I'm lonely !

[Ramy]

Hello everyone
     well I'm Egyptian Orthodox and in Egypt knowing girls was alittle bit hard thing to do ,
My parents thought that talking in marraige and home is an unacceptable thing till I'm old enough and both of them was planning for me to marry my cousin which I didn't marry despite she's pretty because they and for some reason kept to call me idiot ( in puplic ) since I was a child and sometimes used to beat me in puplic too so I was afraid if I married my cousin she doesn't respect me , in addtion they circumsize girls to prevent them from normal life and I might have a baby girl so what I do then ? I cann't aply this stupid traditions on her  .
My father was refusing compeletly the idea that I might talk to any girl or even go out freely in a trip or something like that so I was almost going mad for long years I had nothing to do but to study in winter and stay jobless in tedium times in summer .

Well , I learned English as much as I can and I interested in Philosophy, history and arts beside my work as a certified accountant and after my mom passed away in 1996 I tried to know any girl to marry but I found out that I got used to be alone , without any friends boys or girls.
I get scared of meeting people and I think that they already know that I'm an idiot , well I stammer sometimes anyway but not much .
also I hate crowded places so I almost don't attend weddings or any occasions .
I learned to somke and drink and I love to drink in bars ( it's allowed in cairo) but wine is very expensive in Egypt and it takes most of my income.

and suddenly I found out that I'm 35 years old without anything good in my life , not even a friend and the problem is that I cann't know new people .

when my brother engaged I did't go to see his fiancé or her family , I hided under the quilt ( in the summer ) to make sure that I'm safe and I cried a lot and when he came back I asked him not to be angry and forgive me and tell his fiancé that his brother has a mind troubles , but he refused to do that .
Well, I've two different feelings now first I want to stay alone and I love that but second I'm afraid , I don't want to die alone or live in vain but How can I meet a girl and get used to her and her family ?
I pray to die soon and never get old .
Can you please Criticize this story and tell where did I go wrong and if I spoke wrongly on my parents I hope they forgive me because I love them very much and I know they did't mean any harm .

[Imabear]

I work with a Egyptian-Muslim woman.  She basically lied to her dad, saying she was going to visit the USA, and then never returned to Egypt.  I think she married a guy just so she could work towards getting her citizenship, from what I understand the marriage was a farce.  Now she is in her mid 40's and single.  She likes life in America.  She has a pet dog, but she says she would never tell her family that.  She likes the freedom here.  She says in Egypt a woman can't go anywhere without an escort and being covered from head to toe.

I don't know how much help we can be from here.  You live in a very different culture.  Pray that God will lead someone into your life.  Is there no-one at church there?

[Petals]

I visited Egypt many years ago, and I imagine it'd be hard to meet anyone at the Christian churches there.  The women and men are separated with a wall or screen in between.  I imagine it's still that way with centuries old customs still being followed.

Ramy, there are many wonderful Christians in Egypt, and my advice to you would be to connect with a church there that teaches Biblical truths.  The more you begin to fellowship with other Christians, the more relaxed you will become.  You've been by yourself for so long that it will take time to feel comfortable around people once again.  Once you are happy with yourself, perhaps the Lord will send you someone that will be the perfect wife for you.   In the meantime, read the Bible and become better acquainted with Jesus Christ.  He has a plan for your life, and can change the bad experiences into good ones.  Your life can be beautiful with Him in it.

I pray you will find the Prince of Peace, Jesus Christ, and let Him lead you into better days and fill you with His Holy Spirit.

  God bless you, Ramy.  I'm praying for you. Saida'.

[Ramy]

Thank you all for your tender love and I really feel much better after this conversion , I really miss Jesus my Lord .
You know what , I almost forgot about him but that must change now .
He made me and he will take a good care of me , I believe that .

thanks again and I'll pray for you all too 

[Petals]

Ramy, please stay and fellowship with us on this forum, as well.  We'd like to get to know you better.   

[internationalelf]

Ramy, I think people treated you badly when you were a child. God loves you, he does not think you are an idiot.

I don't know what life is like in Egypt, but I hope that God will give you friends.

[kristinaf]

Dear Ramy,

I'm lonely too! I live in America and it can be just as lonely and hard to meet people here.  I am not married and am looking for someone.  I live with my parents and do not get out and socialize quite as much as I should.  Or quite as much as I would like to.  I get out at least once a week to do something social, so maybe it is not that bad, but I do understand your being shy and feeling a bit of social anxiety.  At least you learned English so you can communicate on this forum... Anyways I wish you the best of luck.  Ask people you know if they know someone they can introduce you to for friendship or dating possibilities.  You never know.  Good Luck Ramy. 

