Likely Unbelieving Child

[R.Fraley]

July 3, 2016

My name is Richard Fraley.  I am fearful in that I am not sure if my son is saved or not.  He is 22-years-old and has been living with his unbelieving family members for some time now.  He was living with his mother (my wife) who is a Christian and thank God she _is as God called her home this past January.  Early this June his older sisters (my daughter from previous relationship) grandmother passed away and a few days later his own grandmother passed, my mother-in-law. Whether or not either one of them were a Christian I am not sure; that is between them and God.

With all these seemingly negative\tragic events happening so quickly and so close together, Richard seems to me to believe even less.  He does not even seem to like talking about God; trying to change the subject if he can.

Since my wife went home to be with the Lord I have chosen not move into a home and have remained homeless, living in my car and now my truck.  The transmission went out in my car and God blessed me with the truck which is a testimony in and of itself.  Maybe I'll elaborate later.  God is amazing and is always faithful!  Amen!

A small bit of my history:  D.O.B. Dec 29, 1970, Pomona, California to a Christian family.  Praise God!  As far back as I  can remember (infancy-toddler) I was molested on a regular basis by my uncle.  This made me feel different than the other kids as I was growing up, even dirty.  I know that how ever hard it was for Him to watch, God or one of His angels or both was there protecting me.  God brought me through this and at the age of 14 it was over.  I was not unscathed but was safely through.  Thank You Jesus!  We went to church pretty regularly as I was growing up for which I will be forever grateful.  I'm glad someone listened to God!  I did however rebel against God a bit and strayed; doing things that I thought made me fit in and accepted.

I started dating my wife Linda in 1992 and we were married on January 1st, 1996.  Our son Richard was born on March 2nd, 1994.  God called Linda home this past January, just after our 20th anniversary.  This has been very hard for both my son as well as myself.  I feel selfish for wanting her back from where I am trying to go myself.  By the way, my wife was slightly older than I (14.5 yrs).  I loved and still love her as I'm sure I always will. The awesome part about it is that I will get to see her again in Heaven although at that time she'll be my sister.

With the passing of my wife and now her mother, my son Richard is having issues with where he and his family are going to live.  He just got his drivers license and God is helping me with requisitioning a vehicle for him and his family.  He is married with a son (Reyna & Talon James).  Talon is my only biological grandchild at this time.  I want to see all of them at the wedding supper of the Lamb.  This is now a major goal for me before God calls me home and as a believer I know that could be anytime.

I have been praying and believing that God is going to provide my son with work, a car and a home for his family.  It is God's will that my son works at some capacity and God will also provide the job so he can work and support his family.  My God is much greater than anything and I know He loves me, is with me and meets all my needs according to His riches and glory.  I pray that when my son sees people being blessed and is in turn blessed himself, he is able to see the love of God.

Myself, I am in a sense lost in that I absolutely have no idea what to do other than to go to my creator  I only have about $600 saved which is $600 more than I need to take a step in faith.  My only choice is to talk with and trust God.  I know that He loves my son much more than I ever could. I have spent quite a bit of time talking with God about this and feel lead to just go.

I've now asked my son if he's willing to take a chance on God and give me two weeks.  I want to drive him across the country to New York with nobody to rely on except for God and the people He brings into our lives.  I'll hand out tracts and talk to people about my Father.  Share how He loves them and what He has done for me in my life.  I told my son that I believe this could change the rest of his life and I absolutely do believe it.  My God is amazing!

I am still waiting on a response from my son.  However, even if he decides not to go, I am still going.  With my wife home in Heaven and my children grown I have the rest of my life for Jesus.  He has forgiven me for not starting earlier. Now is the time!

Pray that God gives us a safe and fruitful trip!  Please help me prove to my son that there really is a God and that He loves him.

Dear Father, I ask that You give my son Richard and I a safe trip as we cross this country talking with people about Jesus.  As always I thank You Lord for Your protection over my life as well as my sons. You are faithful in supplying all my needs for which I thank you.  I trust that You will send Your angels to protect us as Your Spirit is indeed always inside guiding.  As You bring these new people across my path Father, give me the words to say; words from You.  Let people see You in me Father.  Give us a fruitful trip as we seek You and Your will for our lives.  Thank You Father God for hearing me.  In Jesus' precious name, Amen.


I will document the trip and keep all my brothers and sisters informed on what God is doing with us.

Thank you and God bless!
                                        Richard Fraley.

[Brisingr]

Sounds to me like a lot of pressure for a kid who's gone through a lot of painful experiences in a relatively short amount of time. Right now, I think you need to back off, let him grieve, let him breathe.

I understand how much you want him to take comfort in God, but he probably can't right now -- he needs his dad to just be with him, not to try and shoehorn him into a faith he can't quite grasp right now.

I'd also ixnay the trip to prove God exists to him. Sit back and let God do that in a way that speaks to your son, in a different time and space. Not with you making a sales pitch.

[grams]

I agree with  Brisingr

Mayb  R.Fraley  Your son will  changes as you did..........

[grams]

Also to be  sure and safe........  Find a preacher who you can explain to him,

what is going on  and if  he would help !   It is amazing  when you know what

the bible say's  and  can turn it into what man can understand......