Intimacy and the Christian marriage *candid mature discussion*

[Dennis]

Looking at the title of this thread, I was half hoping it would be going in a different direction.  I agree that intimacy is important -- no, vital to healthy marriage.  But I see intimacy as broader that just physical intimacy.  Intimacy includes knowing, really knowing your spouse [and more than in the KJV sense].  For example, I talk openly with my wife about many things I would NEVER hint at with anyone else.  I am comfortable around her in ways I would not be with anyone else.  I simply cannot imagine that level of intimacy with anyone else. That makes it difficult for me to see myself in another relationship and, in my opinion much less likely I would even consider trying one.  I think it is much easier to see oneself in another relationship when that intimacy is not present and thus more likely. Sex is certainly part of intimacy, but I think it goes much, much deeper than sex alone.

That is very true.  However, "candid mature discussion" suggests sex more than best friend dialogue.  I think that is why it went the way it did!

I guess what I was hoping for (I said "half hoping," I am not naive) was sex and . . . the other [Which I can tell you makes the sex a lot better.  That is, the more the personal intimacy grows, the better the physical intimacy becomes.  Now at almost 32 years it is better than ever (how is that for candid and mature?)]

That is definitely candid and mature!   Same here, though I have only been married for a mere (sp?) 25 years.   In 7 more years .... I can only imagine!  

Dennis, your marriage is older than me.  Zoo, your marriage is only a few years younger than me.  But I am just a young whippersnapper.

That's OK son -- you'll learn.