Your American friend,
Kristina

[Wordman]

Dear Ramy,

I'm lonely too! I live in America and it can be just as lonely and hard to meet people here.  I am not married and am looking for someone.  I live with my parents and do not get out and socialize quite as much as I should.  Or quite as much as I would like to.  I get out at least once a week to do something social, so maybe it is not that bad, but I do understand your being shy and feeling a bit of social anxiety.  At least you learned English so you can communicate on this forum... Anyways I wish you the best of luck.  Ask people you know if they know someone they can introduce you to for friendship or dating possibilities.  You never know.  Good Luck Ramy. 

Your American friend,
Kristina

Yeah... being shy...it sounds harmless enough doesn't it.  I have social anxiety too...it's probably due to my low self-esteem, or is it self-loathing...   The truth is Life is Suffering....and everything is meaningless...

I am at the point where I don't really care anymore about this world...but live only for the next...

"And God shall wipe away all tears from their eyes; and there shall be no more death, neither sorrow, nor crying, neither shall there be any more pain: for the former things are passed away"  - Revelations 21:4.

[chosenone]

Hello everyone
     well I'm Egyptian Orthodox and in Egypt knowing girls was alittle bit hard thing to do ,
My parents thought that talking in marraige and home is an unacceptable thing till I'm old enough and both of them was planning for me to marry my cousin which I didn't marry despite she's pretty because they and for some reason kept to call me idiot ( in puplic ) since I was a child and sometimes used to beat me in puplic too so I was afraid if I married my cousin she doesn't respect me , in addtion they circumsize girls to prevent them from normal life and I might have a baby girl so what I do then ? I cann't aply this stupid traditions on her  .
My father was refusing compeletly the idea that I might talk to any girl or even go out freely in a trip or something like that so I was almost going mad for long years I had nothing to do but to study in winter and stay jobless in tedium times in summer .

Well , I learned English as much as I can and I interested in Philosophy, history and arts beside my work as a certified accountant and after my mom passed away in 1996 I tried to know any girl to marry but I found out that I got used to be alone , without any friends boys or girls.
I get scared of meeting people and I think that they already know that I'm an idiot , well I stammer sometimes anyway but not much .
also I hate crowded places so I almost don't attend weddings or any occasions .
I learned to somke and drink and I love to drink in bars ( it's allowed in cairo) but wine is very expensive in Egypt and it takes most of my income.

and suddenly I found out that I'm 35 years old without anything good in my life , not even a friend and the problem is that I cann't know new people .

when my brother engaged I did't go to see his fiancé or her family , I hided under the quilt ( in the summer ) to make sure that I'm safe and I cried a lot and when he came back I asked him not to be angry and forgive me and tell his fiancé that his brother has a mind troubles , but he refused to do that .
Well, I've two different feelings now first I want to stay alone and I love that but second I'm afraid , I don't want to die alone or live in vain but How can I meet a girl and get used to her and her family ?
I pray to die soon and never get old .
Can you please Criticize this story and tell where did I go wrong and if I spoke wrongly on my parents I hope they forgive me because I love them very much and I know they did't mean any harm .

God doesnt do crap for his believers. stop believing that he'd lift a finger to do anything for u. oh yeah, it is justified in the Book, because he says that he gives people free will and all that BS.

and im speaking from experience, and it looks like u r experiencing the same thing.

Christians will only tell u to believe MORE and all that BS that does not work.

but i tell u the Truth: nothing good will come out of it. your Faith and love for God for so many years is being laughed at and incomprehensible to the heathens.

at the end of it, u will have NOTHING.

Wow, you are ONE ANGRY GUY. Why do you feel the need to come on here and say such things about our God. Many of us have been through awful  things, myself inclued, so dont think that you are the only one who has suffered. The differencei s that we havent ended up bitter towards God and blamed Him for things that have gone wrong. Maybe you shouldl blame the one who does actually do awful things and that is satan.

[chosenone]

Hello everyone
     well I'm Egyptian Orthodox and in Egypt knowing girls was alittle bit hard thing to do ,
My parents thought that talking in marraige and home is an unacceptable thing till I'm old enough and both of them was planning for me to marry my cousin which I didn't marry despite she's pretty because they and for some reason kept to call me idiot ( in puplic ) since I was a child and sometimes used to beat me in puplic too so I was afraid if I married my cousin she doesn't respect me , in addtion they circumsize girls to prevent them from normal life and I might have a baby girl so what I do then ? I cann't aply this stupid traditions on her  .
My father was refusing compeletly the idea that I might talk to any girl or even go out freely in a trip or something like that so I was almost going mad for long years I had nothing to do but to study in winter and stay jobless in tedium times in summer .

