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[taylorann]

I think that if it is God's will for you to have a girlfriend he will provide you with one in the right time. For now I would recommend tweaking any personality traits that you know arent your best attributes and work towards learning how to relate to girls and be thier friends rather than being so determined to make one of them your girlfriend. God is probably trying to teach you how to overcome the lust or your weakness with having the tendancy of being perverted so that you can be fit to be a good boyfriend. I encourage you to truly stay true to yourself and be real with people but also focus your life on serving God and leaving it up to him rather than worrying. Work on clearing away or getting rid of any habitual sins that could be harmful to a relationship and then when you feel that you have done all you can to get rid of that sin, whatever it may be; then see what direction you feel God is leading you in. Also, be confident! God made you and loves you and you should be confident in the abilities he has given you. Girls may be unattracted to the side of you that lacks confidence, because its difficult to convince a girl that she should date you when you dont even believe that she should date you!

[dothackzero]

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[fanuvmxpx]

Anyway, now my anxiety isn't anywhere near as bad as it used to be. Should it help out my chances for getting a girlfriend?

It should yes, especially if you just consider them a human like yourself. Don't be so nervous, be confident that whoever you date will be happy...that way when you interact with women that confidence will show.

Your single, talk to a lot of girls, see how they react. You'll start to learn who wouldn't give you the time of day and who enjoys your company. Once you have found a girl who you love spending time with...and you think she is "out of your league"...that's probably the girl you want to ask out (personal experience).

[phantommagic]

 ::priest::I feel it to. I never have a girlfriend. Sometimes even I am envy to see someone with their boyfriend/girlfriend. Sometimes I think, "I am handsome enough. I am good person. I am not playboy. But why it's so hard for me to get a girlfriend. 

I try to have start make a relationship when I am 24 years old. But it so hard. It's hard to be alone. To hold start relationship is like a double-edge sword. If you can hold it, yes you win, God will choose the best for you. But if you can't hold it longer, then you will lose, cause you will start a relationship in a hurry and It is dangerous.

Be patient. Until that, try to make a relationship with many person or girls mayeb, for friend purpose. God wil choose the best for you. God knows that you need partner. You have to build your character for your partner, so that you deserve to get a good girl.

Now I try, spend my time to wokr or create blog. You can visit my blog, (Link Removed Per Forum Rule 3.3) ::tippinghat::it's an honor for me if you visit my blog

[Wycliffes_Shillelagh]

I am not sure what all of those things are, except OCD.  The good news is that having OCD does not stop women liking you.  Look at David Beckham.  Look at his wife.  (I recommend the latter.)

Think of Abraham.  He was upset at not having a son, and so fathered a brat by his wife's maidservant.   Mistake.

I'm guessing the poster would be happy to have a wife and a concubine.



Go somewhere there are girls.  Talk to them.  Feel stupid.  Say the wrong thing, but instead of blushing just laugh it off and make a joke of it.  Saying the wrong thing is far better than saying nothing.

[OneLung]

I am good person. I am not playboy. But why it's so hard for me to get a girlfriend.

You answered your own question. ;)

[amydawson]

Believe me, I do understand what you're going through.  I know what these are:

I'm shy
I have low self confidence
I have OCD: (Links deleted per rule 3.3)
and a touch of depression.

I'm extremely shy, and low self confidence, OCD, GAD, and TMJ, but I know exactly what ADD is and I understand that too.  I also have depression, but more then just a touch of it for me.  I have other things too, but I'm not going to name those. :)
I think that you sound like a really great guy, but unfortunately I'm a bit older then you,  so I don't think that could help much, but I just want you to know that there are people, women/ladies/girls out there that do understand and can relate.
Just, don't give up, alright?

[fanuvmxpx]

I am good person. I am not playboy. But why it's so hard for me to get a girlfriend.

You answered your own question. ;)

Nice guys indeed finish last. Green Day quoted that well.

[dothackzero]

Anyway I updated the info on the 1st post about me.

[yesult]

I am good person. I am not playboy. But why it's so hard for me to get a girlfriend.

You answered your own question. ;)

Nice guys indeed finish last. Green Day quoted that well.

