Singles - how do you deal with being alone

[starla]

I hate being alone. I know God is with me, but when I cook every day for 1, go out to eat for 1, enjoy movies and other entertainment for 1 --- alone isn't so great.

I love my girlfriends, but I need male companionship for balance in life. God's word says it is not good for man to be alone. Yet I'm alone all the time. The times I need human interaction the most it seems to not be available.

I'm sad, I'm depressed about it and I pray every day for the Lord to help me. I grew up in a family where there was always a lot of people around. At 36, I have found myself alone in every way imaginable.

I'm trying hard not to throw a pity party, but it's getting harder and harder to avoid it.

DivineDiva I know what you are going thru in being single.I don't like the fact of me going places by myself and seeing couples holding hands .What have you done to be more sociable in the possibility of finding the right mate?My situation is the guys out there in the world are more interested in me than at church.I wish the situation was reversed.Why is this happening,why i can't I meet guys in God's house ?.Forgive me for whining but this is what I deal with in being single. 

[divinediva]

DivineDiva I know what you are going thru in being single.I don't like the fact of me going places by myself and seeing couples holding hands .What have you done to be more sociable in the possibility of finding the right mate?My situation is the guys out there in the world are more interested in me than at church.I wish the situation was reversed.Why is this happening,why i can't I meet guys in God's house ?.Forgive me for whining but this is what I deal with in being single. 

Starla,
The more sociable I try to be the worse things have become. I make myself active in the city and community. At the end of the day, I still find myself alone. Seeing other couples doesn't bother me -- what God has for me is for me. It is having the desire so strong in my heart for a mate and family and after all these years that particular desire is still not filled. I'm trying to keep my faith, but it's getting harder. When will the season change?
Divine Diva

[spurly]

Instead of looking at being single as a curse or something bad, why not turn that around and look at it as an opportunity to serve God in a unique way during the time that you are not bound by a spouse and family.  There is always a positive side, you just have to find it!

For instance, there is a single lady in the town where I live who spends hours every day going to nursing facilities and hospitals to visit with and pray for people.  Now that's a single life worth emulating!

[divinediva]

Instead of looking at being single as a curse or something bad, why not turn that around and look at it as an opportunity to serve God in a unique way during the time that you are not bound by a spouse and family.  There is always a positive side, you just have to find it!

For instance, there is a single lady in the town where I live who spends hours every day going to nursing facilities and hospitals to visit with and pray for people.  Now that's a single life worth emulating!

I don't think of singleness as a curse. I have done the volunteering in the community and church. It is a very fulfilling experience. It is also depressing when you want to tell someone about the fulfilling experience and there's no one to tell. It's depressing when you have an awesome day and want to go to dinner to celebrate, BUT because it's a last minute thought, you don't have anyone to go to dinner with you. They are all with their mates or my single friends already have plans.

I have looked at the positive for a long time and I'm at the end of that positive rope. The knot at the end of the rope is coming loose.

[starla]

Divine Diva about two months ago the preacher preached a message on being content in our lives and I thought about my life as a single Christian woman.I came to the realization while reading the lesson that I am not content in being single. I pray instead of God sending me somebody that God will help me to have some kind of contentment of being mate free.It's still hard sometimes with the realization of being by yourself but little by little I know that this is not God's timing for him to send me somebody or it may never be ,I don't know.Maybe someway somehow you can find some kind of contentment in you being single.

[DCR]

Yeah, it can be really tough sometimes... and frustrating.  It seems like the generation now (20s and 30s - Gen X'ers) has a harder time matching up than past generations.  That may or may not be true, but it seems to be the case from what I can tell.

[Bon Voyage]

I think culture has a lot to do with it.  It seems that culture says don't get married  or have kids until you graduate college, or until you own a home, or have a successful career, to both men and women. 

[starla]

It does seem kind of wise to get college out of the way before getting married.How tough it is to study with a book in one hand and a screaming child in the other.It's also important to make a really good salary in order to take care of family.How can somebody afford to pay for daycare or any other needs for their family with a fastfood paycheck.$6.00 per hour as a fry cook at McDonald's verses $15 to $20 per hour as a computer technician at IBM. hmmm which salary would be better in taking care of my family ?