Hi, thanks very much, it might be coming to the end of the world!!
I will leave the answer of why you cant maintain an erection to the men here, except to say have you been to your doctor?
However, its troubling to hear that you think its ok to have such a lot of sexual contact with so many women, especially as a Christian. You seem to think that doing everything except full sex is ok with women who will go on to become other men's wives. Would you like your future wife to have had men doing with her what you have been doing with other women?
Also the fact that you masturbate every day, sometimes twice a day, and presumably look at porn as well, will be damaging the way you see sex and women, and will often lead to difficulties with getting erect in a normal relationship. Many men who masturbate to porn long term cant get erections with their partners unless they see or imagine pornographic images, that is the evil of porn. A healthy relationship becomes almost impossible for the porn user. That has to go. Nothing will change unless you stop that and allow God to begin to cleanse you of all that rubbish in your mind.
So my thoughts are that you need to stop any porn use, try not to masturbate very often(if ever), and stay right away from ANY sexual contact with a woman until you are married, and concentrate on God and on building up your faith.
Try and take your thoughts away from all this and follow Gods plans and ways for your life. If God does have plans for you to marry, then this issue will all work out at that time, but please don't go out with non Christian girls, or Christian girls who want sex or sexual contact. That's for marriage only. You seem to have made terrible choices of previous girlfriends, especially the last one, I mean why did you stay with her?
If you are with the right lady, and get married, and you have taken steps to stop the porn and masturbation before you marry, then you will be able to work it out together and God will be helping. I have to say that most Christian women would not want to marry a guy who is a constant porn user, believe me. Its has destroyed many marriages.
Until you DO get married, its doesn't need to be an issue does it, because you aren't supposed to have sexual contact anyway, and the right lady will be understanding and patient.
Repent of all the past relationships where you have gone too far sexually, repent of the porn use and begin again with a clean slate is my advice. If you haven't already, find a good church and mix with other believers regularly, you do sound as if you need some good Christian teaching and friends and advise and wisdom.
And no, no one here will tell you to go to a prostitute, because that is a very serious sin.
what do you think you have been doing if all that isn't sex? You already had HAD sex before marriage!
Suggestion: quit fixating on sex and follow where the Lord leads you in life. Pay more attention to HIM.
: Helen Fri Jan 31, 2014 - 16:34:15
what do you think you have been doing if all that isn't sex? You already had HAD sex before marriage!
Suggestion: quit fixating on sex and follow where the Lord leads you in life. Pay more attention to HIM.
Agreed, the joy of the Lord is second to none. The woman that will marry you will respect your belief that sex will come
after marriage, and that includes touching and kissing!