Actually I find people generally get what they deserve. The playboys get the tramps. The trophy seekers get the golddiggers. The 'bad' boys get the needy girls. The chauvinists get the man haters - because they both nurse bitterness towards the opposite sex.

Nice guys get nice girls. And dysfunction attracts dysfunction (because who else is going to put up with it.)

If you want a nice girl,  be a nice guy. And anal and oral sex is perverted by the way. If you have a porn problem then you'll only get a 'nice' girl by stealth anyway - and it'll wreck your relationship down the track (eg how would you like your 'nice' wife to be secretly comparing your body and ability with lots of other men and fantasizing about sex with them all the time?) Nobody can add up to another persons sexual fantasies - especially when they're constantly being fueled - which will just make you feel like a permanent failure.

Not a way to make any relationship work.



All the best with it.

PS - (And God isn't going to give us anyone better then ourselves, because he's not unjust, and that wouldn't be fair to them. So our best strategy is to just work on our own characters until we meet the right person at the right time.)

[Archibald]

Some chicks dig scars.

Hang in there man, God just wants you to grow some more before it happens. Then of course on the flip side maybe your ready, but she isn't. There is allot of shaping God must do to mold two people into one. Time being one of the ingredients needed.

I'm 28 and granted I don't look too much anymore, I still know shes out there somewere.

[dothackzero]

Some chicks dig scars.

I thought that was just an anime thing?

[rppearso]

You have alot of things going against you dude, first you have to deal with all your emotional issues, women want a strong man both physically and mentally who can provide for them.  You need to get your own place, decent vehical and a good job to show you have drive in life.  Second thing is the feminist movement is alive and well in the united states so tread carefully when picking a mate, I would even say try going to another country where the gender roles are still biblical.  Also when you say "christian" girl friend are you just refering to someone who refers to themsleves as christians or who actually act like christian woman, there are a series of questions you can ask when looking for a good woman, the right questions will have a feminist throwing your email in the garbage and a good woman will reply.  There are no absolutes in looking for a mate but after time you will learn there are general rules of thumb depending on what you are looking for.

You want a woman who is not a prude (is she willing to do ANYTHING in bed), this will eliminate almost all of the feminists
Does she have a high wage powerfull position, you dont want to be put into a position where she is the bread winner because if anything happens this will be used against you, you want to make sure you are the one wearing the pants
Does she come across as submissive or agressive (agressive in bed is a good thing) in daily life in a non sexual setting.

Also go by the 80/20 rule, if she meets 80% of what you are looking for your good to go because you will never meet someone that is 100% so you have to decide what your highest priorities are and go from there.

BTW - the size 4 bleach blond is not all that, looks are important but not the most important.

[yesult]

You have alot of things going against you dude, first you have to deal with all your emotional issues, women want a strong man both physically and mentally who can provide for them.

Actually first and foremost they just want someone who will love them and treat them like an equal.

 

You need to get your own place, decent vehical and a good job to show you have drive in life. 

Not necessarily. A good christian woman is going to care more about your heart then your assets (and will expect the same from you.)

Second thing is the feminist movement is alive and well in the united states so tread carefully when picking a mate, I would even say try going to another country where the gender roles are still biblical. 

Sexism is not biblical. The bible is a record of history as well as Gods word. Just because sexism is recorded in it, does not mean God condoned it. Prostitution, rape and murder are also recorded in the bible.

You want a woman who is not a prude (is she willing to do ANYTHING in bed), this will eliminate almost all of the feminists

Actually this will just eliminate women with self-respect. And if neither of you respect her - then how is that going to end in any kind of healthy relationship?

Does she have a high wage powerfull position, you dont want to be put into a position where she is the bread winner because if anything happens this will be used against you, you want to make sure you are the one wearing the pants

And if you refuse to marry a woman who earns more money then you - or prevent her from doing it once you are married - that just proves that you have to dominate her to 'lead' in the relationship. That isn't leadership, it's abuse.

Does she come across as submissive or agressive

You won't respect a woman you can dominate. And she'll eventually lose respect for you  - for the same reason.


