Wives working

[faolanblood]

My husband and I have agreed that he would work and I would stay home as it is the bibical thing to do... my question is for all you Christian wives who do not work what do you do to stay busy after the cleaning and cooking is done. Oh we do not have children.

I read and write a lot....but for nine hours mmm eight after cleaning have all this time to my self. I also pray for friend and families alot. And some times do crafts.

Do you ever feel as though you could be doing more?

Times are tough right now with the ecomonmy, I am just lucky that my husband works full time and makes decent money....the economy here in the Tulsa area is pretty good to and gas is not to bad and so we are not feeling it like we did in Hawaii.

He just got discharged from the navy and so I see him  alot more which helps and is nice there is a huge decrease in out income which is ok too. I think we have gained more then lost really,  That and we are not lovers of money.

I help my grandfather mail out bibles to other countries mostly Africa and the Phillipines when I can.

What would you do to pass time and feel like you were helping out more?

[fanuvmxpx]

1. A wife staying at home is not the biblical thing to do, that is a common misconception. Its great if you can, but its not to say that working women are not following the Bible.

2. While at home my wife cross-stiches, watches movies, visits her mother, ponders how to improve the home, plays with the dogs, naps, reads magazines/books, and probably more 

[faolanblood]

Fanuvmxpx ,
Thank you for your quick reply and answer. By aby chancwe do you know were in the bible it says thatt it is fine for a wife to Work?  I know it says some were going to market is fine.

and we have prayed and talked about things...and as long as I am not in Athority over a man and it is some thing that can be done from at home i can get a job. i am thinking writting books for kids or something.

My husband and I beleive that the KJV is the Word of GOD....and try to live our lives acording to the bible. In everything that we do.

It is not easy for me at times as I was never raised Christiand and chose it latter on in life but it is worth it and I admire my husbands love for God and his word since he to was not raised Christian.

[sopranette]

Please read Proverbs 31:10.  She was one busy lady!

love,

sopranette

[fanuvmxpx]

Fanuvmxpx ,
Thank you for your quick reply and answer. By aby chancwe do you know were in the bible it says thatt it is fine for a wife to Work?  I know it says some were going to market is fine.

The Bible does not say "It is ok for a wife to work". It also doesn't say "Men have to work and aren't allowed to clean their house". These are man's interpretations from the Bible mentioning women as the caretakers of home.

and we have prayed and talked about things...and as long as I am not in Athority over a man and it is some thing that can be done from at home i can get a job. i am thinking writting books for kids or something.

The only authority over man (men & women) is God. You can manage a business (oversee employees) as a woman.

My husband and I believe that the KJV is the Word of GOD....and try to live our lives acording to the bible. In everything that we do.

The KJV is a 3rd generation translation of the Word of God. And older scrolls have been discovered which would suggest that the KJV is no longer the 'most accurate' translation. This is not to suggest that the KJV is not good for our walks as Christians, but merely that there are several translations that are the Word of God

It is not easy for me at times as I was never raised Christian and chose it latter on in life but it is worth it and I admire my husbands love for God and his word since he to was not raised Christian.

Wonderful sister in the Lord. But remember, we are to first admire Christ's example, not man's. Keep your eyes on Christ 1st for guidance, husband 2nd.

[chosenone]

The KJV is not the only word of God there are many good translations. In fact the KJV is one that I happen to not like at all, as it uses language that we simply dont use today.I use the amplified version and I love it and find it very good and accurate.

I worked full time till I had my children, so that we could afford a home. After that I did some jobs that I could fit round my children as we needed the money. If we hadnt needed the money I wouldnt have worked as I had quite enough to do bringing up three children.
Now I am 52 and my husband earns enough for us so I dont have to work but I do do some babysitting. I also run  ahome for 4 of us so that keeps me busy. I also have a dog that needs 2 walks a day, go swimming, to the gym, read etc. I am sure that there are many voluntary jobs that you could do for charities or churches.

[His Princess]

My husband and I have agreed that he would work and I would stay home as it is the bibical thing to do... my question is for all you Christian wives who do not work what do you do to stay busy after the cleaning and cooking is done. Oh we do not have children.

I read and write a lot....but for nine hours mmm eight after cleaning have all this time to my self. I also pray for friend and families alot. And some times do crafts.

