ADVICE

[Sinner]

I could use some advice.  I am a devout Christian who is having unchristian thoughts.

Fist off, I am a recent widower (6 months) and, due to my wife's slow decline in health and her eventual death, have not had sexual relations with a woman for over 10 months (probably closer to 12 months since I did not keep a journal).

Recently, I was assigned to a new position at work.  This threw me into close contact with a widow.  She started talking to me and I came under the impression that she was interested in me.  I told her quickly that I was a recent widower and was unavailable as I did not believe it would be right to start dating until after a least a year after my wife's death.  She seemed to accept this.

So, what is the problem?  She is a very attractive widow, and I can't seem to keep my eyes off her.  If I am honest with myself, I am very sexually attracted to her and have often looke at her with lust in my eyes.   I'm sure she has noticed that I am often looking at her.  She doesn't seem to mind as she has not complained to either me or the boss.  However, I need to know, what should I do?  I can't seem to stop lusting after her.  I do hope to ask her for a date sometime in the middle of next year and see where that goes.  And, I certainly hope it does not lead to the bedroom untill, and unless, we get married. 

Any advice would on how to curb this lusting of a beautiful grandmother of 8 would be appreciated!

[Alan]

You don't need advice, you need godly support.  You already know what is wrong and what is right in the yes of the Lord, stay strong, take it slow, and don't allow yourself to give into your emotions. Good luck with this, hopefully it all works out for you.

[Sinner]

Thank you.  I will try to curb my thoughts and certainly not give in to my thoughts and emotions.