Nice guys, get nice girls. Domination and perversion are not nice. Just be yourself and work on your own character. Then God will bring in the right woman when you're ready.

[Howdyboyalan]

bang on yesult.

If you are going to prevent a woman earning more than you, making her do what you please (i am sure there are things you wouldnt want to do) and ban any kind of feminist attitude, that is not going to lead to a relationship with respect.

[chosenone]

Brilliant post yesult and many good points there.

[rppearso]

You have alot of things going against you dude, first you have to deal with all your emotional issues, women want a strong man both physically and mentally who can provide for them.

Actually first and foremost they just want someone who will love them and treat them like an equal.

I also partially agree with this, I dont think a good woman wants to be a 100% equal she wants to be loved and taken care of I agree with that, however, if you are a 100lbm guy who can barely pick up a large flower pot and your voice sounds whiny thats not going to be good for you.

 

You need to get your own place, decent vehical and a good job to show you have drive in life. 

Not necessarily. A good christian woman is going to care more about your heart then your assets (and will expect the same from you.)

Again not nessicarily disagreeing here but lets put it in perspective, is a woman going to want that 100lbm guy who lives in his moms basement and drives a beat up car or rides a bike 

Second thing is the feminist movement is alive and well in the united states so tread carefully when picking a mate, I would even say try going to another country where the gender roles are still biblical. 

Sexism is not biblical. The bible is a record of history as well as Gods word. Just because sexism is recorded in it, does not mean God condoned it. Prostitution, rape and murder are also recorded in the bible.

Where did I state sexism I am simply stating biblical roles in the marriage, the woman is not suppost to wear the pants the man is the lead of the relationship

You want a woman who is not a prude (is she willing to do ANYTHING in bed), this will eliminate almost all of the feminists

Actually this will just eliminate women with self-respect. And if neither of you respect her - then how is that going to end in any kind of healthy relationship?

No it doesent its to simply make sure you are compatable in the bedroom, women who prude out have issues, because taking care of each other sexually in ANY capacity is not rocket science (notice I said each other not just the woman taking care of the man, the man also better not prude out, saying crap like eww I dont want to lick there  ).  Feminists have twisted around "self respect" to where it now has the meaning I dont have to comply with my husband because im an "equal".  And also feminists consider them selves above the man in the relationship, they set the rules for the marriage bed and they wear the pants under the shroud of "being equal" and "self respect", I never said feminists were stupid they are just evil.  If your man is beating you and talking down to you yea you need to have some self respect and leave but feminists have re-drawn that line.

Does she have a high wage powerfull position, you dont want to be put into a position where she is the bread winner because if anything happens this will be used against you, you want to make sure you are the one wearing the pants

And if you refuse to marry a woman who earns more money then you - or prevent her from doing it once you are married - that just proves that you have to dominate her to 'lead' in the relationship. That isn't leadership, it's abuse.

All im saying is its a red flag, women who make alot of money are not nessicarily feminists but you better pay close attention.  Typically women in the medical profession make alot and are likely not feminists, but if they are in buisness you have to wonder how they got there, just things that make you go hmm.

Does she come across as submissive or agressive

You won't respect a woman you can dominate. And she'll eventually lose respect for you  - for the same reason.

That is not true, just becuase she is submissive does not mean you should dominate her it just means she is not going to try to start wearing the pants in the future, she will let you be the man and make the decisions and take care of you like a wife should and you should love her and care for her and seriously consider her opinions.

Nice guys, get nice girls. Domination and perversion are not nice. Just be yourself and work on your own character. Then God will bring in the right woman when you're ready.

Way to totally twist what I have said, did I inadvertantly stumble upon a lilith fair forum with a christian lable?

[dothackzero]

Also when you say "christian" girl friend are you just refering to someone who refers to themsleves as christians or who actually act like christian woman, there are a series of questions you can ask when looking for a good woman

One that acts Christian.

[dothackzero]

bang on yesult.

If you are going to prevent a woman earning more than you, making her do what you please (i am sure there are things you wouldnt want to do) and ban any kind of feminist attitude, that is not going to lead to a relationship with respect.