Well , I learned English as much as I can and I interested in Philosophy, history and arts beside my work as a certified accountant and after my mom passed away in 1996 I tried to know any girl to marry but I found out that I got used to be alone , without any friends boys or girls.
I get scared of meeting people and I think that they already know that I'm an idiot , well I stammer sometimes anyway but not much .
also I hate crowded places so I almost don't attend weddings or any occasions .
I learned to somke and drink and I love to drink in bars ( it's allowed in cairo) but wine is very expensive in Egypt and it takes most of my income.

and suddenly I found out that I'm 35 years old without anything good in my life , not even a friend and the problem is that I cann't know new people .

when my brother engaged I did't go to see his fiancé or her family , I hided under the quilt ( in the summer ) to make sure that I'm safe and I cried a lot and when he came back I asked him not to be angry and forgive me and tell his fiancé that his brother has a mind troubles , but he refused to do that .
Well, I've two different feelings now first I want to stay alone and I love that but second I'm afraid , I don't want to die alone or live in vain but How can I meet a girl and get used to her and her family ?
I pray to die soon and never get old .
Can you please Criticize this story and tell where did I go wrong and if I spoke wrongly on my parents I hope they forgive me because I love them very much and I know they did't mean any harm .

God doesnt do crap for his believers. stop believing that he'd lift a finger to do anything for u. oh yeah, it is justified in the Book, because he says that he gives people free will and all that BS.

and im speaking from experience, and it looks like u r experiencing the same thing.

Christians will only tell u to believe MORE and all that BS that does not work.

but i tell u the Truth: nothing good will come out of it. your Faith and love for God for so many years is being laughed at and incomprehensible to the heathens.

at the end of it, u will have NOTHING.

Wow, you are ONE ANGRY GUY. Why do you feel the need to come on here and say such things about our God. Many of us have been through awful  things, myself inclued, so dont think that you are the only one who has suffered. The differencei s that we havent ended up bitter towards God and blamed Him for things that have gone wrong. Maybe you shouldl blame the one who does actually do awful things and that is satan.

so, Satan is responsible for God not doing anything for this 35 year old chap?

he wont be able to do anything until you are able to forgive those that you are so bitter towards. This is the gateway to healing. Unforgveness and bitterness prevent God from doing anything.

[jessbuds]

Hello everyone
     well I'm Egyptian Orthodox and in Egypt knowing girls was alittle bit hard thing to do ,
My parents thought that talking in marraige and home is an unacceptable thing till I'm old enough and both of them was planning for me to marry my cousin which I didn't marry despite she's pretty because they and for some reason kept to call me idiot ( in puplic ) since I was a child and sometimes used to beat me in puplic too so I was afraid if I married my cousin she doesn't respect me , in addtion they circumsize girls to prevent them from normal life and I might have a baby girl so what I do then ? I cann't aply this stupid traditions on her  .
My father was refusing compeletly the idea that I might talk to any girl or even go out freely in a trip or something like that so I was almost going mad for long years I had nothing to do but to study in winter and stay jobless in tedium times in summer .

Well , I learned English as much as I can and I interested in Philosophy, history and arts beside my work as a certified accountant and after my mom passed away in 1996 I tried to know any girl to marry but I found out that I got used to be alone , without any friends boys or girls.
I get scared of meeting people and I think that they already know that I'm an idiot , well I stammer sometimes anyway but not much .
also I hate crowded places so I almost don't attend weddings or any occasions .
I learned to somke and drink and I love to drink in bars ( it's allowed in cairo) but wine is very expensive in Egypt and it takes most of my income.

and suddenly I found out that I'm 35 years old without anything good in my life , not even a friend and the problem is that I cann't know new people .

when my brother engaged I did't go to see his fiancé or her family , I hided under the quilt ( in the summer ) to make sure that I'm safe and I cried a lot and when he came back I asked him not to be angry and forgive me and tell his fiancé that his brother has a mind troubles , but he refused to do that .
Well, I've two different feelings now first I want to stay alone and I love that but second I'm afraid , I don't want to die alone or live in vain but How can I meet a girl and get used to her and her family ?
I pray to die soon and never get old .
Can you please Criticize this story and tell where did I go wrong and if I spoke wrongly on my parents I hope they forgive me because I love them very much and I know they did't mean any harm .

Hey Rami Kun,

I am here same as you can i be your friend instead? by the way i am working in the middle east too. I love to play violin and i am thinking of taking a vacation in Cairo next year interested to meet?

Are you parents christian too? and you say you are 30s? There are so many people in the world Ramy and too many lonely people who needed you too. You'll see many people will become your friends. 

[wolflet7]

Ramy, I know this may sound hard and trust me I think it applies to me also, but maybe God wants you to develop a bigger relationship with Him before you develop a relationship with a girl.  Trust me, I'm kind of shy too.  This past summer, my heart would beat as fast as it could and I thought I might pass out even when I'm praying with my High School Youth Group.  I was so shy even in my own Youth Group!  But, when God called me to be a pastor and I was giving lessons out to my Disciple-ship group, God gave me some guts and now I'm not as shy (but still some).  Is the drinking and smoking pulling you away from God?  Maybe you should meet your brother and apologize instead of having him come to you.  When you walk up to someone to talk, relax, and, I can't believe I'm actually saying this, but act like you own the place and maybe that might help with your stammering problem.  Just act like everything is cool.  I hope this helps and I'll be praying for you Ramy.  God has a plan for you and it will unfold over time.  God Bless, Brother Ramy.