Do you ever feel as though you could be doing more?

Times are tough right now with the ecomonmy, I am just lucky that my husband works full time and makes decent money....the economy here in the Tulsa area is pretty good to and gas is not to bad and so we are not feeling it like we did in Hawaii.

He just got discharged from the navy and so I see him  alot more which helps and is nice there is a huge decrease in out income which is ok too. I think we have gained more then lost really,  That and we are not lovers of money.

I help my grandfather mail out bibles to other countries mostly Africa and the Phillipines when I can.

What would you do to pass time and feel like you were helping out more?

I think what you and your husband are doing is very sweet.  As far as keeping busy, do you have a church/fellowship that you attend?  A lot of churches have women's Bible studies throughout the week, that would be nice.

I work from home as a medical transcriptionist and that has worked very well for us.  I make decent money and I'm always here.  When my kids were home, I never worked because I had a bunch of 'em and I was way too busy.  But now they're all grown and gone and this is good for me, for my husband and I.  He really likes it that I'm home.

[Arkstfan]

You staying home while he works, has no basis in scripture. It is a nice thing if your budget permits but in the modern economy it presents a danger that should be weighed like any risk. Women who aren't working who end up on their own due to death or divorce have a very difficult time finding a job paying a living wage because they have little to no work history or experience. With no wage history eligibility for Social Security except a reduced survivor's benefit may be all you can obtain.

That is not a reason to work, it is a risk to be considered. Two of my closest friends have died, one in an odd work accident (malfunctioning equipment electrocuted him) and the other in a bizarre highway accident (tire came off a vehicle on the other side of the interstate and crashed through the windshield killing him). That risk can be alleviated with life insurance.

If you are content spending your day praying, cleaning and doing crafts, that is great. Based on your post, that does not appear to be the case. There are other things you can do. My cousin worked for years as a volunteer in the clinic of a local ministry for the poor. A former co-worker spends most of her retirement days working in the kitchen of her church's soup kitchen. A few women in a church we used to attend came in during the week to cover the phones, prepare the materials for the Sunday School classes and handled the accounting for the congregation. Another lady I know worked as a volunteer in a local hospital and later was hired to be their volunteer coordinator after turning it down a couple times when her kids were younger. Volunteer work also helps with the job history issue I mentioned.

As to the money side, if ya'll are making your bills then you are in good shape and that shouldn't be an issue.

But as for what to do. Figure out where your heart is leading you and what your strengths are, you will find your role.

[Tantor]

My husband and I have agreed that he would work and I would stay home as it is the bibical thing to do... my question is for all you Christian wives who do not work what do you do to stay busy after the cleaning and cooking is done. Oh we do not have children.

I read and write a lot....but for nine hours mmm eight after cleaning have all this time to my self. I also pray for friend and families alot. And some times do crafts.

Do you ever feel as though you could be doing more?

Times are tough right now with the ecomonmy, I am just lucky that my husband works full time and makes decent money....the economy here in the Tulsa area is pretty good to and gas is not to bad and so we are not feeling it like we did in Hawaii.

He just got discharged from the navy and so I see him  alot more which helps and is nice there is a huge decrease in out income which is ok too. I think we have gained more then lost really,  That and we are not lovers of money.

I help my grandfather mail out bibles to other countries mostly Africa and the Phillipines when I can.

What would you do to pass time and feel like you were helping out more?

If anything.. a stay at home wife is probably the most unbiblical course you can take.

[chosenone]

My husband and I have agreed that he would work and I would stay home as it is the bibical thing to do... my question is for all you Christian wives who do not work what do you do to stay busy after the cleaning and cooking is done. Oh we do not have children.

I read and write a lot....but for nine hours mmm eight after cleaning have all this time to my self. I also pray for friend and families alot. And some times do crafts.

Do you ever feel as though you could be doing more?

Times are tough right now with the ecomonmy, I am just lucky that my husband works full time and makes decent money....the economy here in the Tulsa area is pretty good to and gas is not to bad and so we are not feeling it like we did in Hawaii.

He just got discharged from the navy and so I see him  alot more which helps and is nice there is a huge decrease in out income which is ok too. I think we have gained more then lost really,  That and we are not lovers of money.