I wouldn't really care as long as we're both doing what we enjoy for a career.

[yesult]

You have alot of things going against you dude, first you have to deal with all your emotional issues, women want a strong man both physically and mentally who can provide for them.

Actually first and foremost they just want someone who will love them and treat them like an equal.

I also partially agree with this, I dont think a good woman wants to be a 100% equal she wants to be loved and taken care of I agree with that, however, if you are a 100lbm guy who can barely pick up a large flower pot and your voice sounds whiny thats not going to be good for you.

100% equal means treated with 100% worth. Physical strength has nothing to do with that.

 

You need to get your own place, decent vehical and a good job to show you have drive in life. 

Not necessarily. A good christian woman is going to care more about your heart then your assets (and will expect the same from you.)

Again not nessicarily disagreeing here but lets put it in perspective, is a woman going to want that 100lbm guy who lives in his moms basement and drives a beat up car or rides a bike 

As I already said. Physical strength has nothing to do with either love or respect. And if a guy lives in him moms basement and drives a beat up car or bike - perhaps it's because he has medical issues or is a student. Or after a financial disaster is back in that position and is trying to pick up the pieces. Or maybe his mom is sick and needs looking after. Not having a lot in life is not necessarily indicative of failure or lack of drive. And if a woman is only after 'things' then why would you want her anyway?

Second thing is the feminist movement is alive and well in the united states so tread carefully when picking a mate, I would even say try going to another country where the gender roles are still biblical. 

Sexism is not biblical. The bible is a record of history as well as Gods word. Just because sexism is recorded in it, does not mean God condoned it. Prostitution, rape and murder are also recorded in the bible.

Where did I state sexism I am simply stating biblical roles in the marriage, the woman is not suppost to wear the pants the man is the lead of the relationship

I see. And women always wear the pants in the west do they? - That's why you're recommending going to another country where they're still treated as second class citizens. If western women don't 'always wear the pants' then there's no need to look elsewhere.

You want a woman who is not a prude (is she willing to do ANYTHING in bed), this will eliminate almost all of the feminists

Actually this will just eliminate women with self-respect. And if neither of you respect her - then how is that going to end in any kind of healthy relationship?

No it doesent its to simply make sure you are compatable in the bedroom, women who prude out have issues, because taking care of each other sexually in ANY capacity is not rocket science (notice I said each other not just the woman taking care of the man, the man also better not prude out, saying crap like eww I dont want to lick there  ). 

Perversion is perversion. And the statement ANYTHING in the bedroom means perversion. Lust is a perversion of love, and if it leads to disrespect. If you can't tell god all about your sex life with his daughter without feeling uncomfortable, then somethings wrong.

Feminists have twisted around "self respect" to where it now has the meaning I dont have to comply with my husband because im an "equal".

No. Women have come to the conclusion (sadly, so often in opposition to people who have claimed to represent God and his word) that they actually arn't inferior to men and have a right to say no to things they disagree with as a human being of equal worth. If a woman was inferior to a man they would not have that right because they would not actually be partners in a marriage. Two equal people with different gender strengths and weaknesses that fit together to make a whole.

And also feminists consider them selves above the man in the relationship

Some women try to 'wear the pants' in a relationship, sure. Is this biblical? No. But neither is domination in authority between two partners of equal worth. To submit to domination is to encourage your partner in sin. That's actually sin in itself because you're enabling it.

they set the rules for the marriage bed
that should be set by both partners under Gods law which is based on love - and something you're both going to be discussing with him one day. To disobey God by giving in to perversion is sin.

and they wear the pants under the shroud of "being equal" and "self respect",

Sure. Some women may try to do that. But I think there's far less then men who try to dominate their wives under the shroud of 'submission' regardless.

I never said feminists were stupid they are just evil.

No woman trying to obey God or be treated with the worth that God intended her to have is evil or stupid. Hating men out of bitterness is sin. And needs to be dealt with. So does dominating and sexually using women and trying to use the bible to back it up.


