I worked really hard on this article hoping that someone might find this helpful. It's rather long so I'm just posting the link.
http://selfdefensiveman.wordpress.com/2014/12/10/on-mens-sexual-purity-an-empowering-approach/ (http://selfdefensiveman.wordpress.com/2014/12/10/on-mens-sexual-purity-an-empowering-approach/)