Are sexual innuendo jokes sinful?

[Kevin397]

I'm not referring to talks about how attractive women are, or an arousing scene in a movie, but I'm merely referring to things such as "That's what she said". The bible says in Ephesians 4, "Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving." Does filthiness refer to inappropriate comments like "That's what she said", or is it something much more?   

[chosenone]

I dont know what you mean by 'thats what she said'.

[mommydi]

I dont know what you mean by 'thats what she said'.

chosen, it's what younger people do to imply sexual innuendo when none was intended. For example - two girls just finish a test in a college class. As they leave the class, one girl says, "Wow, that was hard!" The other girl would answer, "that's what she said" which is trying to turn the original statement into something with sexual overtones.

[skater07]

I don't know, but I don't like it, and I wish sometimes I could unhear things. Because at times I hear completely normal things, where nothing was intended and in my mind I think of it in a bad inappropriate way. I guess we all have to struggle with thoughts... I don't know what else to do other than rebuke the thoughts.

[Kevin397]

I dont know what you mean by 'thats what she said'.

chosen, it's what younger people do to imply sexual innuendo when none was intended. For example - two girls just finish a test in a college class. As they leave the class, one girl says, "Wow, that was hard!" The other girl would answer, "that's what she said" which is trying to turn the original statement into something with sexual overtones.

I always thought of it as harmless and playful, but I guess I was wrong.

[mommydi]

I dont know what you mean by 'thats what she said'.

chosen, it's what younger people do to imply sexual innuendo when none was intended. For example - two girls just finish a test in a college class. As they leave the class, one girl says, "Wow, that was hard!" The other girl would answer, "that's what she said" which is trying to turn the original statement into something with sexual overtones.

I always thought of it as harmless and playful, but I guess I was wrong.

I'm not going to tell you if it's right or wrong. 

Let me add -
I have a friend who is in her 20s, and she does the "that's what she said" to me sometimes. The first few times I giggled, but after a while, the "that's what she said" innuendo gets a little old. That may just be me, though.   

[Winnie]

If it affects others in a bad way, as stated above, then it is sin.  I know I get thoughts stuck in my head too sometimes, as stated before, which I know is the enemy.  Then I have to combat it somehow with other words.  But the bible clearly says no course joking.
Would you talk that way if Jesus were sitting next to you?

[MeMyself]

Would you talk that way if Jesus were sitting next to you?

Interesting point...

However, God made sex, so would Jesus be scandalized about the subject whether in jest or serious conversation?

[Lady Daffodil]

I dont know what you mean by 'thats what she said'.

chosen, it's what younger people do to imply sexual innuendo when none was intended. For example - two girls just finish a test in a college class. As they leave the class, one girl says, "Wow, that was hard!" The other girl would answer, "that's what she said" which is trying to turn the original statement into something with sexual overtones.

Gee, I've never hear that expression.  But then, I'm 60.   

[Lady Daffodil]

That said, I do think that sexual innuendo jokes are sinful.

[mommydi]

Gee, I've never hear that expression.  But then, I'm 60.   

I'm in my 50s, but have picked up a lot of terms younger people use.  I spend a lot of time with my 17 year old grandson and his group of 4 buddies. Also, I didn't go to college until age 50, so I spent a lot of time with 18-25 year olds, and still have some of them as friends, so it's easy to pick up on some of the terms they use. That can be both a good thing and a bad thing - depending.

[Lady Daffodil]

Gee, I've never hear that expression.  But then, I'm 60.   

I'm in my 50s, but have picked up a lot of terms younger people use.  I spend a lot of time with my 17 year old grandson and his group of 4 buddies. Also, I didn't go to college until age 50, so I spent a lot of time with 18-25 year olds, and still have some of them as friends, so it's easy to pick up on some of the terms they use. That can be both a good thing and a bad thing - depending.

The expression doesn't make sense to me, and it certainly doesn't sound like a sexual innuendo.  Just weird.

I admire you for going back to school at age 50.  More power to you!  I don't think that I would have the self-discipline to do homework and stuff like that.  There would have to be something I was REALLY interested in learning! 

[mommydi]

Gee, I've never hear that expression.  But then, I'm 60.   

I'm in my 50s, but have picked up a lot of terms younger people use.  I spend a lot of time with my 17 year old grandson and his group of 4 buddies. Also, I didn't go to college until age 50, so I spent a lot of time with 18-25 year olds, and still have some of them as friends, so it's easy to pick up on some of the terms they use. That can be both a good thing and a bad thing - depending.

The expression doesn't make sense to me, and it certainly doesn't sound like a sexual innuendo.  Just weird.

