 20:38:21 »
I tend to be judgmental of sorry so and sos that thrill in screwing up the neighborhood. When I grew up in the country, even the poor folks tended to take a little pride in their homes. I’ve seen mesquite pastures that look better than some people’s yards. No excuse for that.

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« Reply #23 on: Thu Aug 15, 2019 - 21:31:17 »
I tend to be judgmental of sorry so and sos that thrill in screwing up the neighborhood. When I grew up in the country, even the poor folks tended to take a little pride in their homes. I’ve seen mesquite pastures that look better than some people’s yards. No excuse for that.
I agree, Jaime. As far as I know, there's no reason my neighbor can't mow more often than twice a year so it shows an absolute thumbing-of-the-nose to everyone else in our neighborhood.



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« Reply #24 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 04:37:27 »
One thing I'm sure of and Red can confirm this; if your neighbors are harvesting weeds it's an uphill battle to keep your own lawn nice.
It is an uphill battle regardless of neighbors~the WIND is our greatest battle for with that comes all kinds of wild seeds and the birds are NO HELP they scatter their fair share for sure. But I love my little friends and have much food around for them to come and dine at the master's table.

Alan, I would keep me a gallon of Round-up on hand and would spray the fenced area once a month~ so lazy neighbors can keep their seeds on their side. Round-up is okay to use as long as one does keep it off of them and clean their hand well after use.

Texas Conservative~I can only imagine what your weed-infested area looks like~ ::smile:: I watched Dr. Pol's programs and Michigan's landowners look like they love weeds more than Zoysia which I have.
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Us southern city slickers ALSO believe in taking baths every day!  ::intherain:: It seems that those who live in what you called the boonies are scared of water.  ::shrug::  We still love you, but PLEASE more than once a month.  A bar of soap and water is cheap. There's got to be a Little General or a Dollar store close to you.
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« Reply #25 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 09:15:47 »
I don't think that our neighbours land is our business really. If we want to sell, then ask them if they would like you to help them mow their lawn, otherwise leave it. The value wont matter unless you are moving. People are free to live in a jungle if they choose whether we like it or not. 
 

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« Reply #26 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 10:30:26 »
I don't think that our neighbours land is our business really. If we want to sell, then ask them if they would like you to help them mow their lawn, otherwise leave it. The value wont matter unless you are moving. People are free to live in a jungle if they choose whether we like it or not. 
 

With a comment like that, I bet your yard looks like my neighbor's.  ::tippinghat::   rofl
Most people with decent yards don't want their neighbors having jungle yards.
People with rodent infested jungle yards don't care if their neighbors have the same.

Speaking of jungles -

When my neighbor's grass and weeds are two feet tall, and their rodents and roaches are running onto my patio - which is only 15 feet from my neighbor's patio - then it is my business. When one neighbor lets their house and yard go to shambles, it negatively affects the entire neighborhood.




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« Reply #27 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 10:39:25 »
It is an uphill battle regardless of neighbors~the WIND is our greatest battle for with that comes all kinds of wild seeds and the birds are NO HELP they scatter their fair share for sure. But I love my little friends and have much food around for them to come and dine at the master's table.

Same here. Love the beautiful birds that come to my yard!

I have a large, empty field directly behind my house, but the owner has always kept it neatly mown - and I so appreciate it. I can't imagine the mess of weeds and varmints I'd have if he let it go jungle.


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« Reply #28 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 10:53:26 »
Neighborhoods as well as our free country only work when EVERYONE has everyone else’s best interest at heart. If not we quickly digress into what is OK for the worst of the bunch can or will tolerate.

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« Reply #29 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 10:59:33 »
I don't think that our neighbours land is our business really. If we want to sell, then ask them if they would like you to help them mow their lawn, otherwise leave it. The value wont matter unless you are moving. People are free to live in a jungle if they choose whether we like it or not. 
 

mommydi is right. If it impacts certain neighbors, then a person's yard becomes their business.


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« Reply #30 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 11:07:39 »
Absolutely!

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Re: Sticky situation with neighbor
« Reply #31 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 11:09:06 »
mommydi is right. If it impacts certain neighbors, then a person's yard becomes their business.

I don't have a neighborhood.  My yard is my business alone.  My nearest neighbor's house is 0.2 miles away.

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« Reply #32 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 11:28:09 »
Same here. Love the beautiful birds that come to my yard!

I have a large, empty field directly behind my house, but the owner has always kept it neatly mown - and I so appreciate it. I can't imagine the mess of weeds and varmints I'd have if he let it go jungle.

I hate birds.  That's why I have outside cats to kill them. 

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« Reply #33 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 11:29:47 »
Neighborhoods as well as our free country only work when EVERYONE has everyone else’s best interest at heart. If not we quickly digress into what is OK for the worst of the bunch can or will tolerate.

I'll stick with private ownership of land and the Constitution.  You go on being a RINO with your views on land.

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« Reply #34 on: Fri Aug 16, 2019 - 11:41:57 »
I'll stick with private ownership of land and the Constitution.  You go on being a RINO with your views on land.

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My neighbor's rights end where mine begin. If his 2 ft tall jungle has become a home for rats and roaches that are now coming onto my property, he's trampling on my rights.

 

     
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