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[Brimariee8080]

I've been hesitant to write this. I feel like it's not important enough to write on here. I still feel weird writing about this. But prayers from you all helped me overcome so much. So here goes nothing.
I just lost my relationship with my boyfriend. He left me out of nowhere. I didn't see it coming. I'm heartbroken and confused. The explanation he gave to sum it up was that he's stressed and and he can't balance a relationship with all of the stress that he's dealing with. He broke up with me through text messaging. He is very distant and he's treating me poorly. He's avoiding me. I don't understand why. I'm heartbroken. We have been together physically everyday for the past two years. For him to just cut me off cold turkey confuses me. I'm praying for answers. He hasn't been the same since his mother died last year. Now more people are dying and getting sick in his family and he feels like he will die the same way. and he's struggling badly financially. He said said he doesn't want me around all of the issues he is going through and he just wants to be alone. he's about to be deployed again after coming back from a four month deployment (hes a military man and a new police officer) which he struggled with pretty badly. There's probably more that I don't know about. We started going to church together and after the second visit, he started acting strange and he vanished. His heart is so hardened. He's not himself at all. I barely recognize him. I'm his beneficiary and all of those very important things. We were preparing for a family and etc. I've been with him through everything. I never left his side. For him to randomly vanish is unlike him. He asked for space. I'm having a difficult time giving it to him.  I just would like for you all to pray for him and to pray for me. I'm recovering from this break up and it's difficult. Please pray for him as well. I'm scared for him. I miss what he used to be.
Thank you all in advance.

[RB]

I just lost my relationship with my boyfriend. He left me out of nowhere. I didn't see it coming. I'm heartbroken and confused.

Young lady, before I decided to write anything I went back and gleaned over your past posts. I see that you have posted here for around five years all have to do with requesting prayer and that's okay and a good thing. Before I start I will say this, it seems to me that you over dramatize things and look at the worse and not the better, and this is not to put you down, but to get you to think about what I am going to say to you. 

When people overly dramatize their situation it hinders them from thinking and looking for the reason WHY in their given situation that is causing so much anguish of their spirit.

I didn't see it coming. I'm heartbroken and confused.

If it was true that you two have been together almost every day for the past two years (We have been together physically everyday for the past two years.) then you had to see it coming, or saw signs of losing your fervent affection for each other~it's almost impossible not to see this. My second grandson just broke it off with his girlfriend (at Clemson)  yet we saw this coming much sooner, and so did she, yet she too is heartbroken. He said better now than to marry and then you are in a marriage relationship for life~for marriage is a fifty-year commitment before God...I have drilled this into him from a young youth. She's high maintained and wanted things her way~besides she was much more liberal in her thinking than my grandson, even though he's not as much as I'm. So, you had to see some signs.

The explanation he gave to sum it up was that he's stressed and and he can't balance a relationship with all of the stress that he's dealing with.

It's more to than that~he does not want to hurt your feelings, but what it is, I have no clue, maybe you do. He balanced this relationship for two years then all of the sudden he cannot...no, it's more than that.

For him to just cut me off cold turkey confuses me

Is he 100% man and are you 100% a woman? Any physical intimacy between you two?

He hasn't been the same since his mother died last year.

You are sending a confusing confession to us~HAS everything been good for two years, or NO?

Now more people are dying and getting sick in his family and he feels like he will die the same way. and he's struggling badly financially. [/size

Maybe things are not that good between you two as you first said~it seems now that he has a lot of weights holding him down that you do not need to be part of~why in the world would a woman want to be with a man, that cannot manage his money? If he cannot now, then he will not later on. Maybe it's time for you to say good-bye~tell him call me with you get your financial life together.

(hes a military man and a new police officer) which he struggled with pretty badly

Wow....he has problems himself that he NEEDS to deal with and overcome.

We started going to church together and after the second visit, he started acting strange and he vanished.

So, THERE you DID know. I thought so.

For him to randomly vanish is unlike him. He asked for space. I'm having a difficult time giving it to him.

Better NOW, than with two or three children and THEN do this. Let him go, until you both are ready to settle down and make serious commitments.

I'm recovering from this break up and it's difficult.

I'm sure it is, but TIME heals quickly. It could be much worse than these petty problems..... trust me, I know some much worse. The Lord be with you and give you peace in your spirit.

[chosenone]

IT seems odd to me that he disappeared just after you started going to church. Do you think that he is running from God?

[johntwayne]

praying

[Ginger Rella]

I've been hesitant to write this. I feel like it's not important enough to write on here. I still feel weird writing about this. But prayers from you all helped me overcome so much. So here goes nothing.
I just lost my relationship with my boyfriend. He left me out of nowhere. I didn't see it coming. I'm heartbroken and confused. The explanation he gave to sum it up was that he's stressed and and he can't balance a relationship with all of the stress that he's dealing with. He broke up with me through text messaging. He is very distant and he's treating me poorly. He's avoiding me. I don't understand why. I'm heartbroken. We have been together physically everyday for the past two years. For him to just cut me off cold turkey confuses me. I'm praying for answers. He hasn't been the same since his mother died last year. Now more people are dying and getting sick in his family and he feels like he will die the same way. and he's struggling badly financially. He said said he doesn't want me around all of the issues he is going through and he just wants to be alone. he's about to be deployed again after coming back from a four month deployment (hes a military man and a new police officer) which he struggled with pretty badly. There's probably more that I don't know about. We started going to church together and after the second visit, he started acting strange and he vanished. His heart is so hardened. He's not himself at all. I barely recognize him. I'm his beneficiary and all of those very important things. We were preparing for a family and etc. I've been with him through everything. I never left his side. For him to randomly vanish is unlike him. He asked for space. I'm having a difficult time giving it to him.  I just would like for you all to pray for him and to pray for me. I'm recovering from this break up and it's difficult. Please pray for him as well. I'm scared for him. I miss what he used to be.
Thank you all in advance.

"We have been together physically everyday for the past two years." May I ask physically in what way?

"We were preparing for a family and etc. "  Were you planning on getting married?

My comment is if he is truly this mentally stressed it is better to find out now . I know you are hurting but sometimes God moves in a way to stop worse hurt in the future.

My prayer is that you find te comfort you need, and that he does also.

[Jean74]

Praying for both of you. And that you both will lean on the Lord. Put Him front and center to help you both through. Will leave  it at that.

[Alan]

We have been together physically everyday for the past two years

.....he's about to be deployed again after coming back from a four month deployment

Which one is true?

[Ohan]

Lord help your child ~ fill her heart ~ sooth her ~ comfort her ~ Please Lord what you think best ~ if you sent this lump away, let her know ~ help him too if there is worth ```








Ohan