She wants divorce but wants to help me

[ForATime]

I have added to the agenda.
She wants to change the/her current plan. I don't like either option.

[chosenone]

I have added to the agenda.
She wants to change the/her current plan. I don't like either option.

OK so go with what your plan is and maybe you can compromise.

[Texas Conservative]

I have added to the agenda.
She wants to change the/her current plan. I don't like either option.

OK so go with what your plan is and maybe you can compromise.

Ask for more time with the kids.  The kids need their dad regardless of the outcome of your marriage.

[ForATime]

Yes I intend to.

I feel this is a positive step

[ForATime]

Got served for D.
Too early.

[chosenone]

Got served for D.
Too early.

Delay it as long as you possibly can and keep praying for restoration.

[johndoo]

I'm not sure what to say.  I'm sorry for your struggle.  The best piece of advice I can give ( and that was given to me) is to try not to internalize the feelings of failure.  This is the clear signal that you have wanted.  It will allow you to move forward.
It is painful and therefore your natural inclination is to say "it is to early".  Consider counseling for yourself if needed.
God bless.

[ForATime]

Too early comment is actually about the law. We haven't separated long enough to apply.

Thanks for your kind words

[chosenone]

Too early comment is actually about the law. We haven't separated long enough to apply.

Thanks for your kind words

how can she serve you if its too soon legally?

[ForATime]

She can serve. It's too soon to be granted.
Sorry. My wording was bad.
We haven't met the requirements.

[chosenone]

Well you can decide to delay it as long as possible and pray, or you can decide that if she wants out you may was well enable it to happen asap.

[ForATime]

Plan A

[ForATime]

Now she emails to say I wanted to be served so that is why it happened

[chosenone]

Now she emails to say I wanted to be served so that is why it happened

She is deluded it seems. Maybe you need to email her back and say that you have never wanted a divorce and will not be enabling it in anyway.