I admire you for going back to school at age 50.  More power to you!  I don't think that I would have the self-discipline to do homework and stuff like that.  There would have to be something I was REALLY interested in learning! 

Thank you for the kind words, Lady Daffodil.  There are college classes for some subjects I bet you'd find interesting, and I bet you'd do wonderfully in class. 

In my first day of college, in my first class, the instructor asked us to tell a little about ourselves. As soon as I finished introducing myself, and mentioning this was my very first time in a college class, the instructor said, "Women your age, who are just now starting college, usually end up in tears and walking out of my class and leaving college." The woman was actually my age, but there was no encouragement from her at all - only ridicule during the remainder of the course. On the last day of class, when I turned in my final paper, she said, "You've been one of my favorite students of all time and I've enjoyed your input. Don't be a stranger. Come by my office for visits anytime." I thought....WHAT IN THIS WORLD?  I never went back for a visit. 

[DaveW]

I'm not referring to talks about how attractive women are, or an arousing scene in a movie, but I'm merely referring to things such as "That's what she said". The bible says in Ephesians 4, "Let there be no filthiness nor foolish talk nor crude joking, which are out of place, but instead let there be thanksgiving." Does filthiness refer to inappropriate comments like "That's what she said", or is it something much more?

We are not in first century Judea or Greece, so what was considered "filthy" at that time is difficult to determine.  In the rabbinic writings (which would cover Judea but not Greece) the concept of "lashon harah" was condemned (evil tongue)   That consisted of saying something to denigrate another person (or even yourself) in the eyes of others.   In this day of instant videos on social media - those that would shame someone or imply someone was doing something wrong (even if they actually were) would come under lashon harah.

In this culture we take stuff like that as applying to something sexual.  I submit that may be off base.

[DaveW]

For example - two girls just finish a test in a college class. As they leave the class, one girl says, "Wow, that was hard!" The other girl would answer, "that's what she said" which is trying to turn the original statement into something with sexual overtones.

And probably broke the tension from the test both were feeling with some humor.

It is probably just a symptom of someone being sexually frustrated; which makes the mind turn everything into something sexual.  With a lack of training in impulse control, those things get said a lot more these days; but they have been thought about for generations.  In that case, girl #2 used the product of that skewed thinking to bring some comedy.

BTW - I have heard that phrase for at least 30 years.  "that's what he said" "that's what she said"  It was not always something sexual. 

[Carey]

If it affects others in a bad way, as stated above, then it is sin.  I know I get thoughts stuck in my head too sometimes, as stated before, which I know is the enemy.  Then I have to combat it somehow with other words.  But the bible clearly says no course joking.
Would you talk that way if Jesus were sitting next to you?

I think this hits the nail on the head, it is not so much the content, as how others might react.  To put it in one word, respect.  My vocabulary changes with the company I keep. 
But your question opens an interesting discussion.  It is apparent that Jesus had a pretty good sense of humor, He was comfortable around sinners, and it seems they comfortable around Him.  From that some conclusions might be drawn.

IMO, sexual innuendo is fine for the most part, as Memyself pointed out, God created sex.  Most all things are good, it is the perversion or excess that brings sin into the equation.

[Kevin397]

Would you talk that way if Jesus were sitting next to you?

Interesting point...

However, God made sex, so would Jesus be scandalized about the subject whether in jest or serious conversation?

God made sex, which is true.  But whether or not a conversation about it would be appropriate in His eyes is or not, would be the way that sex is talked about. So no; I don't think Jesus would be pleased with "that's what she said".

[Enoch]

I guess it would depend on the context, really. I'm sure that sort of banter between a married couple wouldn't bat too many eyes. Also, I don't think it's necessarily bad to talk about sex outside of marriage - I mean it's done on this forum oft enough - and in some places innuendo would be a good way of being more sociable.

Context is kinda important.

[Lady Daffodil]

Actually, I've heard the expression "What he (or she) said" by itself (without the "that's at the front of the sentence) for years, and it's simply a way of agreeing with what the person said, no sexual innuendo involved.

[Daniel Marsh]

I don't know, but I don't like it, and I wish sometimes I could unhear things. Because at times I hear completely normal things, where nothing was intended and in my mind I think of it in a bad inappropriate way. I guess we all have to struggle with thoughts... I don't know what else to do other than rebuke the thoughts.

Thoughts are not persons who can be rebuked.    Just change your thoughts to something more positive like Scripture and praise music.

[JordanFireStar]

I personally think bad innuendoes are sinful as they suggest stuff such as lust as a joke and the bible talks about lust being bad and can even start the person to feel lust in some cases so I would say they are sinful.   The bible even says the most dangerous part of the body is the toung

[Winnie]

Isn't that what Paul meant when he said 'coarse joking'?