Appeasing two families...how do we do it?

[MelBear82]

New to the boards, and thought I'd hit the ground running! Need some advice on this one.

My husband and I have a trip planned this weekend to go visit my sister and her husband in Dallas. They have been there for four years and I only have the opportunity to see them once or twice a year. My husband and I are really looking forward to the trip.

We found out two days ago that my husband's family has planned a surprise 50th (yes, 50th!) anniversary party for his grandparents this weekend. Several of his relatives who he does not get to see very often have made the last-minute decision to fly into town.

My husband's family knows that we have this trip to Texas and had no hard feelings about the fact that we were not going to be able to attend. But now that some of his relatives will be in town, we're torn between seeing the sister I never get to see or the relatives he never does!

I hate to cancel (or postpone) our trip, but this is a rare chance to see my husband's extended family. Thoughts??

[JohnDB]

Send the trip money to Dallas & let them come to you.

Then you get to do both.

[MeMyself]

New to the boards, and thought I'd hit the ground running! Need some advice on this one.

My husband and I have a trip planned this weekend to go visit my sister and her husband in Dallas. They have been there for four years and I only have the opportunity to see them once or twice a year. My husband and I are really looking forward to the trip.

We found out two days ago that my husband's family has planned a surprise 50th (yes, 50th!) anniversary party for his grandparents this weekend. Several of his relatives who he does not get to see very often have made the last-minute decision to fly into town.

My husband's family knows that we have this trip to Texas and had no hard feelings about the fact that we were not going to be able to attend. But now that some of his relatives will be in town, we're torn between seeing the sister I never get to see or the relatives he never does!

I hate to cancel (or postpone) our trip, but this is a rare chance to see my husband's extended family. Thoughts??

Could you divide and conquer?

You and go and he stay home to visit with those that will be there?

Do you have kids?  Do you need a break? Leave them for a fun weekend with Daddy...or...if your sis has kids and yours need some super fun cousin time, take them and let your dh have a "man's" weekend.

That is what we would do. 

[chosenone]

New to the boards, and thought I'd hit the ground running! Need some advice on this one.

My husband and I have a trip planned this weekend to go visit my sister and her husband in Dallas. They have been there for four years and I only have the opportunity to see them once or twice a year. My husband and I are really looking forward to the trip.

We found out two days ago that my husband's family has planned a surprise 50th (yes, 50th!) anniversary party for his grandparents this weekend. Several of his relatives who he does not get to see very often have made the last-minute decision to fly into town.

My husband's family knows that we have this trip to Texas and had no hard feelings about the fact that we were not going to be able to attend. But now that some of his relatives will be in town, we're torn between seeing the sister I never get to see or the relatives he never does!

I hate to cancel (or postpone) our trip, but this is a rare chance to see my husband's extended family. Thoughts??

  Hi Mel bear

Well you cant really change a 50th anniversay party, but you can change a weekend away to see relatives. So can you postpone the latter for another weekend?