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[John 1:1]

Meh, I'm very proud of you, now you are becoming very rock solid in your faith.  I very much see your marriage finally coming together in many ways, keep along your current path, you will sweep her off of her spiritual feet. :) :) :)

Even though I do get caught up in complicated matters in regard to the teachings from the word on regular intervals now, my message is still the same, keep it simple, keep the warmth the Lord extends in his love and live life to it's fullest within it and simply be happy, that's what he wants for you to be.  When we complicate it with legalism and in this case, demonalogy, it becomes complicated, in with many people, ultimately tainted.

You are right on course, you are doing really well, you are pulling this marriage back together and best of all, pulling both of you closer to God.

Praise be to the All Mighty!!!!

[Meh]

I like to write, if you guys had not noticed yet. One of my passions is writing poetry. This passion has been dormant for a long time and I think that I will find the words again as I grow closer to God. I did write one poem last year. Just be careful when getting them copywritten, the site that I use never stops sending emails about how I won awards for it and that I can buy my award for less than half it's real value.

Rest Now

Rest now young man and lay down your weary head
Gone now the horror and the blood into silence
Dry are the tears of mothers and wives after the dawn
Lay now on the loamy soil and be at peace everlasting
Your rifle and your helmet burden you no more
What you have seen passes from your mind like rain
The weariness lifts from your bones like a whisper
Cleared away like ocean waves the smoke and fire go
Peace after the good fight and meadows of green fields
Rest now young man and lay down your weary head

Remember the face of he who fights for your sake
That it is through their lives that we have our freedoms
Embrace the wives and mothers of those who have fallen
Hold them steady as they are weary with grief
The burden is all of ours to bear for the cause of freedom
That we may never know the horrors of war in our land
What we hold dear comes from great acts of courage
Honor now to those who have fallen victorious in war
Hold dear in your heart the hope of lasting peace
Remember the face of he who fights for your sake

[Meh]

Tonight my wife and I had a short bible study session. Not huge, but considering the phone calls and children knocking on the door, it was a start. I am optimistic that given time, as I grow in God, she will see this and grow closer to me.

I received an email from her pastor. I am waiting on clarification on a few of the points that he made and I am not sure how to receive other points that he made. Namely that I should not rely on her for emotional support because men are designed to handle stress and should instead support her as the weaker vessel. That I should get all of my emotional support from God. Will have to look this up.

[John 1:1]

The only weaker flesh here is bob... take note, I put HIS name in lower case for a reason folks...

When the two get married, they become one flesh.  Are you saying that it's cool to be living life with a stroke that paralizes 1/2 of your body??  That's his logic... It's backwards on all levels in my book.

I thank God you are here Meh, I love watching your progress and good news, you are also showing major talent, I smile knowing you are doing better. :), what's your first name BTW, mine is Brian.

Your's in Christ!!!

[Meh]

You have a PM.

There is a level to what the scripture says about husband and wife that can allow for interpretation to be towards a positive or negative aspect. I saw that there is a passage that describes the woman as the weaker partner and many that mention submissiveness. Aren't we all flawed and imperfect? How can one love his wife as though himself if he also focuses on her being weaker? What are the limits of, "submit in all things?" Does this mean anything I say she must do? Does it apply to things that she views as against her beliefs? If she thinks that my beliefs are not grounded on the word of God and are thus flawed, is it right for to deny what I say if she feels that she is keeping true to her beliefs?

[John 1:1]

Well, technically, there is always a chain of command, it goes in the case of a married couple, Christ, the man, then the woman, it's there for logistix purposes entirely.  Eve was made from Adam's rib, not his ankle, not his forhead, the rib is on his side, thus the man and woman walk side by side.

About your wife going rouge on you, that will be a non issue if you keep building upon your faith and it's clearly shown, she has no choice but to submit to the path you take over hers, if she does not, she's not in compliance with the union and you can point her back to the Jezebelle artical.  There are certain strong points the female gender will have over the male, child bearing is one of them for a blatent example.  This area is what has been largely obscured in the past which is what caused so much dissention in the church in the past, it wasn't always that way, but thanks to man and his man made dogma, things got obscured, bob is feeding into that one for his own purposes.

[Meh]

For the sake of context, the main authority of this church is her local pastor affiliated with the church of Bob larson. Bob can be the name that we use for her pastor. Her church is based on the teachings of Bob Larson and her pastor teaches and operates in the way that Bob Larson teaches.

Though he has responded and has stated that he believes that my wife should get professional physiological and psychological help, I have not gained any more trust in his ability to guide people. I do not know if this had always been his opinion on how she could reach a stable and healthy emotional state and has not included the people that are a part of her life in helping her find inner peace, if he did not notice this until I brought it up even though she had been receiving counseling and deliverance from him for two years.

I do not want to be dumping on him unduely. My goals as I am coming to a greater undersanding of them, are to become closer to God which does have the benefit of makig me a better and more understanding husband. And to help guide my wife into being more stable emotionaly which will benefit her health (physical and mental and spiritual) because it is a direct element in the health of our family.

I feel that I have an understanding of what I need to do to grow in becoming a better part of her life. I am also trying to identify the factors that contribute to the entire picture. I at heart feel that this set of beliefs taught by her churc has not been effective in helping her and seek to understand how and why her emotions are in turmoil. There is currently not a balance in how she views problems and I am trying to identify the role that her church and pastor have in this. The basic feeling that I have is that she has not learned to see problems as anything but due to spiritual problems that she has no control over. Removing both fault and acceptance in facing what part she has in her problems and how her life has been affected by what she has experienced.

If you get into your car and it does not start, there are a few reasons why. Focusing on just the battery itself as the reason why it will not start and discounting any other reasons will not change the fact that the cable that runs from the battery to the alternator is frayed through or loose. It has to be the battery is the only thing you can think of. You find that using jumper cables allows the car to start and the problem is fixed for a short time because the battery was not keebing a charge and decide that the battery was bad and will no longer hold a charge. Replacing the battery is an immediate fix to make the car start but the overall problem has not been addressed. The new battery will eventually lose it's charge because the alternator cable that charges the battery has not been fixed.

You have a mechanic look at it because you keep going through batteries. Is he helping the problem, this is the key question at the moment. Is he also focusing on just the battery or is he going to look at what you have not considered. Is he going to point out the problem after diagnosing it or just selling you more batteries to keep the car running and keep you comming back for more batteries.