I help my grandfather mail out bibles to other countries mostly Africa and the Phillipines when I can.

What would you do to pass time and feel like you were helping out more?

If anything.. a stay at home wife is probably the most unbiblical course you can take.

I do think that when children come along it is the best thing to be at home with them, but before that I would have been so bored if I hadnt worked.
you are only 18 I think and therefore have probably hardly worked at all, and that may be a mistake, but it is your choice of course.

I just wondered with you being so very young what did your parents think of you marrying a guy only 2 weeks after meeting? I would have been extreemly unhappy about it if you were one of my daughters.

[His Princess]

My husband and I have agreed that he would work and I would stay home as it is the bibical thing to do... my question is for all you Christian wives who do not work what do you do to stay busy after the cleaning and cooking is done. Oh we do not have children.

I read and write a lot....but for nine hours mmm eight after cleaning have all this time to my self. I also pray for friend and families alot. And some times do crafts.

Do you ever feel as though you could be doing more?

Times are tough right now with the ecomonmy, I am just lucky that my husband works full time and makes decent money....the economy here in the Tulsa area is pretty good to and gas is not to bad and so we are not feeling it like we did in Hawaii.

He just got discharged from the navy and so I see him  alot more which helps and is nice there is a huge decrease in out income which is ok too. I think we have gained more then lost really,  That and we are not lovers of money.

I help my grandfather mail out bibles to other countries mostly Africa and the Phillipines when I can.

What would you do to pass time and feel like you were helping out more?

If anything.. a stay at home wife is probably the most unbiblical course you can take.

I think that's a very strange thing to say to this young woman.  Where do you get that?  If that's what her and her husband have decided to do we should be supportive of that.  There are many, many useful things she can do to "be busy at HOME" as the Scriptures say.

[fanuvmxpx]

I think that's a very strange thing to say to this young woman.  Where do you get that?  If that's what her and her husband have decided to do we should be supportive of that.  There are many, many useful things she can do to "be busy at HOME" as the Scriptures say.

The only thing I could think of is if the housewife finished all cleaning & additions she wanted to do with the home...then maybe her life would be more sloth? But just ask my wife or mother and you'll have an answer "The house is never clean or finished"

But there has to be balance...because usually when my wife or mother say that they are just about to go shopping for something that is 100% not a "need" 

[His Princess]

I think that's a very strange thing to say to this young woman.  Where do you get that?  If that's what her and her husband have decided to do we should be supportive of that.  There are many, many useful things she can do to "be busy at HOME" as the Scriptures say.

The only thing I could think of is if the housewife finished all cleaning & additions she wanted to do with the home...then maybe her life would be more sloth? But just ask my wife or mother and you'll have an answer "The house is never clean or finished"

But there has to be balance...because usually when my wife or mother say that they are just about to go shopping for something that is 100% not a "need" 

I don't know, but there are all kinds of things she could do to be busy.  There's absolutely nothing wrong with a wife working outside the home, but to say that being a housewife is unscriptural, I just think that's weird.

[Tantor]

My husband and I have agreed that he would work and I would stay home as it is the bibical thing to do... my question is for all you Christian wives who do not work what do you do to stay busy after the cleaning and cooking is done. Oh we do not have children.

I read and write a lot....but for nine hours mmm eight after cleaning have all this time to my self. I also pray for friend and families alot. And some times do crafts.

Do you ever feel as though you could be doing more?

Times are tough right now with the ecomonmy, I am just lucky that my husband works full time and makes decent money....the economy here in the Tulsa area is pretty good to and gas is not to bad and so we are not feeling it like we did in Hawaii.

He just got discharged from the navy and so I see him  alot more which helps and is nice there is a huge decrease in out income which is ok too. I think we have gained more then lost really,  That and we are not lovers of money.

I help my grandfather mail out bibles to other countries mostly Africa and the Phillipines when I can.

What would you do to pass time and feel like you were helping out more?

If anything.. a stay at home wife is probably the most unbiblical course you can take.

I think that's a very strange thing to say to this young woman.  Where do you get that?  If that's what her and her husband have decided to do we should be supportive of that.  There are many, many useful things she can do to "be busy at HOME" as the Scriptures say.

