Hi ..... I'm new here and hoping you all can help me. I've been married to my husband for 11.5 yrs and everything has been good. We have the usual arguments and frustrations every couple go through. Two days ago, I was at work and my husband called me to ask me a question; he asks me If I had slept with someone. My heart sank. I couldn't believe my ears. Neither of us has been unfaithful. So I couldn't believe he asked me this. He told me he has an unusual rash on his groin area. I've been a mess since. I know he has athletes foot and has been using this creme on his toes. He uses his hands to apply. So I look it up and low and behold it can be transferred to other body parts. I forwarded this to him. I still can't help feeling like he doesn't trust me. Am I over reacting? I love him so much and would not do that to him. We have 3 beautiful children and I don't understand how he can think this. I get angry, then sad, then I just think I'm being silly.
What do I do? Do I just forget about it?
He's apologized, but I can't help this feeling of sadness
Annlee
He wasn't particularly smart, but forgive him anyway. The good news is that you are both faithful to each other, and he's just learned that he needs to wash his hands.
It sounds as though he should have done some research about this himself or gone to the doctor before he asked you this question. He has been very thoughtless and it may take time for you to build up that trust in him again, but I am sure that it will happen in time. I can totally understand why you are hurt. as when you are faithful it isnt nice to be accused of not being, by anyone let alone your own spouse.
You will need to let it go and forgive him at some point, but it is understandable that you are hust by this, as he was doubting in your integrity. You may well need to talk it thorugh with him for a while to get it out of your system though.
Love can overcome this... and it's your choice.
Sometimes the things we say can hurt... and they can hurt for a very long time.
I have had to ovecome such hurt in the past, which, just as in your case, came through ignorance.
Please be at peace, and let yourself deal with this gently.
Some things can be very frightening when we receive misinformation. Be thankful you were able to find out the truth.