MY HUSBAND CANCELED MY IVF TREATMENT, I HAVE NO LOVE FOR HIM NOW ITS GONE, CAN I

[sadness]

I have been married for 4 years, we have been trying to conceive for the 4 years. My husband is a big time christian he disagrees with assisted pregnancies. throughout us trying to conceive he was never supportive refused to have intercourse with me at the time i was ovulating i eventually was given a fertility drug my husband was not supportive of that so it failed. We was also offered a free course of IVF my husband agreed we went for the check ups at the hospital and doctor appointment prior the IVF treatment when we got to the stage of them prescribing me the drugs my husband backed down. I was still determined to go ahead he had signed the concent forms and that's all i needed.

So i went ahead took the drugs when to the hospital every day for scans and blood tests to see if i was responding well to the treatment and thank God i was responding perfectly.
I had reached the day to collect my eggs and they had my husbands sperm from before he gave it to them to use for this treatment which they frozed.
I went into theater and had 12 perfect eggs removed the nurses was so excited that they called my husband to come to the hospital to try and produce fresh sperm so it would be more of a success.

This is what hurt me and knocked me for 6 he told them he never signed anything he wants them to throw away my eggs and he was not coming to the hospital . So who'll i was in the recovery room the head nurse came in and told me they can not carry on with the treatment that i must go home your husband doesn't concent to this. So i called him and he just started shouting at me and i was begging him in tears. He hung up on me turned his phone off and called the hospital to tell them not to do the treatment cause if the do he will get his solicitor onto them.

I was escorted of the premises as i was coming round from the antistatic.

I had to go home and i was so emotionally hurt not forgeting the pain from the treatment. My husband never came home until late in the evening.

Throughout our marriage i have never turned my back to him our not been there for him in the time of need. He has lied to me about finance's giving hundreds of thousands of pounds away and not telling me due to him giving this type of money away he was not paying the right taxes which catch ed up with him it was me that had to get him though it all even though it was something he was doing behind my back and it caused alot of financial strain on me and the marriage i supported him thick or thin he never and there is so much more and i am still here striving every day but the love i had for him has gone e was my world my everything nothing mattered. I did the IVF treatment went through all that pain for us and he couldn't even come to the hospital to see me make sure i was OK even if he kept to his word and said no. I cant love him again the hurt is to much i just want to get away from him but everyone says the love can come back but why would the person you love and suppose to love you to do such a thing regarding somethin you wanted so dearly.

Can anyone understand please

[kensington]

Here is how I read this....  somewhat confused...  But, let me ask....

You said "We" have been trying to conceive for four years, but through the process your husband refused to have sex with you.  SO...  "WE" have not being trying, you have been trying alone it seems.  Why did you go into treatments if your husband was not even having sex with you, He may be able to conceive with you, but how do you know if he refuses the favor?

I think there is more going on here than his objections to treatments and dr's aid. 

[Howdyboyalan]

Indeed I agree with Kensington. I thought maybe he refused because costs were getting crippling. However, refusing to have sex with you during ovulation? Well thats your problem for not conceiving right there! I think he may have some serious deep seated issues or your long term goals for kids may not align.

Your going to have to bring out his thoughts on the matter in full

[Jimbob]

I think there is more going on here than his objections to treatments and dr's aid. 

Definitely.