What IS a "Help Mate"?

[Ztheberean]

The LORD said that it is not good for man to be alone so I (God) shall make him a help mate (Gen 2:18); This is because two are better than one, and these will have a good reward for their labor, and if one of them falls, the other can lift him up. (Ecc 4:9-10) This is why those who find a good wife will have favor from the Lord (Prov18:22)

A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband, but a woman who brings shame is like decay in his bones (Prov 12:4) A prudent (or understanding) wife is worth more than precious jewels, and the heart of her husband safely trusts in her, and he lacks nothing of value. (31:10-11) For the man is not of the woman, but the woman for the man, because the woman was created for the man (1Cor 11:8-9) ;
The woman (who has been made good by God) does not usurp authority over her man, but is rather silent (meaning;- she doesn't nag him if he says no) but rather subjects herself to him within all things (meaning;- she doesn't want to do things without his approval)(1Tim 2:12-11) ; This is because God says she is the weaker vessel. (1 Pet 3:7)

This virtuous woman can do good things for her husband all the days of her life (because she asks God to help her do this) (Prov 31:12); This woman is loving, and her breasts satisfy him always, and he is captivated by her love, (which love is between man and woman). (Prov 5:19)

This woman finds favor, and is highly esteemed in the sight of God, and man because she does not lean on her "OWN" understanding, but (asks God to help her) trust in the Lord with all her heart, so that He would direct her paths. (Prov 3:4-6)

She is able to teach others these good things, (only after she has learned them, and is able to apply them) and she is holy (meaning has this understanding, see Prov 9:10) she is not a false accuser, and she can teach the younger women in the faith," how to" love, and obey their husbands, so that the word of God would not be blasphemed. This is all because she has learned to speak the things which are proper for sound doctrine. (Titus 2:3-5 & 1)

And, in all things, she has (learned how) to show a pattern of good works: in sound doctrine which is incorrupt, in purity, in sincerity, and sound speech that cannot be condemned, so that those who oppose her may be ashamed, because they have nothing bad to say about her. (2:7-8)

This woman is also known for distributing to the needs of the saints, entertaining strangers, and being given to hospitality with gratefulness. (Rom 12:13, 1Pet 4:9, Heb 13:2) She is able to continue to do these good things, because she can boldly come to the throne of grace, so that she may obtain mercy from God, by asking Him for His grace, and mercy so that she can be helped in her time of need (Heb 4:16).


This woman's name is written in the book of life because she can help those who labor in the word of God, and doctrine for those who are worthy of double honor who have the same mind as the Lord. (Phil 4:3-2, 1 Tim 5:17) This gracious woman is also known for her good works, meaning;- lodging strangers, relieving the afflicted, and washing the saints with the word of God. (1Tim 5:10)

We don't know anything about love, unless we know that love edifies others in the wisdom, and knowledge of God (Eph 4:16) which love edifies, and builds people up by writing these things down for others (so that others may study, learn, and meditate upon these things) (Es 9:30, 1Cor4:14, 14:26, Eph 4:29, 4:16, 1Thess 5:11, Rom 15:2, 1Tim 1:4)

These are the good works that are becoming of women professing godliness (or a knowledge of God) (1Tim 2:10); And all of this is because these godly women ASKED God for His gift to create Christ in them by His workmanship, so that they could do these good works, without their boasting. (that they did them themselves)(Eph 2:10-8); This Gift of God work upon us, needs to be asked for (Jn 4:10);

These women have been (made) good by God, because they "asked" God to "crucify" them with Christ, so that it would no longer be "THEM" living, (for their own selves) but CHRIST in them, (so that they could live unto God for others) and the life they now live is by the faith OF the Son of God who loved them enough to die for them so that God could crucify them so that they would not frustrate the GRACE of God (Gal 2:20-21).

And all of this is so that 1. They could go on to consider others, and 2. Provoke them to love, and 3. To do these good things (Heb 10:24); These women have been freed by Christ from the bondage of sin, so that they could (ask God to give them the) patience to wait through the Spirit, for this righteous, and loving ability, which can serve others by (this) love. (Gal 5:1,5-6&13)

We need to "learn how" to come from (OUR) faith (which is spoken of in all the world (see Rom 1:8) to (CHRIST'S) faith. (Which is spoken of in this world only by FEW (see Matt 9:37, Lk 10:2, 1 Cor 4:15). (Rom 1:17) We are not saved by "OUR

[Jon-Marc]

Actually, the King James says "help meet". On the side it says for "help meet" "a helper fit for him." God knew that man needed a mate like all His other living creation, and He made a woman from Adam's rib to be his helper. I've heard preachers say that she was made to make up where Adam lacked--to make him complete. Alone he was not whole.