Why is it strange?.. we are all equal citizens in this world and the next and we should all work accordingly.  Being a home maker does a dis-service to a woman if something happens to her husband she needs to remain in touch with the workforce so she can support herself and her children.

Also, when you look in proverbs when it talks about a women of virtue.. she works to increase the household wealth.. she owns real estate, is a small business owner and supports her husband as well as her children as well as take care of the household.  She is virtuous because she can take care of herself... and is a co-equal with her husband in all things.

Such a women is a rare find and pleasing to the Lord!


FYI, I am 48 years old.. I have 2 kids (23 year old son and 21 year old daughter).

[zoonance]

The most unbiblical course she could take is to be having affairs with the milkman and/or the cable guy, etc....   Where in the world did that ridiculous idea come from that staying at home is the most unbiblical course a wife could take?

[llewksgood]

I think this post was addressed to other women, not men with big ideas.

[faolanblood]

I may be 18 years old yes however I have been on my own since I was 15 years old and have worked since 14. I have more experience then my Husband does and in more areas. I finished high school before I turned 16 years old and went to some College but thought it easy and boring. The college I did at end was fully paid for ( UH) through Scholarships and grants as I maintained a 4.0 GPA. I understand the risk in not having work experience and am not overly worried about it. we have life insurance and alot of my family own their own business and I could easily get a job with one of them should in the even that something did happen to my husband.

Divorce is not biblical...and not some thing that will happen. as christian we must look to God first  then our selves.

my husband and I were both not raised Christian this is something that we chose for my self. my Biological father and his family are strong Christians my Mother left him when I was five for an atheist and I never really saw him much or got to know him well. I was kept from his side of my family till i was on my own.  he died in 2004. I found God in 2006.

my Grandfather and Fathers side of my family have spent their hole lives in Ministy or have lived as Christians.

my uncle Developed Swordsearcher ( www.swordsearcher.com) and my grandpa has a websire that he teaches off of thywordistruthkjv.com feel free to look at it and you will see better were we come from in our beliefs.... http://av1611.com/ is also a forum my uncle has. it is really good.  you are all more then welcomed to look at it and join.

My question was more directed to Women but I thank the men who answered too as does my husband since he to was interested to see your answers.

I do not think god will look at our ages...and for the person who asked what my Mother though. she did not care at all...she does not believe in God either though. My grandparents were married at 17 and 21  and will be married 48 years this year. Most my family has married young and there has been two divorces all the women on my fathers side married between 16 and 18 none have divorced the men 18 and 22 two have divorced. All believe in God only one married a non Christan and she is a christian now. Our marriage can work .....I believe it is more a matter of the heart and having GOD as our center. Our faith is what brought us together and holds us. Chapter 13 in Corinthians gives the best description of love i have ever seen.

My grandparents has seven kids and only one is not christian although she was raised christian her husband is not they have been married 25 years. None of the women work Exspect her and she only works for some thing to do now.

I do not think that not working is unbibical.

If some one could show me were in the bible it says a women should work ( chapter and versus please) that is mroe what I was  looking for.

I can be content in what I am doing my desire is more to do what GOD would want me to do and to follow his word.
In both our Marriage and life in general
thank you

[chosenone]

I may be 18 years old yes however I have been on my own since I was 15 years old and have worked since 14. I have more experience then my Husband does and in more areas. I finished high school before I turned 16 years old and went to some College but thought it easy and boring. The college I did at end was fully paid for ( UH) through Scholarships and grants as I maintained a 4.0 GPA. I understand the risk in not having work experience and am not overly worried about it. we have life insurance and alot of my family own their own business and I could easily get a job with one of them should in the even that something did happen to my husband.

Divorce is not biblical...and not some thing that will happen. as christian we must look to God first  then our selves.

my husband and I were both not raised Christian this is something that we chose for my self. my Biological father and his family are strong Christians my Mother left him when I was five for an atheist and I never really saw him much or got to know him well. I was kept from his side of my family till i was on my own.  he died in 2004. I found God in 2006.

my Grandfather and Fathers side of my family have spent their hole lives in Ministy or have lived as Christians.

my uncle Developed Swordsearcher ( www.swordsearcher.com) and my grandpa has a websire that he teaches off of thywordistruthkjv.com feel free to look at it and you will see better were we come from in our beliefs.... http://av1611.com/ is also a forum my uncle has. it is really good.  you are all more then welcomed to look at it and join.

