talking to kids about sex - YOUR sex

[DaveW]

I found this over the weekend:

Is it OK to talk about your sex life with your kids?

(CNN)—For many of us, it's next to impossible to think of our parents having sex -- and even more impossible to imagine them sharing their sex lives with us.

But for those of us who hope and expect to talk more openly about sex with our children than our parents did with us, should we consider sharing our own sexual experiences with them?

Some parents say it's crossing a line that should never be crossed; others contend that by not sharing, we're missing an opportunity to help our children connect and learn from our own sex lives.

I posed the question to a range of women -- some in person, some via email -- and the majority responded quite clearly and emphatically in one direction.

http://www.cnn.com/2015/06/23/living/feat-sex-life-discussion-children/

Frankly - It was not something that I gave much thought about one way or the other - I guess I was in the mindset that "of course you don't ever discuss that;" taking it as a matter of course.  But it then starte me thinking that perhaps we have made problems by keeping out sex lives TOO much of a secret.

What do you think?

[MeMyself]

I think its good to be open and talk about the subject, but I am NOT comfortable with specifics of what we do as a couple.

I don't want to know what my newly married child is doing specifically either. 

We were open with our kids about our mistakes and sinful past, to help them learn from what we did that grieved God's heart and to avoid the pit we fell into.  I encouraged them to wait, though its hard, because once marriage comes, they can go for it full throttle, and nothing will be there to taint the marital relationship and it can be as full, rich and fun as God intends it to be.  Wearing scars from encounters that came too early keeps it from that.  While God has healed us and forgiven us, there is still the shame of the past that lurks a bit and gets in the way sometimes.

My dd *hates* even a hint in casual conversation that her dad and I might be physical, (if he says I look sexy) my oldest son, grins and says he is blessed to know we enjoy each other "in that way"...I was freaked out by that, (Fingers in ears lalalalalaaaa!    ) but my dh was blessed  .

[chosenone]

Most kids wouldnt want to hear anything about their parents having sex. Talking about sex generally yes, but not about our sex lives.