Dating

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This is very long....so i'll post it in a series. I know most people are in a hurry these days.....but hey you may find it worth reading.....all of it.


I hesitate to write about the following topics do to the volatility in nature and so much material as well as opinions, already out there. Do to this very fact I believe a Biblical view should prevail. Biblical principles should prevail in all issues and events of the Christian life. Male and female relationships as well as relationships of parents and children, in every stage of human sociality, from childhood to adulthood, are no exception. However in so many cases, those who are dealing and participating in these issues don't seek the mind of Christ, which is always based on His word. Or if they do, hesitate to the point of folly putting them into practice. Biblical principles should always prevail, not humanistic rules, legalism, traditions or measures. Matthew 15:1-7. God is very clear in His word regarding male female relationships, and sets forth principles and ethics to guide our behavior. That in no way suggests that there are no rules regarding these issues, but that God's rules set forth as principles in His Word are the only true valid basis for guidance. This is written to Charismatic Spirit filled Christians who love God and are called according to His purpose. Romans 8:28 Just as with all things Biblical, the non-Spirit filled Christian will at best struggle with the content. This is not to discourage the non-spirit filled believer from gleaning from the principles set forth, but simply to serve as a warning label. Isaiah 8:13-15, Romans 9:32-33, 1 Peter 2:7-9. The emphasis or main purpose of this paper is to touch on the male female relationship dynamics created by God in view of His opinion on the matter. God intended the majority of the population to marry. This principle is set forth in His creation of man and women in Genesis. Some will rebel against this. See 1 Timothy 4:1-4. But God's word still stands and His people should stand on His word. Romans 3:3-4. 1 Peter 1:22-25. The opinions of the author and sources will trickle down, therefore it is the responsibility of the reader to weigh everything in the light of God's word and yield to the Holy Spirit for perfect guidance. The author and the sources sited strive to stay true to the Light of God's word and His opinions. The reader should do the same. This is not to make rules but present biblical principles. Much of the material presented is given in full credit to Dr. Hobart E. Freeman who did a teaching on this very subject. The Bible teaches us to honor those who have gone before us. It was by sound recording that I the author was able to obtain the source message due to the fact that the source author is deceased. Much of the material is notes taken word for word as well as paraphrasing and expounding. Dr. Freeman never copyrighted his material but I wish to give credit where credit is due and offer these as notes to go along with his teachings as well as some of my own words to the wise.

To get the best out of this, one should know the word of God regarding the principles and promises set forth.


Parent Child relationships inside the Family.

The responsibility of parents to the children, in a Christian home, is to provide the security of a scripturally ordered home. A Biblical point of view is to prevail at all times. Husband is the head of the home, the wife is a loving helpmate and the children are in submission. The Bible is the final of all conduct in the home. It's a home where every child has two parents, a mother and a father, who are both equally active in the loving discipline and training of the children. The mother and father are the sole source of all Spiritual and moral instruction and training. The majority of all morals and ethics are taught by the parents. Deuteronomy 31:12-13. Loving Correction and discipline are given based on the Bible. Proverbs 13:24, 23:13-14 and 29:15, 17. Their love is Biblical love. Love is corrective and the discipline is the expression that has to be done in love. Hebrews 12. Their method is to raise the children based on absorption. Molding them by training, discipline and example, not beating them into the shape they want or believing their children can do no wrong. Proverbs 22:15 and 19:18.

The Child's responsibilities to the parents are to honor them and obey them. Exodus 20:12, Proverbs 6:20, Ephesians 6:1-3, Proverbs 1:8 with Romans 1:28-30 being an example of what can happen if you don't. Another is to fear them. Leviticus 19:3. This is talking of a mature understanding of Godly fear. There are things that children should be afraid to say or do around their father or mother. Children need to submit to the discipline of the parents. Hebrews 12:9. Honoring parents extends to respect for elders. Leviticus 19:32 and 1 Peter 5:5. The older people should be of the reputation that draws and warrants respect. Children should care for parents. 1 Timothy 5:4, Mark 7:10-12.


"Question: What happens when parents aren't saved (I'll add "or saved not walking fully in the light of God's word

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A Look at Dating

Most Christian American homes follow the example of the world in the customs of courtship and marriage. Most times the child is the one who runs the home. American's mostly have child centered homes. Practices that have there origins in America are dating and "going steady

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Marriage

In the process of time for maturity and becoming an adult is in bloom, prospective persons do not include the unsaved. The unsaved individual will bring you down to their level. Marriage should be between Christians. You will almost never convert the unsaved after marriage as a general rule. Exceptions or examples of it happening are great grace. They, the unsaved partner, more often then not will pull you down to their level of spirituality. 1 Corinthians 15:33, Deuteronomy 7:3, Joshua 23:12-13, Ezra 9:12, Nehemiah 13:25, 1 Corinthians 7:39, 2 Corinthians 6:14, Numbers 25, Judges 13-16. For these reasons a Christian should not even consider non-Christians as prospective marriage partners. This principle follows down to differentiating between those who have the Spirit Filled Charismatic walk and those who don't. The Spirit filled believer should not marry a non-Spirit filled believer. Remember husband or wife most often dictates their partner's level of spirituality and if less then yours will drag you down to theirs or, at the very least, hinder your growth.

Another excuse for dating is "how will I ever find a husband or wife if I don't date?

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A closing review.

Matthew 6:9-13. Seek His Will for whatever Gift He has for you. The gift of single, or the Gift of marriage? Seek God to be qualified for every good work, mature in all things, ready for marriage. Being mature and ready for marriage gives you the versatility of a foundation for being single if God so gives that unique gift.

The basis for all things is seeking first the Kingdom of God and His Righteousness. Matthew 6:33. One definition of righteousness has been said to be "seeking to know God's will and doing it