My question was more directed to Women but I thank the men who answered too as does my husband since he to was interested to see your answers.

I do not think god will look at our ages...and for the person who asked what my Mother though. she did not care at all...she does not believe in God either though. My grandparents were married at 17 and 21  and will be married 48 years this year. Most my family has married young and there has been two divorces all the women on my fathers side married between 16 and 18 none have divorced the men 18 and 22 two have divorced. All believe in God only one married a non Christan and she is a christian now. Our marriage can work .....I believe it is more a matter of the heart and having GOD as our center. Our faith is what brought us together and holds us. Chapter 13 in Corinthians gives the best description of love i have ever seen.

My grandparents has seven kids and only one is not christian although she was raised christian her husband is not they have been married 25 years. None of the women work Exspect her and she only works for some thing to do now.

I do not think that not working is unbibical.

If some one could show me were in the bible it says a women should work ( chapter and versus please) that is mroe what I was  looking for.

I can be content in what I am doing my desire is more to do what GOD would want me to do and to follow his word.
In both our Marriage and life in general
thank you

Divorce is actually Bibical for sexual immorality.Unfortunately divorce does happen to Christians however much we dont want it to, so dont be complacent and  pray for protection for yoir own marriage, and be on your guard all the time as Satan loves to attack Christian marriages.

I wasnt so much concerned about your ages, but  just that you married only 2 weeks after you met. If you had been one of my children I would have advised that you  knew each other in person for at least a  year before marrying. You cant possibly get to know someone that well in a few days.Also teenage marriages have a very high divorce rate here.

My step son who is 25 went out with a girl for a whole year and thought that she was the one for him and they even bought the engagagement ring, but he began to have doubts and eventually they broke up which we were very pleased about because she was  very controlling and wasnt right for him at all, so its very good that he didnt marry too soon, or he would have now been stuck in an unhappy marriage.

You certainly do marry young in your family. People here in the UK get married much much later  and many are late 20's and early 30s by the time that they marry which I think can be  more sensible,but  I really hope that it works for you,and if  if God is in it it will, with work and effort on both your parts.
God Bless you both.

[Bon Voyage]

My wife stays at home.  I have three kids under the age of 5.  We both want our children to be raised by their parents, not by a daycare.  It is tight, but we manage.  If my wife worked I doubt she could cover the daycare cost.  And if I were to die, she would get double my yearly salary from an insurance policy.

[Arkstfan]

I cannot find a verse that says go out and get a job outside the home because there isn't one, just as there isn't one that says stay home.

Anyone commanding a wife to not work outside the home or commanding them to is doing so on authority other than scripture.

The stay at home work we see in the Bible were vital tasks that have been outsourced.

We don't go to the village well to get our water. We don't see too many women spinning fiber to create thread and cloth to make clothes, we don't do much threshing or gathering grain or grapes from fields. All vital tasks of the day and real work, but I don't think the fact that for the most part men AND women made their living working at home translates into a mandate that neither should leave their property to support themselves.

[llewksgood]

As to whether you should work, or not, that is something for you and your husband to decide. Don't let anyone make issues between you. Noreen and I were married 2 days before I turned 20, she was still 3 months from 18.

I refused to let anyone tell us what to do, and bluntly told them so.

I like the faith you express, and the determination not to let anything come between you. Believe me, some well meaning advice can do just that. whatever you do, just make sure that its cool with both of you. you've got a long road ahead of you, but you'll make it, if you remain in the faith you express now.

[chosenone]

As to whether you should work, or not, that is something for you and your husband to decide. Don't let anyone make issues between you. Noreen and I were married 2 days before I turned 20, she was still 3 months from 18.

I refused to let anyone tell us what to do, and bluntly told them so.

I like the faith you express, and the determination not to let anything come between you. Believe me, some well meaning advice can do just that. whatever you do, just make sure that its cool with both of you. you've got a long road ahead of you, but you'll make it, if you remain in the faith you express now.

agreed but had you only known each other for 2 weeks?I also married at 19 (much too youmg in my opinion only), but we had known each other for 1 1/2 years not 2 weeks!