If your man is beating you and talking down to you yea you need to have some self respect and leave

Actually if your man is sexually or emotionally abusing you or dominating you then it's time to leave. Till he gets his act together or just divorces you. In fact serious sexual sin in the bible (which includes perversion) is biblical grounds for divorce and remarriage. So a woman in that situation would be free to go.

but feminists have re-drawn that line.

Feminists have tried to gain equal rights through equal respect for women. Some have gone way over that line because of hatred towards men. But the basic goal is one of equality. Unless you genuinely believe that women arn't equal to men, and don't deserve the same respect, you shouldn't have a problem with that.

Does she have a high wage powerfull position, you dont want to be put into a position where she is the bread winner because if anything happens this will be used against you, you want to make sure you are the one wearing the pants

And if you refuse to marry a woman who earns more money then you - or prevent her from doing it once you are married - that just proves that you have to dominate her to 'lead' in the relationship. That isn't leadership, it's abuse.

All im saying is its a red flag, women who make alot of money are not nessicarily feminists but you better pay close attention.  Typically women in the medical profession make alot and are likely not feminists, but if they are in buisness you have to wonder how they got there, just things that make you go hmm.

So you're saying that women with drive or intelligence are more likely to be man haters then not. Can't say that I agree with you.

Does she come across as submissive or agressive

You won't respect a woman you can dominate. And she'll eventually lose respect for you  - for the same reason.

That is not true, just becuase she is submissive does not mean you should dominate her it just means she is not going to try to start wearing the pants in the future,

perhaps we should qualify the word 'submissive'. Submissive in general english means a master/servant relationship. The word in english has been translated from words in the bible that mean 'lead by example'. And 'support/encourage/get behind'. So to 'submit' in the original means for a woman to cheer her husband on in his leadership role and encourage him in decision making and being the head of the house. That does not mean giving it to sin or stupid decisions or not being worthy to say no or disagree or make your own decisions. When one is a servant and one a master - two do not become 'one' because it's impossible. However in a partnership of any two people, one has to lead. Otherwise a partnership can't work. However 'lead' does not mean 'dominate'. Or permission to.
If you look in scripture - a woman is supposed to support, get behind, etc her husband in 'everything' his role. And men are supposed to give their lives up for their wives the way that christ gave his up for the church. That means put them first. When one is always trying to support/encourage and cheer on and the other is always trying to put the interests of the other first while in their leadership positiong - you have a win/win situation. You're complelty for each others best interests.
But as soon as you start trying to use the other party, you're in trouble because you've missed the point.


she will let you be the man and make the decisions

Allowing a man to make all the decisions that concern you is domination, not love.

and take care of you like a wife should and you should love her and care for her and seriously consider her opinions.

'Seriously considering her opinions' in the context you've just stated it implies that she doesn't have the right to make her own.

Nice guys, get nice girls. Domination and perversion are not nice. Just be yourself and work on your own character. Then God will bring in the right woman when you're ready.

Way to totally twist what I have said, did I inadvertantly stumble upon a lilith fair forum with a christian lable?

lol. And who's trying to do the twisting here?

[wolflet7]

What do you think of when you hear the word "primary"?  You most likely think of it as the most important thing (which it is).  Now, when you hear "secondary" you most likely think of something BEHIND "primary".  So the order, from most important to least important, goes as follows: Primary...Secondary.  It tells us in the Bible to put God before ourselves, so what I want you to realize is that God=Primary and getting a girl=secondary.  Wherever you go, whatever you do, whatever you think, always think "primary;God" and put you "secondary;getting a girl" behind the primary. 

[rppearso]

Yes I think everyone realizes that, however, that does not mean you cant not have a primary trait in a woman you would like to see just like a primary choice of a car you would like to buy.  You dont say first is the lord Jesus Christ and then a F150, I think alot of christians get tangled into a web with this one.  Just because you like blueberrys better than raspberrys does not mean you are putting blueberrys above Jesus Christ.  I think christians have a real issue with stuff like this, you need to be able to engage in conversation on topics other than Jesus or the bible otherwise your going to alienate yourself from people.  Everybody has different priorities they are looking for in a mate and that is not wrong.

