I've been dating a wonderful Christian man for a year and a half. As a matter of fact, I've never met anyone who lived so fully for God the way he does. Anyway, he is completely in love with me, and I love him, but I know that I don't love him the way that he loves me. I have been in love before, and the love I have for my current boyfriend is quite a bit less than the love I had for a past boyfriend. Although I'm not head over heels for him, the Lord has spoken to my heart several times about him and told me that he is The One. My boyfriend has said that the Lord has told him the same thing. I know that if I married him, I would be happy forever, but I still think the whole situation is unfair for both of us. He has seriously changed my life. He showed me what a relationship with God is supposed to look like, and if it weren't for him, I would not be saved. If the Lord continues to tell me that I am supposed to marry this man, I will gladly do it, because I want what He wants, and like I said, I know that my boyfriend would make me happy forever and support me. At the same time, my soul hurts when I think that I may end up marrying someone who doesn't give me butterflies and who I'm not madly in love with. Like I said, I DO love him, but not to the extent that I would marry him if the Lord weren't pointing me in that direction. I hope all of this makes sense.
I know that none of you can tell me what to do, because that is up to God, but have any of you ever been in a similar situation? I feel completely and utterly lost, frustrated, and confused. I will gladly take all the advice you can give. Thank you so much in advance for your thoughts and concerns.
God's blessings and peace.
-Rayanne
I have someone I am in love with, and I'd suppose she is not really whatever about me. But as I offer myself to God, I am finding that the "love" I am in for her can be more for her charm than for whoever she really is, deeper.
At times, I have read how a lady may have a guy but she does not dare to talk with him about a problem or concern that she has; and yet she says she so loves him. Well, if a lady does not trust her man, enough so she is comfortable with talking with him about what she is very concerned about, I am concerned about if her "love" is real love. I'd think if you have God's love together, then you trust each other enough to share about things that really matter to you.
So, this should answer my own situation . . . that if the woman I like a lot does not trust me by sharing her personal things with me, then maybe this is all I need to know.
If you trust him, I would say talk with him about this. And if you know you can trust him about things that deeply matter to you, this is what I would say is very important for having a really good marriage.
Butterflies may not stay around. And, after butterflies have gotten people together, later those people find out what kind of flowers those butterflies were pollinating. There are flowers of thorny thistles that can grow later; we need to make sure we are being pollinated to produce the fruit of the Holy Spirit ::smile::
: rayanne0129 Tue Sep 28, 2010 - 22:47:43
I've been dating a wonderful Christian man for a year and a half. As a matter of fact, I've never met anyone who lived so fully for God the way he does. Anyway, he is completely in love with me, and I love him, but I know that I don't love him the way that he loves me. I have been in love before, and the love I have for my current boyfriend is quite a bit less than the love I had for a past boyfriend. Although I'm not head over heels for him, the Lord has spoken to my heart several times about him and told me that he is The One. My boyfriend has said that the Lord has told him the same thing. I know that if I married him, I would be happy forever, but I still think the whole situation is unfair for both of us. He has seriously changed my life. He showed me what a relationship with God is supposed to look like, and if it weren't for him, I would not be saved. If the Lord continues to tell me that I am supposed to marry this man, I will gladly do it, because I want what He wants, and like I said, I know that my boyfriend would make me happy forever and support me. At the same time, my soul hurts when I think that I may end up marrying someone who doesn't give me butterflies and who I'm not madly in love with. Like I said, I DO love him, but not to the extent that I would marry him if the Lord weren't pointing me in that direction. I hope all of this makes sense.
I know that none of you can tell me what to do, because that is up to God, but have any of you ever been in a similar situation? I feel completely and utterly lost, frustrated, and confused. I will gladly take all the advice you can give. Thank you so much in advance for your thoughts and concerns.
God's blessings and peace.
-Rayanne
It's actually quite simple. If you don't want to marry him, don't.