[faolanblood]

llewksgood

Thank you for your Post.

My husband and I have no intention to let any one nor advice from people come between us and our marriage.

His family and my family ( Mothers side any way) does not agree with how we live our lives or our faith.

The way we look at it we married eachother not any one else. And it is between us and God when it comes to our faith and life style.

[chosenone]

I cannot find a verse that says go out and get a job outside the home because there isn't one, just as there isn't one that says stay home.

Anyone commanding a wife to not work outside the home or commanding them to is doing so on authority other than scripture.

The stay at home work we see in the Bible were vital tasks that have been outsourced.

We don't go to the village well to get our water. We don't see too many women spinning fiber to create thread and cloth to make clothes, we don't do much threshing or gathering grain or grapes from fields. All vital tasks of the day and real work, but I don't think the fact that for the most part men AND women made their living working at home translates into a mandate that neither should leave their property to support themselves.

I am not particulary for or against women working (apart from believing that once children come along, they should be looked after by their parents) but was reading this the other day and it is relevant.

Titus
2 v4.5
The  older women............will wisely train the young women to ba sane and sober of mind (temperate and disciplined)and to love their husbands and their children, to be self-controlled, chaste, HOMEMAKERS, good natured (kind-hearted) adapting and subordinating themselves to their husbands, that the word of God may not be exposed to reproach (blasphemed or discredited)

Do we think that when they are told to be homemakers it means just that or was that only for then?

Once we had kids I was always at home and when my youngest was three I did a small job (out of dire finaicial need only, I didnt want to),that I could take my kids to with me. Before we had kids I worked full time as we lived in a grotty old flat (that had an infestation of mice, rising damp and  awful neighbours) and we were desperate to move out before we had kids and buy a little place. If I hadnt worked then we couldnt have done that, and it never occured to me not to work when there was just the two of us.I would have felt really bad if hubby was working so hard while I just did nothing all day. Just my opinion.
I guess in the time the Bible was written women had kids more or less straight away anyway as they didnt have family planning like we do, so that was one big difference.

Must admit that since I was able to stop working outside the home 3 years ago (I am 52 now) I love it and feel relaxed and at peace, but then I do have a household of four adults (and a dog) to run, so life is never dull, and there is ALWAYS plenty to do believe me.

[chosenone]

llewksgood

Thank you for your Post.

My husband and I have no intention to let any one nor advice from people come between us and our marriage.

His family and my family ( Mothers side any way) does not agree with how we live our lives or our faith.

The way we look at it we married eachother not any one else. And it is between us and God when it comes to our faith and life style.

You faith and lifestyle are your buisiness and there will often be those in our families who dont agree with this, but when you marry someone you do to some extent marry your spouses family as well and cant just pretend that they dont exist. Also if you have children, they would benefit from an extended family with grandparents and aunties and aunties , cousins etc.
I dont get on with my mother in law, she is a very controlling manipulating lady (who fortunately lives the other side of the world), but I still have to make the effort to be civil and friendly when she rings or whatever, as she is my husbands mother after all.

[chosenone]

I cannot find a verse that says go out and get a job outside the home because there isn't one, just as there isn't one that says stay home.

Anyone commanding a wife to not work outside the home or commanding them to is doing so on authority other than scripture.

The stay at home work we see in the Bible were vital tasks that have been outsourced.

We don't go to the village well to get our water. We don't see too many women spinning fiber to create thread and cloth to make clothes, we don't do much threshing or gathering grain or grapes from fields. All vital tasks of the day and real work, but I don't think the fact that for the most part men AND women made their living working at home translates into a mandate that neither should leave their property to support themselves.

If you have kids there is still PLENTY to do, even if we dont now have to spin the cloth or go to the well. Looking after young children ( I had three) is a full time job on its own without all the hundreds of other domestic jobs that had to be done. Also these days many of us have no close family support around to help with child care and other things so it is all on one person to do it alone.

[Arkstfan]

Like I said, if a couple chooses that way, it is fine. There just isn't a Biblical mandate to stay home.

[llewksgood]

As to whether you should work, or not, that is something for you and your husband to decide. Don't let anyone make issues between you. Noreen and I were married 2 days before I turned 20, she was still 3 months from 18.

I refused to let anyone tell us what to do, and bluntly told them so.