What do you think of when you hear the word "primary"?  You most likely think of it as the most important thing (which it is).  Now, when you hear "secondary" you most likely think of something BEHIND "primary".  So the order, from most important to least important, goes as follows: Primary...Secondary.  It tells us in the Bible to put God before ourselves, so what I want you to realize is that God=Primary and getting a girl=secondary.  Wherever you go, whatever you do, whatever you think, always think "primary;God" and put you "secondary;getting a girl" behind the primary. 

[chosenone]

Our priority should always be that anyone we go out with or marry is a Christian. Ater that we all have qualities that we would like in a friend or spouse, but that is no 1 becuase that is what God tells us to do.
So many peoples marriages have suffered becuase they have married a non Christian. AS the Bible says what has light to do with darkness?

[rppearso]

LOL, my marriage suffered even marrying a christian.  Christian and non-christian marriages suffer equally.  There is not supporting evidence that shows that marrying a christian will be better than marrying a non-christian.

Our priority should always be that anyone we go out with or marry is a Christian. Ater that we all have qualities that we would like in a friend or spouse, but that is no 1 becuase that is what God tells us to do.
So many peoples marriages have suffered becuase they have married a non Christian. AS the Bible says what has light to do with darkness?

[chosenone]

LOL, my marriage suffered even marrying a christian.  Christian and non-christian marriages suffer equally.  There is not supporting evidence that shows that marrying a christian will be better than marrying a non-christian.

Our priority should always be that anyone we go out with or marry is a Christian. Ater that we all have qualities that we would like in a friend or spouse, but that is no 1 becuase that is what God tells us to do.
So many peoples marriages have suffered becuase they have married a non Christian. AS the Bible says what has light to do with darkness?

HOWEVER God tells us to marry a Christian, or does what God wants not matter to you?

[rppearso]

I am researching this now, my GF was raised christian and has christian beliefs and I do believe she is saved I will dig more on this.

LOL, my marriage suffered even marrying a christian.  Christian and non-christian marriages suffer equally.  There is not supporting evidence that shows that marrying a christian will be better than marrying a non-christian.

Our priority should always be that anyone we go out with or marry is a Christian. Ater that we all have qualities that we would like in a friend or spouse, but that is no 1 becuase that is what God tells us to do.
So many peoples marriages have suffered becuase they have married a non Christian. AS the Bible says what has light to do with darkness?

HOWEVER God tells us to marry a Christian, or does what God wants not matter to you?

[chosenone]

I am researching this now, my GF was raised christian and has christian beliefs and I do believe she is saved I will dig more on this.

LOL, my marriage suffered even marrying a christian.  Christian and non-christian marriages suffer equally.  There is not supporting evidence that shows that marrying a christian will be better than marrying a non-christian.

Our priority should always be that anyone we go out with or marry is a Christian. Ater that we all have qualities that we would like in a friend or spouse, but that is no 1 becuase that is what God tells us to do.
So many peoples marriages have suffered becuase they have married a non Christian. AS the Bible says what has light to do with darkness?

HOWEVER God tells us to marry a Christian, or does what God wants not matter to you?

I find it hard to believe that you dont even know if she is saved. How long have you known each other? Dont you discuss your faith with her or offer to pray with her or talk to her about Jesus? if she is saved she would be unlikely to be sleeping with you however so it seems that she probably isnt. Are you prepared to take that risk? is her soul more important than your sexual needs or will you put them first?.

Do you know, if you stop sinning, repent, appologise to your girlfriend and tell her the wrong you have done to God and to her, she may well have enormous respect for you and may well be drawn to God. Also God will forgve you, and may well bless you by drawing her to Him so that you can eventually have a Christian marriage as God intended that doesnt start in sin.
How can she respect you if she knows that you are a christian who is openly disobeying God?

[fanuvmxpx]

I find it hard to believe that you dont even know if she is saved. How long have you known each other? Dont you discuss your faith with her or offer to pray with her or talk to her about Jesus?

She doesn't have time to talk, her mouth is full at all times.

