help! confused and seeking wise counsel

[Georgebondrew]

Hello everyone,
This it's my first post so sorry if it's in the wrong spot.

So I need help and advice.  I have been dating my now fiance for about a year and we got engaged just about 2 months ago.  After that we started having some issues and problems that were never present in our relationship before.  I prayed to god for a sign that was the right choice.but recently things have gone.back to normal and we are great.
The other day I got a message from an ex girlfriend that I haven't heard from in a couple of years.   Basically along the lines that she still has been thinking about me even though she has had a new boyfriend that she loves and he loves her. 
So my question is do you think that that is Gods way of showing that I made the wrong choice in my proposal or is he just testing my faith and devotion to my fiance?
Thanks!

[chosenone]

Hi George,

What concerns me is that you dont seem 100% sure that this lady is the one. Twice now you have had serious doubts. If you were sure I doubt you would need to question, and you certainly wouldn't be swayed by an ex girlfriend. The ex has no business contacting you with both of you in relationships with other people, so dont even reply to her is my advise.
As for your fiance, I would go to one or two mature Christian guys in your church, and ask them to pray with you about this. Until you are completely sure don't even think of getting married. I know a few people who had doubts before marriage, but went ahead with it, and they lived to regret it.

I assume that you are both Christians?

[Catholica]

Hello everyone,
This it's my first post so sorry if it's in the wrong spot.

So I need help and advice.  I have been dating my now fiance for about a year and we got engaged just about 2 months ago.  After that we started having some issues and problems that were never present in our relationship before.  I prayed to god for a sign that was the right choice.but recently things have gone.back to normal and we are great.
The other day I got a message from an ex girlfriend that I haven't heard from in a couple of years.   Basically along the lines that she still has been thinking about me even though she has had a new boyfriend that she loves and he loves her. 
So my question is do you think that that is Gods way of showing that I made the wrong choice in my proposal or is he just testing my faith and devotion to my fiance?
Thanks!

I would say that you shouldn't ask for a sign, but rather should start attending some pre-marriage prep and discern this marriage before you go into it. 

You don't want anything to do with that old girlfriend.  If she is in a relationship and contacting you then that is a very bad trait of hers anyway.  If you were ever to be in a relationship with her, what would stop her from doing the same to you? 

You don't want a woman who would do that, and you should cut her off immediately and concentrate on discerning the relationship that you are in.

[tacdon]

Hello everyone,
This it's my first post so sorry if it's in the wrong spot.

So I need help and advice.  I have been dating my now fiance for about a year and we got engaged just about 2 months ago.  After that we started having some issues and problems that were never present in our relationship before.  I prayed to god for a sign that was the right choice.but recently things have gone.back to normal and we are great.
The other day I got a message from an ex girlfriend that I haven't heard from in a couple of years.   Basically along the lines that she still has been thinking about me even though she has had a new boyfriend that she loves and he loves her. 
So my question is do you think that that is Gods way of showing that I made the wrong choice in my proposal or is he just testing my faith and devotion to my fiance?
Thanks!

I think it was the free will of your ex-girlfriend to call you. 

[Charming Anarchist]

Ditto everything that ChosenOne said. 

After that we started having some issues and problems that were never present in our relationship before. 

Like what?  Be explicit. 

However, before you go any further, I am assuming that you are both Christian and that you are not having sex with your fiancee.  I am also assuming that you did not have sex with your ex-girlfriend. 
If those mine assumptions are wrong, then you need to take a few steps back and understand that these recent turmoils are a direct consequence of violating God's law.  Seek marital counselling and make sure that you teach your future children to avoid your past ways.  If your fiancee is not of like mind, something is amiss. 

One last thing:  Do you love your fiancee?  to the exclusion of all other women in the world?