what happen！！

[Honest]

On my way home today, I saw a lovely little girl grasped a young man's hand and said in a muttering voice, "Uncle, can you marry me?" Just when I was puzzled, the girl's mother ran to her and said, "Do you think you needn't go to school tomorrow if you get married?" Hearing her mother's words, the little girl loosened her grip on the man disappointedly and went away with her mother, still babbling something under her breath.
Seeing such a scene, I felt the little girl was quite naïve and lovely, but what touched me more was the study pressure she faces. In my childhood, I had the same thought as she had, hoping to grow up soon so that I wouldn't need to go to school and do much homework. For many times I wanted to tell my parents my pressure, but looking at the expectation in their eyes, I swallowed up the words that were right out of my mouth. However, though my parents always hope me to stand out among others, it hasn't been realized so far. I often think: All parents want their children to be famous, but reality is always against their expectation. Conversely, their hope brings pressure to their children. Is it that our parents don't cultivate us diligently? Is it that we don't work hard enough? Are we really able to change our life through our own hard work?

[chosenone]

I cant agree that all parents want their children to be famous, or put too much pressure on them. I didnt. Maybe its like that in your culture?

[AVZ]

Yes, Asian parents demand extreme high performance from their children. The competition among students is killing.
That is because in APAC success is measured by the amount of money one has, the size of house one lives in and the brand of car one drives.
Society is extremely materialistic and the general consensus is that the higher someone is educated, the better paying job can be obtained, the more assets one can accumulate.

Much of this has its origin in religion. Money and prosperity is seen as a reward by ancestors and for properly satisfying the numerous deities.

[chosenone]

Yes, Asian parents demand extreme high performance from their children. The competition among students is killing.
That is because in APAC success is measured by the amount of money one has, the size of house one lives in and the brand of car one drives.
Society is extremely materialistic and the general consensus is that the higher someone is educated, the better paying job can be obtained, the more assets one can accumulate.

Much of this has its origin in religion. Money and prosperity is seen as a reward by ancestors and for properly satisfying the numerous deities.

Its disgusting that anyone should put money and position and what others think above their own childrens well being. Thank God that Christianity isnt like that and that God isnt like that.

[RB]

I cant agree that all parents want their children to be famous, or put too much pressure on them. I didnt. Maybe its like that in your culture?

I would say, it not that much different in America. Pride is the root of all evil. They start their children out in sports at a ridiculous age of about five or six, thinking they just might have another Michael Jordan, etc. Parents sacrifice their children on the alter of the gods of this world, without knowing what they are doing.  There is so much pressure on children than what it was of my generation coming up.  I have heard stories of mothers and their daughters and what the mother do toward them in beauty contest, that would be almost unbelievable that a mother would do to those little girls, for a moment of glory.  The only pressure we should put on them is to remember their Creator in the days of their youth, before the evil days come when they will have no desire to do so. I do stress to my grandchildren to love God and work hard, while they are young, other than that, not too much. I rather see them poor and and unknown, fearing God, than rich and famous.  Even though, living in America, wealth is everywhere, and it is there for the taking, by working hard and being smart with what God has given to us. It is increasing at an alarming rate, and very hard not to to be caught up in it. I fear for the upcoming generation of young people. We all should be very concern, and teach our own children, their children, how to be overcomers while living in the mist of the latter days.

[Seeking Truth]

I believe that the fate of people not in their own hands, but in the hands of God. Therefore, parents can not control the fate of their children.

[MeMyself]

I believe that the fate of people not in their own hands, but in the hands of God. Therefore, parents can not control the fate of their children.

But, they can sure break their spirits trying to...

[MeMyself]

I cant agree that all parents want their children to be famous, or put too much pressure on them. I didnt. Maybe its like that in your culture?

I would say, it not that much different in America. Pride is the root of all evil. They start their children out in sports at a ridiculous age of about five or six, thinking they just might have another Michael Jordan, etc. Parents sacrifice their children on the alter of the gods of this world, without knowing what they are doing.  There is so much pressure on children than what it was of my generation coming up.  I have heard stories of mothers and their daughters and what the mother does toward them in beauty contest, that would be almost unbelievable that a mother would do to those little girls, for a moment of glory.  The only pressure we should put on them is to remember their Creator in the days of their youth, before the evil days come when they will have no desire to do so. I do stress to my grandchildren to love God and work hard, while they are young, other than that, not to much. I rather see them poor and and unknown, fearing God, than rich and famous.  Even though, living in America, wealth is everywhere, and it is there for the taking, by working hard and being smart with what God has given to us. It is increasing at an alarming rate, and very hard not to to be caught up in it. I fear for the upcoming generation of young people. We all should be very concern, and teach our own children, their children, how to be overcomers while living in the mist of the latter days.

What Red is saying is true, in my opinion.  We have seen it.  Every child my children have played sports with was *the* next great one..and it was SO important to their parents, that they themselves would belittle, undermine, shout insults, gossip and campaign against my kids.  We were just wanting to watch our kids play a sport they loved.  We had no grand ideas about college scholarships, professional sports, big paydays, etc.  We just wanted to watch our kids play! 

My dd knows a gal that is an upperclassmen in highschool. Her mother wont let her drive them home from school, because she would be wasting time she should be spending on school work.  Its all cut-throat all the time.  She MUST have the class's highest GPA, she MUST get the most prestigious scholarships, she must be.the.best!!!!  Meanwhile, she (the girl) competes with my dd in every class they have together.  My dd said she just wants to shout at her, "YOU WIN! YOU are smarter! You got every answer right and I am wrong, its fine. Can I just do my own work without you interrupting me and proving your value to yourself by being better than me at everything?!"  I told her that she should.

I grant my kids stay home days when they feel overwhelmed.  I am looked at very funny for doing this, but like a meme on facebook said, "My kids mental health is more important than their grades."  I say AMEN!

Our kids are supposed to be who GOD intends them to be. Our job is to help them find out who that is..not try and shape them into who we wish WE were and force them to fit that mold until they break from the stress.

[colorful life]

Yes, Asian parents demand extreme high performance from their children. The competition among students is killing.
That is because in APAC success is measured by the amount of money one has, the size of house one lives in and the brand of car one drives.
Society is extremely materialistic and the general consensus is that the higher someone is educated, the better paying job can be obtained, the more assets one can accumulate.

Much of this has its origin in religion. Money and prosperity is seen as a reward by ancestors and for properly satisfying the numerous deities.

Its disgusting that anyone should put money and position and what others think above their own childrens well being. Thank God that Christianity isnt like that and that God isnt like that.

Yes, thank God!!

[Honest]

I believe that the fate of people not in their own hands, but in the hands of God. Therefore, parents can not control the fate of their children.

yeah. I feel the same way. We have to believe in God's authority.  Nobody can change the fate of anyone. Even if they are my parents. because my life is from God. God created me,at the same time love me.
As for my parents, Besides birth and childrearing, the parents' responsibility in a child's life is simply to provide him or her with a formal environment to grow up in, for nothing except the predestination of the Creator has a bearing on a person's fate. No one can control what kind of future a person will have;it is predetermined long in advance, and not even one's parents can change one's fate. from A Continuation of the Word Appears in the Flesh

[Honest]

I believe that the fate of people not in their own hands, but in the hands of God. Therefore, parents can not control the fate of their children.

But, they can sure break their spirits trying to...

sorry I cant understand it.... what is the "break their spirits"

[BLUE1985]

I quite believe that every person created by God is special and different from anyone else, everyone has its own function existing in this world, the education cannot change this.