[gwen]

I have a thought:  Maybe it's because you're praying for a girlfriend, when you should be praying for a wife.  I could be wrong, but it seems to me that if you're praying for a "temporary" solution to a lifelong need, you may not be ready to make the lifelong commitment that is marriage. And since the goal of a Christ-based relationship is marriage, you may also not be ready for a girlfriend.

Like I always told my son when he was still living at home: If you aren't ready to get married, then you aren't ready to date. And yes, since I have been born-again, I follow the same thing for myself.

[yesult]

I find it hard to believe that you dont even know if she is saved. How long have you known each other? Dont you discuss your faith with her or offer to pray with her or talk to her about Jesus?

She doesn't have time to talk, her mouth is full at all times.

[rppearso]

Sounds like a hint of jealousy lol.  Im guessing your wifes mouth is never full, its your life not myn.

I find it hard to believe that you dont even know if she is saved. How long have you known each other? Dont you discuss your faith with her or offer to pray with her or talk to her about Jesus?

She doesn't have time to talk, her mouth is full at all times.

[chosenone]

Sounds like a hint of jealousy lol.  Im guessing your wifes mouth is never full, its your life not myn.

I find it hard to believe that you dont even know if she is saved. How long have you known each other? Dont you discuss your faith with her or offer to pray with her or talk to her about Jesus?

She doesn't have time to talk, her mouth is full at all times.

rppearso please dont assume that every man has to have what you do to be happy or to even  function. You keep assuming that every man has to have anal or oral sex or look at porn to be a sane human being. WRONG.
Please dont assume that everyman has to have sex outside marriage or he is 'forced' to look at porn. Wrong again.
I have never met a man like you or who thinks like you do about this obsession with sex,whether Christian or non Christian.

[rppearso]

lol, you have slowly contorted my views ever so slightly.  I believe most men want OS but settle for one reason or another.  Every man should strive to get married to a woman he is compatable with (it is better to live in a desert than live with a quarlsome woman lol, thats in the bible), if you burn with passion and want OS then you should find a woman who likes it.  The problems that I talk about in all my posts is when a marriage occures and the woman changes on the man for the worse on a deal breaker area it causes a man to stumble (porn, sex outside of marriage etc.  This is all biblical you just choose to totally ignore it.

Sounds like a hint of jealousy lol.  Im guessing your wifes mouth is never full, its your life not myn.

I find it hard to believe that you dont even know if she is saved. How long have you known each other? Dont you discuss your faith with her or offer to pray with her or talk to her about Jesus?

She doesn't have time to talk, her mouth is full at all times.

rppearso please dont assume that every man has to have what you do to be happy or to even  function. You keep assuming that every man has to have anal or oral sex or look at porn to be a sane human being. WRONG.
Please dont assume that everyman has to have sex outside marriage or he is 'forced' to look at porn. Wrong again.
I have never met a man like you or who thinks like you do about this obsession with sex,whether Christian or non Christian.

[Wycliffes_Shillelagh]

You're probably having  problems getting a good Christian girlfriend because you won't quit talking about oral sex.

[Becki]

It really is hard and getting even harder. Now all my friends execpt for one has a girlfriend right now, and I'm the oldest out of all of them. ;_;

For the people know what they are.

OCD: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/obsessive-compulsive-disorder
GAD: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/generalized-anxiety-disorder
ADD: http://www.add-adhd.org/ADHD_attention-deficit.html
TMJ: http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temporomandibular_joint_disorder
Social Anxiety: http://www.webmd.com/anxiety-panic/guide/mental-health-social-anxiety-disorder

It appears that you haven't found your estate yet. By that, I mean that you haven't become sure of yourself, and I can tell you that people pick up on that intuitively, especially the opposite sex.

IMO, you will do much better if you can build more confidence within yourself. You have some wonderful qualities, but they seem to get buried in the overload you bear. Simplicity is a key factor when you are trying to reorganize your life.

I always point people to the Book of Ecclesiastes. It is full of do's and don'ts to 'the man who walks under the sun'.

1:2-6:9 are the don'ts.

6:10-12:12  are the do's.

Spend some time learning from God what you should and shouldn't do, and I believe it will improve your chances of finding your other half.

I am praying for you.