I like the faith you express, and the determination not to let anything come between you. Believe me, some well meaning advice can do just that. whatever you do, just make sure that its cool with both of you. you've got a long road ahead of you, but you'll make it, if you remain in the faith you express now.

agreed but had you only known each other for 2 weeks?I also married at 19 (much too youmg in my opinion only), but we had known each other for 1 1/2 years not 2 weeks!

Um... that question's a bit hard to answer. It was definately longer than 2 weeks, yes, and more likely well over a year... but our families knew each other since we were small children, although contact was not a constant. All I can tell you is that, up until the time I asked her to marry me, I was never going to get married.

The original failed bachelor boy.

[chosenone]

As to whether you should work, or not, that is something for you and your husband to decide. Don't let anyone make issues between you. Noreen and I were married 2 days before I turned 20, she was still 3 months from 18.

I refused to let anyone tell us what to do, and bluntly told them so.

I like the faith you express, and the determination not to let anything come between you. Believe me, some well meaning advice can do just that. whatever you do, just make sure that its cool with both of you. you've got a long road ahead of you, but you'll make it, if you remain in the faith you express now.

agreed but had you only known each other for 2 weeks?I also married at 19 (much too youmg in my opinion only), but we had known each other for 1 1/2 years not 2 weeks!

Um... that question's a bit hard to answer. It was definately longer than 2 weeks, yes, and more likely well over a year... but our families knew each other since we were small children, although contact was not a constant. All I can tell you is that, up until the time I asked her to marry me, I was never going to get married.

The original failed bachelor boy.

Well if you married at 19 you werent really a failed bachelor boy in my opinion. That is much earlier than most guys marry!

[HRoberson]

My husband and I have agreed that he would work and I would stay home as it is the bibical thing to do...

Huh?

[Tantor]

Like I said, if a couple chooses that way, it is fine. There just isn't a Biblical mandate to stay home.

Yeap.. all I have been trying to say.  But personally, I would council a man not to get married to a woman who's only aspirations are to be a stay at home mom.

[chosenone]

Like I said, if a couple chooses that way, it is fine. There just isn't a Biblical mandate to stay home.

Yeap.. all I have been trying to say.  But personally, I would council a man not to get married to a woman who's only aspirations are to be a stay at home mom.

Thats a bit sad I thnk, What is worng with staying at home to be a mum and home maker? I think that is the most important (and most demanding)job that any women can do. I always wanted to be a wife and mum.  I have worked over the years out of necessity, but it wasnt my first choice to do that.
However before kids come along, I dont see the need to stay at home, unless you are well off and can afford to do this.

[Tantor]

Why is that sad?... her life extends way beyond the 18 +/- years that a child stays at home.

[chosenone]

Why is that sad?... her life extends way beyond the 18 +/- years that a child stays at home.

I meant sad that you would actually counsel someone not to marry a lady who wanted to get married and have children and be a stay at home mum.What is wrong with that?. When her kids leave home (and how many of them leave at 18 these days) she can then decide what to do whether to work, do voluntary work, or continue to be a wife and home maker.
I would be far more concerned at a man marrying a real career woman whose aim in life was to  put everything into her career and not into her home her husband and her family.

[Tantor]

Why is that sad?... her life extends way beyond the 18 +/- years that a child stays at home.

I meant sad that you would actually counsel someone not to marry a lady who wanted to get married and have children and be a stay at home mum.What is wrong with that?. When her kids leave home (and how many of them leave at 18 these days) she can then decide what to do whether to work, do voluntary work, or continue to be a wife and home maker.
I would be far more concerned at a man marrying a real career woman whose aim in life was to  put everything into her career and not into her home her husband and her family.

There is so much wrong that that I do not know where to start.  Men and women are equals.. they should equally share the load on the family and each should provide their best assets to the family.  Personally, i know some dads that would be much better as a stay at home dad then a wage earner... much better.

The two times I got laid off.. I kept the house cleaner, took care of the kids better and ran a tighter budget then my wife ever did.. and the kids were very sad when i went back to work... heck, I would rather stay at home and raise the kids then deal with 40+ years in the work force having to do what my boss tells me to do.  Being home maker is a gravy job.. almost like being on vacation every day.